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Should I Stay or Should I Go?: A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can--and Should--beSaved [NOOK Book]

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A guide to making the ultimate relationship decision from the author of Why Does He Do That?

In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships ...
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Should I Stay or Should I Go?: A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can--and Should--beSaved

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Overview

A guide to making the ultimate relationship decision from the author of Why Does He Do That?

In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward-with or without their partners.

Women involved in chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationships will learn to:

Tell the difference between a healthy-yet-difficult relationship and one that is really not working Recognize the signs that their partner has a serious problem Stop waiting to see what happens-and make their own growth the top priority Prepare for life without their partner-even as they keep trying to make the relationship work
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Theoretically, ending a painful relationship should be decisive, but many of us anguish back and forth, never quite resolving our feelings about people we once loved for who don't seem to care about us. This new book by two communication specialists is designed to address specifically the differences between a healthy, yet difficult relationship and one that is beyond repair. Should I Stay or Should I Go? not only answers its title question; it offers valuable pointers about the positive steps you can to avoid rebounding back to ex. Life-changing counsel for women and men on the ropes.

Publishers Weekly
Relationships usually reach the point where one partner must decide whether to leave or keep trying to make it work. This decision becomes more difficult as women (the book's target audience) negotiate relationships with partners who are abusive, mentally ill, addicted to drugs or alcohol, or seriously immature. This comprehensive book helps women learn how to establish boundaries, recognize the signs of these behaviors, decide how much they want to support their partners through their personal growth and finally, if they decide to leave, how to do so safely and effectively. Bancroft (Why Does He Do That?) and women's advocate Patrissi provide checklists that highlight behavioral differences between unhealthy relationships and those with normal communication and negotiation patterns. Though they briefly touch on the possibility that the woman is the problematic half, the book focuses on men with demonstrable issues. Women needing to check in objectively on their relationship's health will find this book quite useful, but those looking to improve an otherwise decent relationship will find scant details. (Nov.)
Library Journal
Writing with the abused woman in mind, domestic violence specialists Bancroft (Why Does He Do That?) and Patrissi (founder, Vermont Victim Assistance Acad.) have written a comprehensive book that readers in troubled relationships can use to assess whether to stay or leave and steps for getting out. The authors help readers analyze the root issues—immaturity, addiction, mental health—and determine the gravity of the problem. They then guide them through setting rules for changing a salvageable relationship and even prepare them for what to expect when the relationship improves. The last section of the book details how to begin a new period of freedom, choose a new partner, and create a new relationship. Excellent guidance from respectable sources.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781101478820
  • Publisher: Penguin Group (USA)
  • Publication date: 11/1/2011
  • Sold by: Penguin Group
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 432
  • Sales rank: 102,265
  • File size: 614 KB

Meet the Author

Lundy Bancroft has spent the last fifteen years of his career specializing in domestic abuse and the behavior of abusive men and is considered one of the world’s experts on the subject. He is the author of journal articles on abuse that have appeared in The New England Journal of Medicine and The Journal of Contemporary Psychology. The former codirector at Emerge, the nation’s first program for abusive men, Bancroft now practices in Massachusetts while training various state and judicial agencies in dealing with domestic abuse situations.
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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 17, 2012

    This is by far the best book about abusive relationships that I'

    This is by far the best book about abusive relationships that I've ever read. It is full of great advice and good ideas for finding peace and finding yourself again after abuse. It's more than just a book to read; it's practically an interactive book, with lots of exercises that really get to the heart of any situation. I've read it twice, recommended it frequently, and am just about to purchase yet another copy for a friend of mine.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 5, 2011

    Excellent!

    This book gives options, questions and online even has work for your partner if they are willin. It guides you to examine and repair your relationship. If thats niot possible itprepares you to move forward.

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 24, 2013

    Good for anyone to read

    I read this book in 4 days. It is better to take it in small steps. For me it enabled me to take a look at things and set boundaries for change. My relationship was annoying but not trxtbook abusive. So its kind of a guide and if you take steps to make things heslthy and it doesnt work..at least you know you did take those steps before you leave.

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