Silent Struggler

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780970465009
  • Publisher: Helpers in Ministries
  • Publication date: 12/1/2000
  • Pages: 268
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 0.61 (d)

Table of Contents

1 Bad News 1
2 A Life of Dedication and Perfection 7
3 MS Rears its Ugly head 13
4 Elected by Acclamation as President of the KBC 21
5 From Walking to a Wheelchair 25
6 Encourage and Allow Independence 35
7 It's Different When It's You 43
8 What Do Caregivers Do? 47
9 Dealing With the Desire to Abandon Ship 55
10 Overcoming the Paranoia of Pushing a Wheelchair 59
11 A Complete Change of Lifestyle 63
12 What Happens to Sex? 69
13 Wild Mood Swings 77
14 Coping With the Suicidal Threats of the Patient 87
15 Coping with Stress 95
16 Exercise 101
17 Be Careful About What You Eat 109
18 You Must Have A Life 115
19 Let Others Help 121
20 What People Expect of You as a Caregiver 129
21 Down They Go and Everybody Else with Them 137
22 What About Guilt 141
23 Trust and Its Impact on Relationships 145
24 Medical Costs 153
25 Housing Becomes a Major Issue 161
26 Traveling with the Patient 165
27 Shopping for my Wife 171
28 You Better Have a Sense of Humor 177
29 Going Out to Eat 181
30 Patience 187
31 Fear 191
32 Trying Everything 195
33 There is Always Somebody Worse 201
34 Who Would Have Thought? 205
35 How Is Karen Doing? 209
36 Try to Understand 215
37 The Dying Process 219
38 For Karen 227
39 From 1998 to November 2000 247
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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 5, 2003

    To: 'disappointing'

    This is to the individual who DISAPPOINTINGLY gave this book a 1-star rating. I am in the health field, and I can tell you that those who are faced with a situation similar to that of what Mr. Mollette was facing, know that no one can care for their loved one better than themselves. AND, he is right!!!! Health care is very disappointing in many ways. When it comes to assuring what your loved one gets the best possible care, the realization is that you can ALWAYS deliver the best, possible care yourself. So, unless YOU'VE faced that situation, don't be so damned judgemental!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 3, 2002

    The Voice of Experience

    Dr. Mollette shares his experiences, after his wife was diagnosed with MS, with clarity and refreshing honesty. He gives down-to-earth advice for care givers in an open and compassionate manner. This book is a must read for care givers and disability advocates alike. It will shed light on the every day realities for people who suffer from an illness/disability and those who love & care for them.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 27, 2001

    A Poignant Memoir of a Caregiver's Struggles

    'Silent Struggler' is the honest, factual account of a caregiver. When Dr. Mollette's wife was diagnosed with multiple Sclerosis every aspect of their life and their childrens' lives was changed irrvocably. Dr. Mollette wrote this very personal account of his struggle dealing with his wife's illness because he felt there was a desparate need to tell those (caregivers) in his situation, that they are not alone in their struggle; he understands what it means to live day to day with someone you love and watch helplessly as their condition worsens. Dr. Mollette is honest and forthright about himself and the problems he's encountered and the mistakes he's made along the way. His honesty permeates throughout the book. He's frank and forthcoming about his experiences with the medical community as well, both good experiences and bad experiences. 'Silent Struggler' is a wonderful book, and I say this without reservation. Other than Dr. Mollette himself, I can quite honestly say that I have read and reread 'Silent Struggler' more times than any other person, because I edited this book. And I'm quite proud of that fact. All the reader need do is to pick up the book, read it without preconceived notions of what they think it should be...and the honesty and sincerity and the deep, heartfelt struggle of a caregiver's life will come flooding out. 'Silent Struggler' is an exceptional book. I can't recommend it highly enough.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 4, 2001


    Although my heart goes out to Dr. Mollette, I have to say I was confused by the purpose of the book. If it was indeed to encourage and help those in similar situations, I think that could have been best served by including suggestions from the health care field instead of bashing them. Although his struggles have been great, one instance does not an expert make. How about enlisting the aid of someone in the healthcare field who deals daily with patients who require ongoing care and getting some recommendations from them, if nothing else so someone in a similar situation does not make the same mistakes he admittedly made. It's also important to remember that people deal with situations differently and not all care receivers will react in the same way or face the same situations. It would be helpful to have a wider array of information available than just one incident.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 22, 2001

    Written from experience

    Glenn Mollette's 'Silent Struggler' strikes all the chords inside every caregiver who reads this touching work. He examines the need for physical and emotional well-being-- from the caregiver's perspective, and provides scriptural, and common sense instruction for surviving the horrible experience of caring for a loved one stricken with a debilitating, and ultimately fatal disease. Overcoming anger and guilt, and taking care of your own mental, physical, and emotional self are the real strong points in the book. He's been there, and you will identify with his personal story and draw comfort from his selection of scriptures. I highly ecommend it!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 12, 2001


    Glenn Mollette's touching and painful story is a 'must read book' for anyone who cares for another person. I will recommend this book to every caregiver in my congregation!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 5, 2001

    A wonderful book, alive with honesty and heart-felt emotion. A must read!

    I was completely captivated by this book. I applaud Dr. Mollette for his honesty and his truthful protrayal of what life is like for the caregiver of a chronically ill loved one. The book is beautifully and disturbingly written. I can't recommend 'Silent Struggler' highly enough! You will love it.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 31, 2001


    I could not put this book down. Thank you. Will you write a sequel?

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