Side by Side: On Having a Gay or Lesbian Sibling

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In this first-of-its-kind book, Andrew Gottlieb, author of Out of the Twilight: Fathers of Gay Men Speak and Sons Talk About Their Gay Fathers: Life Curves, continues his landmark exploration of family and sexuality. In Side by Side, 18 men and women from varying religious and economic backgrounds share, in plain language that is easily accessible to most adolescents and adults, the experience of what it was like to find out about their sibling's homosexuality and how that knowledge affected them over time. Some of their perspectives will surprise you; many will move you. What they have to say is revealing—about themselves, about the nature of sibling relationships, and about the role of their generation within the larger family.

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Marc E. Vargo
WARM, INSIGHTFUL, AND WELL-WRITTEN, this is a valuable text not only for clinicians and researchers, but also for those brothers and sisters, gay and straight alike, who wish to learn more about preserving their family bonds. An outstanding contribution to LGBT family studies. . . . A work of humanity and grace, this book GIVES A VOICE TO THE BROTHERS AND SISTERS OF GAY MEN AND WOMEN, a group whose unique perspective has seldom been explored in print. Written by siblings themselves, the text's essays reveal the complex and very human issues that so often emerge among family members having dissimilar sexual orientations.
—(Marc E. Vargo, MS, Author of Noble Lives: Biographical Portraits of Three Remarkable Gay Men Glenway Wescott, Aaron Copland, and Dag Hamarskjöld and Acts of Disclosure: The Coming-Out Process of Contemporary Gay Men
Jerry J. Bigner PhD
Jerry J. Bigner, PhD, Professor Emeritus, Department of Human Development and Family Studies, Colorado State University; Editor, Journal of GLBT Family Studies
Andrew Gottlieb has done it again. By providing us with new material that sheds light on the family ties of gays and lesbians, he helps us in innumerable ways, especially those who did not find acceptance, love, support, and understanding in our families of origin. The stories in this illuminating text demonstrate how healthy family relationships should be and, simultaneously, serve as a source of where to begin the study of sibling relationships of gays and lesbians, an area severely lacking in the research literature. Most important, these stories put a face on sexual orientation issues as well as provide excellent examples of the possibilities that exist in the context of this special relationship.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781560234647
  • Publisher: Taylor & Francis
  • Publication date: 12/28/2004
  • Series: Haworth Gay and Lesbian Studies
  • Pages: 160
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.60 (h) x 0.60 (d)

Table of Contents

About the Editor
Introduction (Andrew R. Gottlieb)
1. Jigsaw (Christian Webb)
2. I Was the First to Know (Ariana Lee)
3. Missing Pieces (Erin Michael Starr)
4. A Farmer’s Daughter (Kaye Lewis Cook)
5. There and Back (Amber Hannah Love)
6. Like My Brother (Meg Weber)
7. A Lesson Learned (Tom Nelson)
8. More Than Family (Shari Hanofee)
9. A Road Less Traveled (Lisa B. Lewis)
10. Step-by-Step (Luke Markert)
11. Sara and I (Kate Boesser)
12. Speak No Evil (Brad Randall)
13. My Sister’s Closet (Meredith Greenfield Siegel)
14. Knowing Sheila (Maggi Sullivan)
15. The Older Kids (Tess Russo)
16. Look What You’ve Done to Me (Terry Dolney)
17. Common Threads (Ann McWhorter)
18. The Puzzle (Brian Watts)
Additional Reading
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