Theoretically, ending a painful relationship should be decisive, but many of us anguish back and forth, never quite resolving our feelings about people we once loved for who don't seem to care about us. This new book by two communication specialists is designed to address specifically the differences between a healthy, yet difficult relationship and one that is beyond repair. Should I Stay or Should I Go? not only answers its title question; it offers valuable pointers about the positive steps you can to avoid rebounding back to ex. Life-changing counsel for women and men on the ropes.
Should I Stay or Should I Go?: A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can--and Should--be Savedby Lundy Bancroft, JAC Patrissi, Jac Patrissi
In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward—with or without/i>/b>/i>
A guide to making the ultimate relationship decision from the author of Why Does He Do That?
In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward—with or without their partners.
Women involved in chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationships will learn to:
• Tell the difference between a healthy-yet-difficult relationship and one that is really not working
• Recognize the signs that their partner has a serious problem
• Stop waiting to see what happens-and make their own growth the top priority
• Prepare for life without their partner-even as they keep trying to make the relationship work
“Bancroft has opened a window into the thinking of abusive men, and his book helps open a door out of abusive relationships.”—Gavin de Becker, New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Fear and Fear Less
“This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men.”—Jay G. Silverman, PhD, director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health
“Jargon-free analysis is frequently broken up by interesting first-person accounts and boxes that distill in-depth information into simple checklists. Bancroft’s book promises to be a beacon of calm for many storm-tossed families.”—Publishers Weekly
“Bancroft boldly asks—and brilliantly answers—the most important questions of all: Why do so many men abuse women? What can be done about it? This book is desperately needed and long overdue.”—Jackson Katz, creator of the award-winning video Tough Guise: Violence, Media and the Crisis in Masculinity
“This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended.”—Library Journal
“At last—the straight scoop on men who abuse women. This is a book not just for abused women and domestic violence professionals, but for everyone who wonders why there’s so much violence in America. Read it.”—Ann Jones, author ofWhen Love Goes Wrong and Next Time, She’ll Be Dead
“Bancroft helps women who feel trapped in unhealthy relationships make sense out of what is happening.”—Sarah Buel, JD, codirector, Domestic Violence Clinic, and lecturer, University of Texas Law School
“A compelling read about a tough topic. What you read here will come back to you long after you put the book down.”—Angela Browne, author of When Battered Women Kill
“An informative and necessary read.”—Susan Weitzman, PhD, author of Not to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages
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- 18 Years
Meet the Author
Lundy Bancroft has over twenty-five years of experience in the fields of abuse, trauma, and recovery. He has published five books, including the bestseller Why Does He Do That?, Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?, When Dad Hurts Mom, The Batterer as Parent, and Should I Stay of Should I Go?. Lundy has worked with over 1000 abusive men in his counseling groups. He has also served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness, and has presented to 350 audiences across the U.S. and abroad.
JAC Patrissi is the founder and former director of the Vermont Victim Assistance Academy. She facilitates the Growing a New Heart Retreat series for women healing from destructive relationships.
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This is by far the best book about abusive relationships that I've ever read. It is full of great advice and good ideas for finding peace and finding yourself again after abuse. It's more than just a book to read; it's practically an interactive book, with lots of exercises that really get to the heart of any situation. I've read it twice, recommended it frequently, and am just about to purchase yet another copy for a friend of mine.
This book gives options, questions and online even has work for your partner if they are willin. It guides you to examine and repair your relationship. If thats niot possible itprepares you to move forward.
I read this book in 4 days. It is better to take it in small steps. For me it enabled me to take a look at things and set boundaries for change. My relationship was annoying but not trxtbook abusive. So its kind of a guide and if you take steps to make things heslthy and it doesnt work..at least you know you did take those steps before you leave.
Lundy is a leading expert in teaching about abuse. If you are a woman who even suspects slightly that she is in a controlling, uneven, abusive relationship - this book is a wealth of help. Well spoken and studied, the teachings are excellent, but relevant to an abused female only. I tried reading it through, but found it was not applicable to female abusers with a male victim. There are just so many hardwired and cultural differences between men and women, that the causes, expression, methods, treatment, and solutions are too different for a book with this topic. IF they ever get around to properly addressing male victims of abuse, I look forward to reading what books come as a result.