Silent Grief Living in the Wake of Suicide: Revised Edition / Edition 2

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Silent Grief is a book for and about "suicide survivors" - those who have been left behind by the suicide of a friend or loved one. Author Christopher Lukas is a suicide survivor himself - several members of his family have taken their own lives - and the book draws on his own experiences, as well as those of numerous other suicide survivors. These personal testimonies are combined with the professional expertise of Henry M. Seiden, a psychologist and psychoanalytic psychotherapist. The authors present information on common experiences of bereavement, grief reactions and various ways of coping. Their message is that it is important to share one's experience of "survival" with others and they encourage survivors to overcome the perceived stigma or shame associated with suicide and to seek support from self-help groups, psychotherapy, family therapy, Internet support forums or simply a friend or family member who will listen. Silent Grief gives valuable insights into living in the wake of suicide and provides useful strategies and support for those affected by a suicide, as well as professionals in the field of psychology, social work, and medicine.

"...the authors, a psychologist and a man who lost loved ones to suicide, explain that survivors are not alone in their feelings of grief and guilt and need to communicate those feelings in order to move on with life."

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Lukas and Seidena television writer/producer (and suicide survivor) and a clinical psychologistshow how the emotional aftermath of suicide differs from that of normal bereavement not only in duration but because of the hidden implication of responsibility and higher risk of suicide for those relatives left behind. Lay helpers will find useful the discussion of rules for listening and refocusing and the comments about prevention of romanticization and contagion among adolescent survivor peer groups. A sensible popular manual on ``postvention'' of suicide and the dangers of unspoken sorrow and anger, with a useful appendix on self-help and mutual-support groups.William Abrams, Portland State Univ. Lib., Ore.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781843108474
  • Publisher: Kingsley, Jessica Publishers
  • Publication date: 3/15/2007
  • Edition description: Revised
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 176
  • Sales rank: 689,507
  • Product dimensions: 6.10 (w) x 9.20 (h) x 0.50 (d)

Table of Contents

Preface to the 1997 Edition
Introduction: Lukas's Story 3
Ch. 1 What Happens to the Survivor After Someone Commits Suicide 13
Ch. 2 Emotional Reactions to Suicide 27
Ch. 3 A Family's Story 43
Ch. 4 The Bargain: A Deal We Make with Life 53
Ch. 5 Bargains: The Long Good-bye 59
Ch. 6 Bargains: Scapegoating 65
Ch. 7 Bargains: "I Am Guilty; I Am a Victim" 73
Ch. 8 Bargains: Cutting Off 79
Ch. 9 Bargains: A Miscellany 91
Ch. 10 The Saddest Bargain: "Because You Died, I'll Die" 103
Ch. 11 The Grand Bargain: Silence 111
Ch. 12 Reactions to an Adolescent's Suicide 121
Ch. 13 Responding 135
Ch. 14 Giving Help by Listening 145
Ch. 15 Getting Help by Talking 155
Ch. 16 Talking with Children 167
Ch. 17 Living with Suicide - Some Stories About Responding 183
Epilogue: Lukas's Story - A Personal Summary 195
App Where to Find Self-Help Groups 209
Bibliography 241
Notes 245
Index 249
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