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As I read the stories in Single Women - Alive and Well!, I think about theimportance of the individuation process in each of our lives--that process of finding out who we are as individuals. The psychiatrist Carl Jung spoke of this at length in his writings. The need for us to go on such a journey of self-discovery is especially evident at mid-life, he says. But it can happen at any time, as long as it does. If we avoid who we really are and what our true longings are, we stagnate, we die inside. We may even become bitter "grumpy old women."
The women in Single Women - Alive and Well! are in the midst of this important journey, for it never ends once it has begun. Once they have shed their old modes of transportation, they will find better and better ways to move through life. They may not go fast or by first class, but they will be content with the road they have chosen, even if they have to change directions several times to find their way. Throughout their wanderings, much as the heroines of great legends, they display courage, creativity, and endurance.
The writers in Single Women - Alive and Well!, whether they are single now or not, realize that it has been vital for each of them to uncover their talents, dreams, and ambitions. As we come to know who we are--including our feelings, desires, and abilities--our self-esteem grows, and we know what really matters is Love. Not the romantic kind we used to think would fulfill us, although it certainly can be a wonderful part of life, but a love of self that allows us to love others.
It is this kind of love with which we do not just the big things in life for ourselves and others, but the small things as well. It may be cleaning out a closet or buying a new sweater. It may be calling a friend to have lunch or go to a movie. It may be writing a poem or writing in a journal. It may simply be showing up for work and giving it your all, or deciding to change careers. It may be forgiving the people in our lives who have hurt us the most. It is always about forgiving ourselves. Ultimately, the love we give cannot help but come back to us, in a way we never imagined before we packed our bags and kicked the dust off the feet of our old lives.
Single Women - Alive and Well! only gives us a glimpse of what can happen once a woman starts on her personal journey into self-knowledge. The stories included here represent just small pieces of the writers' lives, yet critical parts showing they have "slain their dragons" and then shared their experiences with the world, not caring what other people think, only that they think for themselves. We are in danger as women, as individuals, and therefore as a society, when we allow others to do our thinking for us. We must not just walk to the "beat of a different drummer," but find our own beat, even if we have no drummer.
Posted August 13, 2001
This book has a powerful message to all who read it, whether Single, Married, Male, or Female. The short inspiring stories remind us all of the importance of each happening in our lives. I will never again look at a single rose the same. Bravo Women!!! You have encouraged and enlighted me.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted August 11, 2001
It was a privilege to have my story, 'Just One American Beauty Rose,' included with the other stories in 'Single Women: Alive and Well.' Dianne's 'The Lavender Dress' left me wanting more of the story.. what happened next? Other stories revealed fears, hopes, betrayals, wins and losses, all with great feeling. The reader can easily identify with each story. Each tale shows that single women can overcome adversity, grow out of abusive relationships, and be the best that they can be. Thanks to Ann and Dianne for seeing this project through to completion. The book will serve as inspiration to many others.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted August 14, 2001
I love this book. It is a wonderful collection of real life stories by women who honestly shared their inner strength and courage on the pages of this book. It was a real page turner. I highly recommend it for everyone....!!! My favorite is 'Mirrorstones'.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.