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Your dreams of sexual pleasure are about to come true. No age, time, place, or body constraints can prevent you from becoming the lover you desire to be. A bestseller around the world, Sex and the Perfect Lover has become the definitive guide to improving your sexual experience. Inside, discover how to:

  • Learn and develop sexual magnetism
  • Become an irresistible, fascinating, unforgettable lover
  • Overcome sexual blocks and inhibitions
  • Achieve multiple orgasms
  • Stimulate a woman's G-spot
  • Practice Kama Sutra techniques with the help of amazing illustrations and personal tips from the author
  • Make your relationship sacred and feel inner divinity while making love
  • Find and attract your soul mate

This book will become your eternal companion and trusted adviser -- all of your needs and doubts about eroticism will be eased by Iam's tried-and-true advice. From your first kiss to sexual ecstasy, Mabel Iam guides you along the path to an intense pleasure that only love and sex can bring.

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Library Journal
Iam here aims to present "various ways of achieving happiness and pleasure through the harmony of body and soul." Offering a philosophical approach to sexual pleasure, the author draws upon Eastern teachings but uses a writing style and terminology more accessible to a Western audience. More than a simple sex manual, this slim volume condenses vast amounts of information into short, practical techniques for integrating mental and physical energies. The book is divided into three sections. The first section focuses on preparing for love. The second section, titled "Actualization of Love," ends with a chapter illustrating various positions from the Kama Sutra. The last section deals with enhancing and maintaining love. Visualizations, exercises, and meditations are spread throughout. Iam is the author of several Spanish-language New Age books. Recommended for large public libraries or collections specializing in sex and spirituality.-Kimberley Smith, California State Univ. Lib., Fresno Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780738704081
  • Publisher: Llewellyn Worldwide, Ltd.
  • Publication date: 12/1/2003
  • Pages: 216
  • Product dimensions: 5.94 (w) x 8.96 (h) x 0.53 (d)

Meet the Author

Mabel Iam is a recognized psychotherapist, advisor, and author. Eager to share her knowledge with others, this TV and radio personality is the author of numerous self-help books on topics ranging from astrology to sexuality. A trusted source for self-help advice in her native Argentina, Mabel is now making inroads in the U.S. Hispanic and English markets.

A sought-after speaker, Mabel teaches workshops and seminars on Alchemy, angel summoning, Eastern Tao techniques, Psycho-astrology, sexual magic, and Tantra. She is a regular guest on such television programs as Despierta America and De Mañanita, and writes regularly for prestigious international magazines. Her book, ¿Qué hay detrás de tu nombre?, won the 2003 Latino Literary Book Award for Best Self-help Book at Book Expo America.

Since 2002, Mabel has taken part in several of the major international book fairs held in the U.S. In January 2004 her book, El Amante Perfecto was released in English and Portuguese. Mabel's work has been mentioned in such magazines as Latina, Library Journal, and Penthouse, and she has also been featured in Miami's El Nuevo Herald and New York's El Diario/La Prensa newspapers.

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Sex and the Perfect Lover

Tao, Tantra, and the Kama Sutra
By Mabel Iam


Copyright © 2005 Mabel Iam
All right reserved.

ISBN: 0743287991

Chapter 1: The Pleasure of the Tao and the Polarity of Sex

The Tao: The Yin and Yang of Sex

When a woman unites with her man in love, all the magical power of the universe becomes integrated with this act, which then produces miracles both in heaven and on earth.

The Union of the Feminine with the Masculine

Even though it is impossible to know the precise origin of Taoist philosophy, it is known that around the year 500 BC, Chinese scholar Lao-Tse researched and compiled its basic principles into a book that we know today as Tao Te King.

Just as the purpose of the Tao is to learn the supreme way to the self-actualization of a human being, the purpose of the Tao of a couple is to integrate love with sex and unite the male and female energies.

Representation of the Tao

The Tao is the unity of two principles: yin and yang. The symbol of yin and yang is a circle divided into two halves by an S-shaped line, with one half black and the other half white.

The circle represents the unity of the universe, consisting of the yin (black) aspects and the yang (white) aspects, inseparable in every manifestation of the whole. Within each half there is a smaller circle of the opposite color, which means that each principle contains the seed of the other. At the culminating moment of deployment and expression, each principle changes into its polar opposite so that the force of eternal equilibrium can do its work.

The Equilibrium of the Universe Depends on Polarity

According to the Tao, the universe is the product of the polarity existing within the primordial unity: rest and motion, contraction and expansion, condensation and scattering, moving backward and moving forward. From the most simple and peculiar manifestations to the most complex and universal ones, every being expresses this original polarity. The interrelationship between yin and yang generates all living things that inhabit the universe.

The Tao philosophy is based on the search for balance and the integration of opposing energy forces that are complementary to each other.

Yin and Yang

Yin energy represents the feminine: passivity, night, wetness, cold, water, and the moon. The woman, with all her sexual secretions and fluids, constitutes a yin essence that provides the necessary protection that allows the male's semen to become an embryo.

The woman contains an inexhaustible reserve of yin energy that is activated by sexual arousal. The female orgasm strengthens vital energy, improves health, and prolongs youth.

Due to the fact that a woman's sexual potential is more energetic and open, almost all texts on this subject place a greater emphasis on educating the man so both lovers can reach an equivalent level of satisfaction.

Yang energy represents the masculine: activity, day, dryness, sun, and fire. Man's sperm is a precious gift, the source of his physical health and vital energy. This vital energy will diminish unless it is compensated by an equivalent amount of female yin energy, which is why the man must seek to satisfy the woman each time he has sexual contact with her. That way, both will benefit the other during each act of lovemaking: he will strengthen his vital essence, and she will stimulate and intensify her yin essence.

According to Taoist thinking, the sexual feature of yin is slower excitation, but this also means that a woman is slower to quit at the moment when she needs more sexual stimulation. On the contrary, yang's sexual feature is easy excitability, which allows the man to achieve maximum pleasure instantly.

The man needs to learn to prolong the sexual act without reaching orgasm so that both energies can merge and fuse. By increasing the time his member remains inside the woman, he will absorb the yin essence that will in turn revitalize him.

When the man's yang force and the woman's yin force unite, they create life in the universe.

Infinite Pleasure

There are physical and mental exercises that enable a couple having sexual problems to find a balance. These ancient techniques are very effective for people who play routine, stereotyped, or rigid roles in their sexual relations, which may eventually lead to a loss of sexual desire.

First of all, lovers should work on developing the tenderness of their feelings and express them through caressing each other. Each partner must caress the other in a slow and soft manner, with yin sensitivity. In doing so, not only do the mouth and the fingers take part, but so does the whole body, including those parts that are not usually explored erotically.

While the partners caress each other, both should focus mentally on the image of a sun embracing the moon with its light beams -- two vital energies becoming integrated.

The man should excite the woman until they both reach maximum wetness in their erogenous zones. Upon achieving this yin sensation, it is time for the intervention of the yang, with the man's penetration of the woman until the couple achieves maximum pleasure.

Having completed the sexual act in a state of ecstasy, the couple must wait a few minutes and allow their bodies to relax completely. When they reach this restful state, the lovers should visualize the image of an integrated earth and sky, while holding hands and kissing at the same time.

If the lovers start caressing each other again, they may get excited anew and perform the sexual act more than twice a day.

If a couple performs these exercises every day for some time, they will successfully harmonize their yin and yang energies and will experience the highest embodiment of love.

Copyright 2003 by Mabel Iam


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Table of Contents


Acknowledgments Prologue Introduction

Part 1: Preparing for Love

1: The Pleasure of the Tao and the Polarity of Sex

2: The Supreme Way: The Tao of Spiritual Evolution Through Tantra

3: Inner Divinity, Self-Knowledge, and the Path of the Tao

4: The Goddess and the Path to the Heart

5: Sacred Space and Meditation Techniques

6: The Power of Thought in the Tao of Sexual Magic

7: Energy and Erotic Motion

8: Erotic Dance

9: The Explosive Orgasm

10: The Body and Its Colors

11: Visualizing Divine Pleasure

12: How to Reach the Core of Ecstasy

13: Preparing for the True Kama Sutra

14: Kama Sutra: The Art of Being Good Lovers

Part 2: The Realization of Love

15: The Art of Sacred Sexuality and Its Practice

16: The Pleasure of a Good Relationship

17: Erotic Intelligence

18: The Sexual Tao and Multiple Orgasms

19: Positions of the Kama Sutra

Part 3: The Expansion of Love

20: Discovering Erotic Chemistry

21: Traveling the Love Maps

22: Techniques for Being Tender

23: The Law of Loving Attraction and How to Practice It

24: Use the Knowledge of the Tao to Become an Irresistible Lover

25: Techniques for a Perfect and Effective First Time

26: Using Fragrances and Massage to Enhance Pleasure

27: Aphrodisiacs: Pleasure Foods

28: Body Zones and How to Stimulate Their Energy with Your Hands

29: Sexual Magic

30: Relationships with Love

31: Freedom: The Gift of Love

32: Formulas for Tenderness

33: How to Find YourSoul Mate

34: The Perfect Lover Makes Love with Body and Soul

Epilogue Bibliography

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 5, 2004

    This book is perfect for love

    This book is a perfect guide of meditation, the kamasutra and also a perfect approach to sexual pleasure,

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