Smart Love is a revolutionary approach to parenting that offers parents the first alternative to discipline and permissiveness, both of which harm children. When parents use Smart Love in place of discipline, their children will grow up happier, more successful and more caring. Smart Love also shows parents that many of the behaviors they worry about and feel they must interfere with (grabbing, not sharing) are actually age-appropriate behaviors that children will outgrow on their own. So Smart Love makes ...
Smart Love is a revolutionary approach to parenting that offers parents the first alternative to discipline and permissiveness, both of which harm children. When parents use Smart Love in place of discipline, their children will grow up happier, more successful and more caring. Smart Love also shows parents that many of the behaviors they worry about and feel they must interfere with (grabbing, not sharing) are actually age-appropriate behaviors that children will outgrow on their own. So Smart Love makes parenting more enjoyable for both parent and child.
Smart Love shows parents how the child’s mind changes from birth through adolescence and why these changes call for different parenting responses at different ages.
No matter what your child’s age, with the help of Smart Love principles you can implement more effective and compassionate parenting strate¬gies. Smart Love gives you a relaxed and realistic timetable for your child’s emotional development; identifies heretofore unrecognized developmental milestones and shows you how to help your child reach them; offers you a way to protect your child from missteps caused by her immaturity without resorting to the extremes of permissiveness or strict disciplinary measures (both of which are counterproductive); and makes it possible for you to raise a successful and truly happy child. Just as important, if your child is unhappy and difficult, the Smart Love principles will show you how to recapture her birthright of inner happiness.
“Martha and William Pieper focus on every parent’s desire: the happiness of their children. They recognize that the best thing parents can do to achieve that goal is to provide love and attention in ways their children can understand and use. They encourage the long-term view of development that speaks to children’s deep feelings of worthiness rather than to the here-and-now of how the child is behaving. The Piepers’ approach to parenting makes the process easier and
“Smart Love is an invaluable guide for every moment of the exciting and awesome task of being a parent.”
Joan Ganz Cooney
“Smart Love is a terrific book of practical tips, psychological insights, and wise childrearing philosophy. Everyone who is smart enough to read Smart Love will have a much better idea of why babies to adolescents do what they do and of how to steer a peaceful and loving course through the daily and sometimes perplexing challenges of parenting.”
“This seminal book should be in the hands of all parents who wish to raise caring, responsible, and secure children. The Piepers bring much clarity to the debate on parenting for the twenty-first century.”
“I wish I’d had Smart Love when my children were young, but I’m glad I have it now. A must-read for anyone trying to be a smart and loving parent.”
Martha Heineman Pieper, Ph.D., is a psychotherapist who works with children and parents, and serves as a consultant to agencies and other mental health professionals. A Phi Beta Kappa graduate of Radcliffe College, she earned her doctorate at the University of Chicago. William J. Pieper, M.D., is a child psychiatrist and psychoanalyst who also works with children and parents and consults with other mental health professionals. His B.S. and
M.D. degrees are from the University of Illinois. The Piepers’ decades of experience as professionals and their pathbreaking research into the causes and effects of children’s inner happiness form the foundation for this book. Smart Love is the guiding principle for Smart Love Family Services (www.smartlovefamily.org), a not-for-profit agency that provides psycho¬therapy services, parent education, and toddler and preschool programs. Parents of five, the Piepers live in Chicago, Illinois.