Slow Sex: The Path to Fulfilling and Sustainable Sexuality [NOOK Book]

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A revolutionary practice for couples to enhance sexuality and reach higher states of consciousness

• How to make sex a conscious decision, not an accidental encounter

• Discusses how slowness increases sensitivity and awakens the ...
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Slow Sex: The Path to Fulfilling and Sustainable Sexuality

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Overview

A revolutionary practice for couples to enhance sexuality and reach higher states of consciousness

• How to make sex a conscious decision, not an accidental encounter

• Discusses how slowness increases sensitivity and awakens the body’s innate mechanism for ecstasy

• Reveals how sexuality can be sustainable and enjoyable well into old age

While fast, hot, orgasm-driven sex can bring momentary satisfaction, in the long run it can become boring and mechanical, causing many couples to lose interest and stop making time for physical intimacy. The first step to revive a waning sex life or make a healthy one more fulfilling, says author Diana Richardson, is to make sex a conscious decision rather than an accidental encounter. Focusing on eye contact, subtle sensations, and deep breathing, Diana’s practice of slow sex awakens the body’s innate mechanism for ecstasy, unlocking the door to extraordinary realms of sensitivity, sensuality, and higher consciousness.

Exploring the healing, spiritual power of slow sex, this book offers a step-by-step guide for committed couples to transform sex into a meditative, loving union of complementary energies. It explains how slow sex increases sensitivity and sexual vitality and how, because it creates and restores love, slow sex is loving sex. With a focus on coolness rather than heat, this practice provides couples a way to reach a shared meditative state and use it as a vehicle to achieve higher consciousness. Illustrating different positions for eye contact, deep sustained penetration, and soft penetration, this book reveals that sex truly can be sustainable and enjoyable well into old age.

Diana Richardson is the author of Tantric Orgasm for Women and The Heart of Tantric Sex and the coauthor of Tantric Sex for Men. A disciple of tantric master Osho, she is a teacher and practitioner of holistic body therapies. Along with her husband, Michael, she has been teaching weeklong “Making Love” Retreats for Couples since 1993. She lives in Switzerland.

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Editorial Reviews

Carl Honore
“Like everything else in this fast-forward world, our sex lives have been infected by the virus of hurry. Slow Sex is the perfect antidote. With warmth and wisdom, Diana Richardson shows how slowing down in the bedroom can bring us better sex, better relationships, and a better world. What are you waiting for? The time has come to unleash your inner tortoise in the bedroom!”
Marc David
“How rare it is for a book to appear about sex and sensuality with a truly fresh and innovative approach. Diana Richardson has crafted a masterpiece that is warm, evocative, timely, and accessible to everyone. Her wise and inviting style will welcome you into a fascinating new world where your experience of sexuality will be forever changed. If you’ve wanted just one book that could give you the most simple and powerful access into the ancient, beautiful world of Tantra, here it is . . .”
Anna Jedrziewski
“. . . Slow Sex is making tantric concepts truly accessible to people with no experience with (or inclination to study) eastern philosophy and practices. By using simple language, with this broader audience of readers is comfortable with, and by giving readers permission to explore at their own pace, she opens the door for the exploration of diverse sexual experiences which will enhance and nourish body, mind, and spirit.”
Whole Life Times
“. . . Richardson offers step-by-step guidance, and even former skeptics swear by it's value—physical, emotional and spiritual. We know sex is important to our pleasure; this kind is also essential to our well-being.”
Common Ground
“Although couples of all ages will benefit from the book, it's a must-have for older couples looking for a sustainable activity that will benefit their relationships.”
Carl Honoré
“Like everything else in this fast-forward world, our sex lives have been infected by the virus of hurry. Slow Sex is the perfect antidote. With warmth and wisdom, Diana Richardson shows how slowing down in the bedroom can bring us better sex, better relationships, and a better world. What are you waiting for? The time has come to unleash your inner tortoise in the bedroom!”
January 2011 Whole Life Times
“. . . Richardson offers step-by-step guidance, and even former skeptics swear by it's value—physical, emotional and spiritual. We know sex is important to our pleasure; this kind is also essential to our well-being.”
February 2011 Common Ground
“Although couples of all ages will benefit from the book, it's a must-have for older couples looking for a sustainable activity that will benefit their relationships.”
author of In Praise of Slowness Carl Honoré
“Like everything else in this fast-forward world, our sex lives have been infected by the virus of hurry. Slow Sex is the perfect antidote. With warmth and wisdom, Diana Richardson shows how slowing down in the bedroom can bring us better sex, better relationships, and a better world. What are you waiting for? The time has come to unleash your inner tortoise in the bedroom!”
author of The Slow Down Diet and founder of the In Marc David
“How rare it is for a book to appear about sex and sensuality with a truly fresh and innovative approach. Diana Richardson has crafted a masterpiece that is warm, evocative, timely, and accessible to everyone. Her wise and inviting style will welcome you into a fascinating new world where your experience of sexuality will be forever changed. If you’ve wanted just one book that could give you the most simple and powerful access into the ancient, beautiful world of Tantra, here it is . . .”
author of The Slow Down Diet and founder of the In Marc David
“How rare it is for a book to appear about sex and sensuality with a truly fresh and innovative approach. Diana Richardson has crafted a masterpiece that is warm, evocative, timely, and accessible to everyone. Her wise and inviting style will welcome you into a fascinating new world where your experience of sexuality will be forever changed. If you’ve wanted just one book that could give you the most simple and powerful access into the ancient, beautiful world of Tantra, here it is . . .”
From the Publisher
“. . . Slow Sex is making tantric concepts truly accessible to people with no experience with (or inclination to study) eastern philosophy and practices. By using simple language, with this broader audience of readers is comfortable with, and by giving readers permission to explore at their own pace, she opens the door for the exploration of diverse sexual experiences which will enhance and nourish body, mind, and spirit.”

“. . . Richardson offers step-by-step guidance, and even former skeptics swear by it's value—physical, emotional and spiritual. We know sex is important to our pleasure; this kind is also essential to our well-being.”

“Although couples of all ages will benefit from the book, it's a must-have for older couples looking for a sustainable activity that will benefit their relationships.”

“How rare it is for a book to appear about sex and sensuality with a truly fresh and innovative approach. Diana Richardson has crafted a masterpiece that is warm, evocative, timely, and accessible to everyone. Her wise and inviting style will welcome you into a fascinating new world where your experience of sexuality will be forever changed. If you’ve wanted just one book that could give you the most simple and powerful access into the ancient, beautiful world of Tantra, here it is . . .”

“Like everything else in this fast-forward world, our sex lives have been infected by the virus of hurry. Slow Sex is the perfect antidote. With warmth and wisdom, Diana Richardson shows how slowing down in the bedroom can bring us better sex, better relationships, and a better world. What are you waiting for? The time has come to unleash your inner tortoise in the bedroom!”

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781594778230
  • Publisher: Inner Traditions/Bear & Company
  • Publication date: 1/27/2011
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 176
  • Sales rank: 672,571
  • File size: 596 KB

Meet the Author

Diana Richardson is the author of Tantric Sex for Men, The Heart of Tantric Sex and Tantric Orgasm for Women and is a teacher and practitioner of holistic body therapies. Born in South Africa, she became the disciple of tantric Master Osho in India in 1979. She is now based in Europe and travels extensively with her partner, hosting weeklong retreats for couples in tantric lovemaking.
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Chapter 10

Your Personal Slow Sex Practice


Slow sex is a journey in which each and every day counts. It’s a slow journey that can extend over many years and into old age. That is how it is turning out for me, and I can definitely say that I did not plan for it to be this way. Very gradually one thing led to another through curiosity and practice. Practice itself will herald change and transformation. Not just thinking about it.

Below you will find the components of the slow sex practice defined as well as my suggestions for how to get started on your own exploration in order to create your own practice. At any time the guidelines below can be changed and you can improvise. The vital thing is to take it slow and to avoid having great expectations. Expectation makes us consider what is not happening and stands in our way of perceiving what actually is.

What kind of practice is slow sex? Slow sex can best be described as a sustainable practice in which awareness is brought into the body--and into the genitals. We discover how to just be present in sex instead of actively doing in sex. When we make love with sensitivity and slowness, sex transforms itself into a meditation.

The word meditation implies full experience of the present moment. Any meditation needs to be given time and space and practice in order for the practitioner to feel the benefits, though you are quite likely to feel some pleasing results, even the first time you try it. Slow sex makes it possible for the penis and vagina to develop their own language, to exchange energy according to their dynamic and receptive qualities. It’s a practice that takes time to master, like any other sustainable practice. But practice makes perfect.

Special Technique vs. Shift in Consciousness

Slowing down in sex is based on a shift in consciousness, where the emphasis is on how you do something, not on what you do. To become slow in sex requires a mental reorientation, a new way of looking at it in which you drop the preconceived ideas and expectations that you have about sex. Slow sex is not a technique in that it is not something that you must do, but rather something you become.

Aliveness, Vitality, and Sexual Arousal

Slow sex is a style of sex that does not require sexual arousal. It can be arousing at times, no doubt about it, but it does not depend on becoming aroused or excited at the outset. Instead, it requires aliveness, vitality, and presence. Naturally there will be moments when things will get a bit hotter, but the level of arousal (eros) is basically monitored and kept cool. At other times, of course, we may get caught up in the excitement and take ourselves to the peak climax, but these happenings are all part of the experimentation. The significant thing is to do whatever you do with awareness. Nothing is wrong with orgasm as such; it’s just the habit of running toward it, and the tension that we build up to achieve it, that is being challenged through awareness and slowness.

The great thing about slow sex is that does not take much energy; you can do it when you are not feeling fresh. It is more a question of whether you can hold the awareness or not.

How to Set Up the Slow Sex Practice

The best way to move toward a successful slow sex practice is to set aside specific times to make love, and to make love as often as is conceivably possible. Consciously create the space needed for this by putting sex high on the list of things to do, just as we prioritize our other activities. It is suggested that you make a date, an appointment, to make love. Write down SS alongside the agreed time in your weekly agenda. Make the appropriate arrangements for your children and switch off your telephones so that you can be left in tranquility and peace.

Giving yourselves an open space naturally leads to a deeper level of relaxation, awareness, and sensitivity. We are more available; sex is not happening by accident or by habit, but as a conscious choice and decision. Putting intention behind the meeting naturally elevates the experience. It’s perhaps going to feel awkward or clinical at first when you start meeting each other in this somewhat organized way, but any initial shyness or insecurity is quite natural and will soon pass. In making a date for sex we create the opportunity to explore who we really are.

Sustaining the Sexual Encounter

Your sexual connection will be sustained by staying alert, aware, and curious. Use any and all of the metabolic enhancers--such as awareness, rhythm, relaxation, staying present--to keep the sexual encounter’s intensity alive. I have always called these enhancers the Love Keys, which include breath, soft eye contact, holding the attention in the body, scanning the body, and relaxing, all the things that allow you to become present in your body and present to the situation.

While slow sex is especially fitting for people who are in long-term committed relationships with a stable partner who can be available to make love over an extended period of time, I believe that human beings are designed by nature to be slow. So in reality, slow sex is for one and all. It is available to anyone who is willing to explore taking sex more slowly. Any person who slows down, is likely to feel the heightened qualities that slowness brings into the exchange.
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Table of Contents


Acknowledgments

Introduction: Curing the Speed Disease



1 Slow Sex: A Physical and Spiritual Revolution

2
The Sexual Power of Relaxation

3
The Sexual Power of Awareness

4
The Sexual Power of Quality

5
The Sexual Power of Rhythm

6
The Sexual Power of Pleasure

7
The Sexual Power of Thought

8
The Sexual Power of the Sacred

9
The Sexual Power of the Story

10
Your Personal Slow Sex Practice


Appendix: True Male and Female Qualities versus Conditioned Distortions

Books and Resources
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