We so easily grow impatient while waiting for our perfect match, the person of our dreams, the one we were meant to marry. We refuse to trust God for His timing in our relationships. As time goes by, anxiety and doubt begin to creep into our hearts. And far too often, we chase after our own ideas of happiness, seeking to grasp a lifelong relationship on our own terms. The consequences are painful, sometimes leading to sexual immorality, broken ...
We so easily grow impatient while waiting for our perfect match, the person of our dreams, the one we were meant to marry. We refuse to trust God for His timing in our relationships. As time goes by, anxiety and doubt begin to creep into our hearts. And far too often, we chase after our own ideas of happiness, seeking to grasp a lifelong relationship on our own terms. The consequences are painful, sometimes leading to sexual immorality, broken marriages, insecurity and self-doubt, or a lifetime of regret.
God never intended for us to live this way. Miser writes that His plan for us was set into motion before time began. According to Genesis 2, He never intended for us to be alone; He created us to exist in relationships with others. But just as we are His, our relationships are also His—designed by God to develop in His timing.
Written to single Christians who are struggling with frustration, discouragement, and sorrow over the lack of a mate Miser shares, “I deeply regret chasing my own desires rather than waiting for the man God prepared for me. I chose to live in a sinful relationship for more than eight years, but God brought me out of the slimy pit of promiscuity. I probably missed out on many blessings as a result of my waywardness. Nevertheless, God chose to work in my life in a very extraordinary way after I fully surrendered to Him.”
Miser's ultimate goal for Single Woman Seeks Perfect Man: Experiencing the Consequences of Unhealthy Relationships is to encourage believers to wait patiently for the relationship God plans to bring into their lives. In it Miser shares her personal story, finding that both men and women never fail to respond—they identify with her struggles. Also, several Christians share their unique stories of bondage and freedom, sin and grace. Each one has fought through a multitude of issues in their lives and nearly every person who reads this book will find themselves reflected in one of these stories.
Interspersed with these testimonies are studies of eight biblical men and women, each one tied with a scriptural truth that relates to the relationships God intends for us. For instance, a chapter on David talks about the consequences of sexual sin.
Primarily written for Christian singles, I expect that the book I propose will address those who have struggled in an unhealthy relationship. Those who are single and looking for a relationship, who are in negative relationships, and who are involved in sex outside of marriage will all find encouragement that they are not alone. They will encounter biblical truth about the kind of relationship God desires for each one of us, and they will receive practical advice about moving away from the past and letting go of relationships that do not honor God.
Why is there a need for this book?
The Barna research group indicates that more than twenty-six million adults have extramarital sexual relations each week. More than half of adults live together before marriage. Nearly ninety percent of adults have sex before marriage. Shockingly, the percentage of Christians engaging in these behaviors is nearly the same as that of non-Christians.
Women need to know that even though our society accepts all kinds of sinful behavior, God intends so much more for us. We can move beyond the decisions we’ve made in the past and choose to pursue God’s best. This book delves into biblical models for our relationships, offering solid teaching and practical application.
What makes this book different?
This book is incredibly personal. Far from being the usual “how-to” or self-help book on relationships, this book shares the stories of people who have struggled in their relationships and overcome. Through the lives of biblical and modern-day men and women, every single Christian who reads this book will be able to identify and emulate victory.
Also, this book combines personal stories, biblical teaching, Bible study materials, and Scriptures in a unique manner. It is designed for successful use by individuals, small groups, and support groups.
A Graduate Cum Laude from Midwestern State University with a degree in
Interdisciplinary studies, Dani Miser spent several years as a schoolteacher. Later, she partnered with a church to open a daycare center and private academy. As director and assistant principal, she trained teachers and developed her teaching skills.
After meeting her husband, Cody, and having her first two children, Dani began her second career as a full-time mom. Soon after the birth of her third child, she and Cody began working with CARES, an apartment-based outreach. With this platform, Dani began and lead a weekly Bible study that grew to sixty participants. She and her husband partnered with several churches to organize community projects on a weekly basis. The Misers received commendations from the Arlington Police Department as well as CARES by Apartment Life.
After completing their two year CARES assignment, The Misers moved and now reside in Wichita Falls, Texas where she and Cody were gifted the opportunity to pursue adopting their fourth child. Currently, Dani homeschools their children and teaches at the local homeschool coop. She recently founded and directs Miser Ministries, a business whose mission is to point others to an everlasting relationship with Jesus Christ. She makes and sells individually gift-wrapped hand-crafted prayer journals and craft kits for group use. Speaking on a regular basis; she gives her personal testimony as well as leads journal crafting classes.
The ultimate goal for Single Woman Seeks Perfect Man: Facing the Consequences of Unhealthy Relationships is to encourage believers to wait patiently for the relationship God plans to bring into their lives. In that, Dani and Cody have had the privilege of sharing their testimony with hundreds of people in the last few years. Their message of encouragement to single adults regarding sexual purity and godly relationships has changed numerous lives.
Dani has been featured internationally on Watchmen Broadcasting's By The Book with Dorothy Spaulding and on The Drew Marshall Show. She has also been a guest on Teen Talk Radio, WATC-TV Atlanta, WKRA's Xtreme Morning Show, and has been a featured writer at CBN online for her article Breaking Up Is Hard To Do, But Possible. Her article The Top 10 Excuses You Make To Stay in A Bad Relationship, And the Reasons You Should Stop Making Them has been featured at The Youth Worker Journal Online and others.