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Signs of Life: A Memoir of Dying and Discovery
     

Signs of Life: A Memoir of Dying and Discovery

by Tim Brookes
 

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"For a nation obsessed with the happy ending, we give remarkably little thought to our own," writes journalist Tim Brookes. "Our fictions are full of the desire to shape these final mythic moments — the good dying peacefully, or tragically, the bad falling from a great height onto sharp objects, the death perfectly or ironically illustrating the quality and

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"For a nation obsessed with the happy ending, we give remarkably little thought to our own," writes journalist Tim Brookes. "Our fictions are full of the desire to shape these final mythic moments — the good dying peacefully, or tragically, the bad falling from a great height onto sharp objects, the death perfectly or ironically illustrating the quality and virtue of the life. Yet in real life we'll do anything to avoid even mentioning death, let alone anticipating it. The only encouragement we get to plan for our death is from life insurance companies who will go bankrupt if we don't."

Brookes initially intended to follow a methodical plan in order to gain insight into the mystery of our final days. He would volunteer at a local hospice to learn all he could about this growing movement — one that promotes a new level of emotional and physical care for the dying and that has become a powerful alternative to the often dehumanizing experience of death in a hospital or nursing home. He would also interview patients and experts in hospice care in hopes of limning the difficult decisions imminent death brings to the surface.

But Brookes's plans changed shape dramatically when, shortly after he'd begun research for his book, his mother called to report her diagnosis of terminal pancreatic cancer. What began as an investigative report evolved to embrace the author's intimate account of meeting — and accepting — his mother's death on its own terms. Slowly Brookes began to fill in the outlines of what he'd learned about hospice with the subtle shadings of his mother's experiences. Abstractions about death with dignity, the role of hope, and the need forfamily became powerful and immediate realities. Yet amid the sorrows came unexpected and joyful signs of life: a reconnection with long-forgotten relatives, a new opportunity to get to know his mother more deeply than ever before, and even laughs as the whole family struggled through a journey we will all take one day.

Signs of Life blends insightful reportage of a revolutionary program for helping the dying and a son's frank account of coping with the fears, concern, and love he holds for his dying mother and his growing appreciation of mortality. Brookes discovered that the hospice experience imbued his mother's dying with profound meaning; her death and the process of grieving enabled his family to grow closer together even as they came to recognize the levels of distance among them.

With intimacy and eloquence, Tim Brookes has written a deeply personal travel guide for the road that lies ahead. While not shying away from the difficulties of such a time, Signs of Life shows us that some of the most important revelations and changes are possible only near the end of life, when not only the dying but the survivors are completing a journey towards the deepest intimacy they may ever have known, a journey of discovering and letting go, and of coming home.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
Freelance journalist Brookes (Catching My Breath: An Asthmatic Explores His Illness) had begun an investigation into the growing hospice movement, which advocates alleviating pain and involving patients in their own dying process, when he learned that his mother, who lived in England, had been diagnosed with terminal cancer. Although he reports here on his mainly positive view of hospice care, he interweaves his impressions with a haunting account of how he, his brother and two sisters (also in England) coped with their mother's illness. Brookes brings his mother's strong, independent spirit to life and vividly describes how dealing with her impending death brought problems as well as a renewed intimacy to their relationship on the two occasions he flew to England to visit her. The family dynamics among the siblings demonstrate how people cope very differently with grief. Brookes presents an effective argument against the societal denial of death and praises the hospice movement for giving the dying both control and comfort. Author tour. (Mar.)
Kirkus Reviews
The news that his mother is dying of cancer transforms a journalist's inquiry into the growing hospice movement—what might have been a full-fledged investigative report becomes a moving, highly personal memoir.

Brookes, who teaches writing at the University of Vermont and whose essays are heard frequently on National Public Radio, demonstrated his skill at weaving reporting and personal experience into a seamless whole in his exploration of asthma (Catching My Breath, 1994). Here the personal story takes clear precedence. When Brookes began his research, he decided he needed to see a dead body and arranged to view an embalmed cadaver awaiting dissection in a laboratory. It was an unsettling experience. Months later, he was called to the bedside of his dying mother at a hospice in England. Between these two charged events, Brookes learned a great deal about life at its extreme, the needs of the dying, our fear of death, the differences between suffering and pain, the limits of palliative care, and the gap between hospice philosophy and real-life practice. An exile, he also learned a great deal about what home and family meant to him. From time to time, there's a hint of what the book might have been had circumstances been different. As a reporter, Brookes looks at the hospice movement with a far more critical eye than hospice doctors do in their own writings (see Michael Kearney, Mortally Wounded, p. 1996, and Ira Byock, Dying Well, 1996). Noting its persistent confusion over the nature of its spiritual mission, he comments that the hospice movement's "graceful New Age ecumenical dance" is likely to be pulled apart by the stronger forces of medical science and established religion.

An affecting memoir by a talented writer that leaves the reader regretting that he did not probe even more widely and deeply into the nature and role of the hospice.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780812924688
Publisher:
Crown Publishing Group
Publication date:
02/25/1997
Edition description:
1 ED
Pages:
269
Product dimensions:
6.02(w) x 8.66(h) x 1.06(d)

Meet the Author

Tim Brookes, perhaps best-known as a long-time commentator on National Public Radio, researched issues involving death and hospice care at a time when his efforts were intertwined with care for his dying mother. The resulting book has become a classic on death and dying-practical considerations as well as the search for meaning in life and death.

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