Shine: A Physical, Emotional, & Spiritual Journey to Finding Love [NOOK Book]

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Star Jones Reynolds had done it all. College on scholarship, law school on loans, and life by faith. She had achieved a prestigious career as a lawyer and prosecutor, provided much-needed calm and insight while reporting the Rodney King and O. J. Simpson trials on television, and landed a spot cohosting one of America's most popular daytime television shows, The View. Then why was she feeling so down?

It all began when Star took a close look at herself and her life and realized ...

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Star Jones Reynolds had done it all. College on scholarship, law school on loans, and life by faith. She had achieved a prestigious career as a lawyer and prosecutor, provided much-needed calm and insight while reporting the Rodney King and O. J. Simpson trials on television, and landed a spot cohosting one of America's most popular daytime television shows, The View. Then why was she feeling so down?

It all began when Star took a close look at herself and her life and realized she wasn't happy with what she saw: obesity precluded her from crossing her legs, she needed an asthma inhaler, she couldn't fasten her own necklace, and, worst of all, she got too tired to shop -- a disaster because Star Jones Reynolds is a seriously committed shopper.

Then she realized something else: with all her extraordinary accomplishments, none of it mattered without true love. Thinking long and hard, she finally understood that she hadn't yet met the man of her dreams because she wasn't ready for him.

Star decided to make it happen. She began a personal journey to reconstitute her physical look, emotional state, and already strong spirituality. Even if she didn't find love, it would be a win-win situation because she'd emerge from the experience a healthier, happier woman -- one who could truly shine. Unless you live on another planet, you know Star succeeded in her quest and did find true love -- and it wasn't that hard at all. In Shine, she shares it all in her wise, revealing, irreverent, laugh-out-loud style.

Shine is divided into three main sections, each exploring core issues of interest to women. Part One guides women toward being their most attractive physical selves using Star's personal secrets on losing weight and finding hair, fashion, and makeup chic (inexpensively). Part Two asks tough questions about emotional preparedness for a relationship and shows you how to think like lawyers, and how to get your financial and emotional houses in order. Part Three delves into a woman's spiritual life -- discover how to talk to God no matter what your religion. Spiking the book are Star's "absolutes" -- truisms that have always worked for her and continue to give her guidance -- quizzes and self-assessment exercises that will help you focus on your particular strengths and weaknesses.

Everyone knows Star Jones Reynolds is a success story, a happy, rough-edges-to-emotional-and-financial-riches tale. Until you read this book, you won't know how she got there -- and how you can echo her triumphs and shine.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780061844492
  • Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
  • Publication date: 10/13/2009
  • Sold by: HARPERCOLLINS
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 304
  • Sales rank: 746,354
  • File size: 701 KB

Meet the Author

Star Jones Reynolds, a lawyer and former prosecutor, began hosting The View in 1997, expanding the show's commentary to law, self-esteem, race, family, education, religion, and media. She is also the author of the best seller You Have to Stand for Something, or You'll Fall for Anything. She lives with her husband in East Hampton and New York City.

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Shine

A Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual Journey to Finding Love
By Star Reynolds

HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Copyright © 2006 Star Reynolds
All right reserved.

ISBN: 0060824182

Chapter One

A Look at My (and Your) Physical Lifestyle

I decided to begin getting ready physically.

Listen -- if I didn't feel or look well physically, nothing would work and I would have a snowball's chance in hell of finding my perfect mate. Physical well-being depended very much on my general lifestyle -- my health, my energy level, my weight, the way I presented my physical self to the world. Even the clothes I wore, the friends and lovers I chose, the way I made decisions and dealt with anxiety -- all were reflected in my physical self. Too often, I'd heard and even proclaimed, I really need to find myself. Well, if I didn't know who I was by forty, it was time to get on the stick. Of one thing I was sure: I was definitely not the best I could be. You know what? It came to me that until then, I didn't think I was ready to take complete responsibility for my lifestyle, which included that physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. I was too busy vaulting over the top in my career. Some people are ready earlier -- that's all there is to it -- like my cohost Elisabeth Hasselbeck; at twenty-six she had the career, the husband, and the baby. She had a level of maturity based on personal life experiences that saw her through.

Not me -- I couldn't do it all at once. But now I had a goal: because I wanted to find someone who would be my life mate, I knew I had to work on myself -- make Star ready for him. But who was he?

Before I transformed myself physically, I needed an approximate visual image of my idea of a great future mate. So, I did something silly, but it worked. Just for fun, many years ago I started putting together a very specific, long list of what I wanted in a guy -- and believe me, it was loooooong.

Over the years, I added to the list, which ranged from height to weight, from background to intellect, from lifestyle to spirituality. One day on The View, I told my cohosts about the list. Naturally, they wanted to see it so they could make fun of me, but being a good sport, I brought it in and we talked about it on the show. I remember Barbara really taking me to task about the list.

"You'll never get it all, Star," she said. "No man can match up to this wish list."

I didn't back down; I knew what I wanted, and I kept my list. (As an aside, at our engagement party, I told everyone what Barbara had said, and I noted that I'd gotten everything but the billionaire part. "Not yet" was Al's classic response.)

I don't know what made me do this, but one day, in the middle of my own self-evaluation, I printed out the list on my computer in big, black letters, then stood at the bathroom mirror holding it right next to my body. And I asked myself: can I hold up against this man I want? The truthful answer? No. The way I looked and felt simply didn't match up to that guy. You can't ask for Denzel Washington or Clive Owen or Jimmy Smits if you're walking around looking all busted. You cannot.

Here's the deal: if you can't match up to the list, you either have to change the list or change yourself, one or the other. You have to live in the truth. I looked over my list and knew I had to live in the truth. I also knew I had the ability and, finally, the maturity -- and yes, the honesty -- to assess myself truthfully. I did just that -- checked out my lifestyle -- and came up short. For starters, I was too heavy, I was really heavy. Say it, Star -- obese, I was obese. My clothes and makeup weren't as pretty and stylish as they used to be. And I sure wasn't making the best dating choices. No Prince Charming for Star. But, I reasoned, if I worked on it, maybe there would be someone else out there for me, someone even better than Prince Charming.

Better than the prince? It could happen. I had faith.

So, let me ask you. Could you make a list like mine? Could you figure out what you really need in a wonderful man -- and what you could live without? If you want to do what Auntie Star did, the first step is to answer some vital questions, truthfully.

There is this urban legend that a woman over forty has a better chance of being killed by terrorists than getting married for the first time. I don't think the statistic is accurate . . . but the point is. Society thinks that when you hit the big 4-0 you may as well hang it up because your days are numbered. I was determined to prove this wrong. I didn't plan to change my list, so I had to change myself. I wanted love in my life, but first I needed to love my life. A man, even the ideal one on that list, couldn't do it for me. That was my job.

The Art of Self-Assessment

Self-reverence, self-knowledge, self-control,
These three alone lead life to sovereign power.

Alfred, Lord Tennyson

I may have had a lot of work to do in that job of changing myself, but I already knew those three things Tennyson talked about. It was important, yes, to revere and celebrate yourself -- who would love and honor you if you weren't proud of whom you'd become? It was equally important to be able to control yourself -- when it came to many things like overeating, overspending, and over–mouthing off. But maybe the most important trait a person could pick up in her years was self-knowledge, which included the ability to honestly assess herself so she would know where she had to change -- if her happiness depended on change.

Continues...


Excerpted from Shine by Star Reynolds Copyright © 2006 by Star Reynolds. Excerpted by permission.
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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 10, 2006

    A so-so read!

    I was a bit disappointed in this book. There was a lot of good information, but I felt the information was being put out for rich people. Most of the information on the clothing and make-up was definitely not there for the average lady. The emotional and spiritual part had some good information to think about. I also felt as though Star was REALLY bragging about her life-how good she has it. NOT everyone has the wonderful life she has and there are not very many 'Al Reynolds' out there in this world. She got a 1-in-a-million guy, with a wonderful personality, a great job, smart, and rich-but there aren't many of those out there and if they are they are all ready taken. Overall-I got a few bits of information from this book but was very disappointed in it.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 14, 2006

    Shine: A Physical, Emotional, & Spiritual Journey to Finding Love

    I don't know why so many people are angry with Star: they are quick to judge that which they don't know. I only know that this book is so sharp, so clever, so funny, so Star-like that I feel as though I know the woman, although I never met her. Star--could you be my best friend? Life would never be dull. You write like a dream and you live your life in a moral and realistic manner. I love your mom, your husband, your dad, your pastor: I love you Star. And--what a great read.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 31, 2006

    Not everyone should be a writer...

    This book will not make you shine, but grimace with anger that you wasted your money. The book is neither memoir, nor self-help, although it does claim to be both. The author is neither a writer nor an expert, although she assumes these roles. There is very little content the book is merely a collection of self-adulation recounts, platitudes and commonplaces. It abounds with ridiculousness and hypocrisy. I was hoping the author would be able to build more of a substantive argument.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 7, 2006

    Woman, is it really ... ALL ABOUT YOU?!!

    Star Jones seems like she on an ego trip with her new book and I am afraid that she is playing into the insecurities of those looking for relationships. Relationships test the ego. This is a GOOD thing! It sandpapers us and gives us humility. It seems that Star Jones and 'her rules' for finding a man only appeal to ego. 'He needs to have a credit card' 'He needs to like what you like!' 'The moment you sense he is not the one ... he is not!' Woo Hoo ... my alarms went off on that one! She even goes as far as to say she dumped her last boyfriend because he did not like sports! Did he give a good back massage? Did he do a good job cleaning the kitchen? Wow! And how boring! A person needs contrast. At first I want to listen to Star, because I too believe that you need to find someone who will appreciate you ... yet no one is going to be EVERYTHING you think you deserve. And why do you need that anyway? What insecurity are you harboring to cause you to believe you have to have 'a perfect mate?' What, to show your girlfriends and yourself that you really are ... all that and a bag of chips? I find Star's manner in how to pick a mate terribly self centered and lacking compassion. In fact, it has me feeling this is a very self serving how-to book. I also find myself feeling very sorry for the man who picks her and has to live with her when eventual life changes emerge! It seems to me that Star is molding herself into someone the media will find savvy rather than letting herself be the woman she really is on the outside ... big and beautiful. I miss the 'bigger than life' Star Jones! Come back to us girl, get off that diet and go get yourself a buffalo chicken wing!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 1, 2006

    This Woman Knows Nothing...

    What a waste of money and time. Star Jones writes her books the way she lives her life, all for show and glory. She has no inside secrets to finding love. It's all smoke and mirrors. Star, who loves to call herself a Christian, ought to visit with her pastor and learn more about spirituality. Star loves to call herself a diva and fills her life with expensive goodies. Christians do not WISH to be diva's. Save your money and make a donation to your favorite church instead. That will be money well spent.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 30, 2006

    worth the read

    I was sceptical about getting this book at first because of all the mixed reviews. A lot of people said they didn't like it because she talks a lot about herself she does but I think she's just trying to explain how she did things stating you obviously will do things your own way you are your own person and you can take her suggestions or not. In some parts she says one thing and then later says something else that's contradicting that was my only problem with the book otherwise I probably would have given it 5 stars. The start of the book I kind of skimmed and give 3 stars it's about health and nutrition most of which people probably know about but if you don't then you'll benefit from it. The middle I give 4 stars and the end 5. It's deffinintly worth the read.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 30, 2006

    now I shine, too, girlfriend!

    i have been a fan of star jones since she came into the public eye. her beauty, grace, and elegance has long inspired me. as a full-figured woman of color, i have identified with star for a long time. after reading her book and following her sage and sparkling advice, i, too, have found love. my man is gorgeous, successful, talented, and he, too, has skin the color of cooked butter. ladies, run, don't walk, to buy this book. when you have a man like mine or al in your life, you will be thanking auntie star!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 12, 2006

    Just bought it today

    Since she has been on most of the talk show programs discussing this book, I went out and got a copy of SHINE today. Thus far I've only read a few pages but so far it getting better as I read her story. The best of luck to you STAR in all of your endeavors especially since you are my sorority sister toooooo.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 12, 2006

    terrible book!

    this book is terrible! it's condescending and overly simplistic. I wished I lived in Star's world, not in reality!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 11, 2006

    Very Sad

    I really was not impressed and felt more that Mrs Reynolds is looking for validation then anything else. As she attempts to convince her readers that she has a perfect relationship, when infact it's all an obvious facade. She and Al need to move to the same country MJ moved to. Where no one knows them and don't care to know them and they can live that strange fantasy life by themselves and leave us all alone.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 11, 2006

    STAR COMES HOME!!

    There is a lot of useful advice in this book and I think there is a misperception that the book deals only with her personal life. That's not it all. The book is fun and I love all of the shopping and beauty tips. I also have seen Star at a book appearance in NYC and she doesn't seem to have forgotten where she comes from.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 4, 2006

    Sharing Star's Shine

    In this follow up to a previous book 'You Have To Stand For Something, Or You'll Fall For Anything' (also available on Barnes & Noble.com) Shine's front cover asks the question 'Is your life as good as it gets?' That's enough to get me thinking. In this book Mrs. Reynolds openly shares a revelation and an action plan that worked for her in achieving her goal of finding love. I find the book to be an easy read that I can read any chapter I choose without having to read it in the order it was written and not miss a beat. It seems to be conveniently self- paced written in plain and simple general American English. No legalese here. The book includes mini quizzes, self-assessments and a Mr. Right wish list. She evens shares which outlet malls have reasonable prices and great selections. I know because I have shopped in a few of them. Star offers basic financial tips ala hubby Mr. AL Reynolds. Throughout the book there are some 'Absolutes' that Star 'knows for sure' My favorite is: 'Freedom comes the moment truth is revealed...' She shares her 'Something for God to do box.' A box where she places all of her problems in and visually turns them over to God for His handling. As the problems are resolved God's To Do box empties out. Star Jones Reynolds is up close and personal, not claiming to be an expert she is the sister, girlfriend giving concise, common sense,sound advice and encouragement sharing the ideas and practices that worked for her. A good place to start for some and a encouraging reminder for others. For the rest I just ask Is YOUR LIFE AS GOOD AS IT GETS???????

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 31, 2006

    Disappointed!!

    Bought the book and I regret why, Miss Jones kept on writing or may I say bragging about herself and how good she got it going on, there was nothing for an average hardworking lady in modern America trying to make ends meet.Made no sense at all!!!!!!!!!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 24, 2006

    Shine: A Physical, Emotional, & Spiritual Journey to Finding Love

    This is a book that shows, finally, how deep, how wise and how funny this woman really is. She is honest and straghtforward and gives practical advice on how to reach the stars...as she has done. Make no mistake--she's a diva, and she loves that---but she also is the sweetest daughter, friend and wife. SHNEs is a book devoid of bull----. Unembarrased about her love for shopping, she shares her outlets and her smarts in getting the best for less. And if you ever wondered how to talk to God---she shows you how she does it.I love this book. I admire the woman who stands tall and proud in the wake of people who hate. It's a fab gift.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 17, 2006

    I LOVE AUNTIE STAR JONES

    I love this book.........I was in a slump for a really long time....I was walking through walmart and noticed her face on a book cover and just kept walking then the next day I was in Barnes and noble and noticed the book again.......Well let me put it to you like this....my trip to barnes and noble was supposed to be short however I began to read her book and ended up staying there for three hours.....and walking out the door purchasing seven books total within three days to share with my mother and personal friends.....I Love you star..thanks.....

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 27, 2006

    Oh Dear...

    What my dear were you thinking? You are in a new relationship. Honestly, you are. You dumped your last boyfriend because he didn't like sports. Oh boo hoo, no guy is going to love everything you like. None. I hate that you Miss Jones, are telling women a man should be perfect. Men are NOT perfect. Neither are us women. You NEED to accept someone's flaws. You NEED to find a man that will respect you and your likes and dislikes. You NEED a man that will be honest and devoted. You NEED to use COMMON SENSE. Buying this book would not be common sense ladies. Oh and by the way Miss Jones, you had to change your appearance and become rich before a man would marry you. I really don't think you should give advice to anyone.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 26, 2006

    Is she kidding?!?

    Talk about talking about yourself. It's great that she has plenty of self confidence..but this book goes no place, real quick. Keep your day job. It doesn't even fall into the memoir arena.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 13, 2006

    April Fools All Year Round

    This book provides less contact with reality than a WWE pay-per-view. Star Jones, the girthy shameless freebie-grubber, giving life advice to us little people. All for a price of course. Since she has no shame - and no sense of reality, based on this book - anyone who buys it should feel a deep sense of shame of their own. Buy it only for a book full of unintentional comedy... if you can stand being annoyed on virtually every page.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 10, 2006

    YOU GO STAR !!!!!!!!

    I am so glad star jones is a sister who knows how to get what she wants! This girl deserves the best because she is the best! I look for forward to seeing star do bigger and greater things! thank you , star , for writing the book. god bless you.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 8, 2006

    Shine

    I love her book. I love Mrs. Jones-Reynolds, but why will she not share her weight loss secret with her fans.

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