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"Excellent suggestions on how to be nurturing and compassionate, so that you can help your child become well-adjusted and happy." - Ann Landers
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A Child Is a Child Learn to see the world through your child's eyes. Give up the illusion that your child is a miniature adult. You promote a child's growth better by embracing immaturity than by fighting it.
Foster Optimism A child brings loads of hope and good cheer into this world. Teach your child to look life's obstacles squarely in the eye, but never, ever scare your child into becoming a pessimist.
Cultivate Inner Happiness The greatest gift you can give your child is a sturdy fortress of inner happiness. Outward happiness always will be fleeting and uncertain without this inward foundation.
You Are Your Child's Ideal If you come across as perpetually unhappy with your child, always acting tough and talking negatively, then your child will expect and want that unhappiness--and will do whatever it takes to get more of it. Do not teach your child to seek unhappiness.
Happy Children Behave Parenting is not "behavior modification." Cultivating your child's inner happiness is what really leads to good behavior. Chances are your child will behave better if you spend less time trying to change his or her behavior.
Provide Quantity Time On one side are all the reasons you do not have any to give. On the other are the great rewards you and your child will reap when you manage to do so. Make the effort. Quality Time does not make up for a lack of Quantity Time.
Attention Breeds Independence Lots of loving attention will make your child independent. Let go of those worries that you will spoil your child, or make your child needy and dependent, by providing too much attention.
Capture the Middle Ground No parent should feel stuck between being a pushover and a disciplinarian, between letting everything go and relying on the "quick fix" of discipline. You can find a happy medium.
Use Your Head and Trust Your Heart Always remember: Your parenting instincts are good ones. If your head tells you that tough discipline is necessary, but your heart is not in it, take heed. The foremost expert on parenting is the one you see in the mirror. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
|Introduction: What Is Smart Love?|
|1||The Basics of Smart Love||1|
|2||Smart Love in Action||15|
|3||Recognizing and Reversing Children's Inner Unhappiness||44|
|4||The First Year: Smart Loving Your Baby||74|
|5||Ages One to Three: Smart Loving Your Toddler or Preschooler||101|
|6||Ages Three to Six: Smart Loving Your Young Child||147|
|7||Ages Six to Twelve: Smart Loving Your Older Child||178|
|8||Smart Loving Your Adolescent||201|
|Afterword: Smart Love: Your Companion on Your Child's Journey to Adulthood||233|
|About the Authors||251|
Posted August 9, 2002