Sex Smart: 501 Reasons to Hold Off on Sex: A Sexuality Resource for Teenagers

Sex Smart: 501 Reasons to Hold Off on Sex: A Sexuality Resource for Teenagers

by Susan Browning Pogany

Written by a medical science journalist and parent, this book provides straightforward answers to hundreds of questions teens have about sex and relationships.


Written by a medical science journalist and parent, this book provides straightforward answers to hundreds of questions teens have about sex and relationships.

Editorial Reviews

Frank H. Boehm
"With national statistics revealing that teenage pregnancies are beginning to decline, Susan Browning Pogany's book, SEX SMART could not come at a better time. Rich in common sense, facts, and anecdotes, SEX SMART should be read by all teenages and their parents in order to continue the much needed decline in children having children.
Sex educators in schools throughout the country would do well to include this book in their class work."--Dr. Frank H. Boehm, Professor of OB/GYN, Director of Obstetrics, Vanderbilt University Medical Center.
Barbara Dafoe Whitehead
"As a science writer, Susan Browning Pogany knows her stuff. SEX SMART is based on solid scientific evidence on teenage sex and its impact on teenagers' lives and relationships. But SEX SMART goes beyond statistics and risk factors and talks about what really matters in teenage romance: love and trust. In a world where the media and marketplace are proclaiming the joys of teenage sex, SEX SMART argues for the joys and pleasures of postponing sex.
"This book tells it like it is in plain talk that teens understand. It does not scold or preach. Instead, it gives kids strategies and sound advice on how to find love without giving in to pressures to have sex. SEX SMART is the indispensable guide to successful teenage love in the 1990s. I'm buying it for every teenager I know." --Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, author of The Divorce Culture; taskforce member of the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy
Nancy Kassebaum-Baker
"SEX SMART is a thoughtful and pragmatic approach to a troubling subject. I applaud the sensitive dedication of Susan Browning Pogany in helping teens understand the value of abstinence. SEX SMART is a 'must read' for both teens and their parents."--Nancy Kassebaum Baker, United states Senate, Retired
Library Journal
These books concentrate on teen abstinence, idealizing post-adolescent marriage and "committed relationships" as the best settings for sex. The Eyres, authors of several books on parenting, including Teaching Your Children Values (LJ 3/15/93), propose telling children: "Sex is awesome and wonderful: save it for the one you love." Tips, reading selections, and sample dialogs are given for each age group, along with appropriate preparation and follow-up. Though much here is excellent, few sex educators support withholding information from young children, as the Eyres seem to recommend; and the book cannot stand alone, since many details about sex are not provided. Only for libraries with other, more detailed books, such as Mary Calderone and James Ramey's Talking with Your Child About Sex (LJ 12/15/82), Patty Stark's Sex Is More Than a Plumbing Lesson (Preston Hollow, 1991), and Stanton and Brenna Jones's Christian-based How & When To Tell Your Kids About Sex (NavPress, 1993). Pogany, a medical/science journalist, makes some good points (e.g., coitus can have devastating consequences for adolescents), and her assertions are well referenced. Nor is she preachy; rather, she aims to empower young people to reach their own goals. Still, Sex Smart is ultimately a straightforward "scare" book and is recommended only for collections with other, comprehensive teen sex books. But do buy Patti Breitman and others' excellent How To Persuade Your Lover To Use a Condom...And Why You Should (LJ 8/87).--Martha Cornog, American Coll. of Physicians, Philadelphia

Product Details

Fairview Press
Publication date:
Product dimensions:
6.12(w) x 9.14(h) x 0.54(d)
Age Range:
13 - 17 Years

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Sex is not a three-letter word for love, writes sex educator Carol Cassell. Love that is real is a developing emotion, slow and steady....[It involves] a willingness to invest time and effort in developing the potential of a relationship.1 A young man explains, I thought that sleeping together would deepen our relationship. But we just didn't know each other well enough. It turned out we were too different. I was sorry, and I felt guilty. Twenty-three-year-old Kim recalls, I was sixteen and a virgin when I started dating Brian. He was great looking, older, sophisticated. I thought about him every minute. I was completely in love. After a few weeks, we were having sex-in fact, we did it every time we had a chance to be together. At first, I was so happy being with him, but then I got scared and upset. I was afraid he would leave me, and I felt kind of guilty. Here I was sleeping with this guy, and I was starting to figure out that he didn't feel about me like I did about him. I was so sure I loved him, but I realize now that I didn't really know him. I didn't know then what it means to really know a guy. The truth is that, after a while, the biggest thing between us was sex. One night when he brought me home, he said goodbye in this kind of heavy, serious way. I could just tell he meant it was all over. I was so scared, but I couldn't, you know, talk to him about it. Can you believe it? We'd been intimate sexually all those weeks, and I still couldn't really have an intimate conversation with him about us. For months, I felt awful and depressed. I listened to this suicidal music and stared into space for hours. I was completely confused about who I was and what I had done.... Then I met Allen. I was so desperate for affection or love or attachment that I started sleeping with him after a couple of weeks. It was exciting for a while, and I told myself I loved him, but I didn't really. I just needed to feel loved. It didn't last long, and I ended up feeling even worse about myself. I really wish I hadn't had sex so young. It made me feel bad about myself, and it made me feel like I made stupid decisions. I don't know if I've really gotten over feeling bad about me. I wish I'd waited till I was older.

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