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Smart Women Foolish Choices Acknowledgments Introduction
1. Being Foolish
Chapter One: Waiting For The Prince
Searching for the Perfect Man Women and Romantic Fantasies Historical Forces Affecting Women
Chapter Two: Daddy's Little Girl
Learning to Be Cute Learning to Be Indirect The Powerful Father The Missing Father The Unresponsive Father The Secret Need to Be Rescued
Chapter Three: How Men Respond to Daddy's Little Girl
Helplessness Game-Playing Hidden Dependency Needs The Hunger for Love
Chapter Four: How Men Respond to Power in Women
The All-Powerful Mother The New Impotency The Passive-Aggressive Response The Fear of Angry Women
Chapter Five: How Exciting Men Can Make Women Miserable
Who Is the Nice Guy?
Sometimes Nice Is Weak When Nice Looks Weak but Isn't Nice Is Not Romantic Love and Longing Why Some Men Seem Exciting Bad Boys Can Be Fun . . . at Least for a While Who Is the Rat?
The Magnetism of the Rat The Pursuit of the Rat
Chapter Six: Men Who Make Women Want to Scream
The Clam The Pseudo-Liberated Male The Perpetual Adolescent The Walking Wounded
2. Getting Smart
Chapter Seven: Many Special Women, Few Good Men?
Marrying Up and Marrying Down Why Married Men Look Better Self-Fulfilling Prophecies
Chapter Eight: Release From Endless Mourning
Believing in Magic Wounded Self-Esteem Release to Love Again
Chapter Nine: Freedom from Love Obsessions
Four Types of Love Addicts When Love Becomes Obsession Time Is Running Out Getting Excitement Elsewhere Breaking Old Patterns Can Be Exciting
Chapter Ten: Letting Go of Expectations
Hidden Agendas Expectations Versus Intimacy Getting in Touch with Hidden Illusions Expectations That Work
Chapter Eleven: Finding Diamonds In The Rough
The Mask of Shyness Reinvesting in Long-Term Relationships
Chapter Twelve: A Fresh Look at "Femininity"
The Magic of Strength and Tenderness The Courage to Express Yourself
Chapter Thirteen: What Smart Women Know
The Adventure of Courtship
"Finding" Takes Initiative Men Like Women Who Like Men Men Respond to Sensitivity Vital Relationships: The Paradox of Romantic Tension and Love Men Do Commit The Smart Woman Is Responsible for Her Own Experience
Chapter Fourteen: Rules For Finding the Right Man
Appendix: Quizzes and Tests
Patterns of Relationship Quiz Love Addiction Test Satisfaction of Needs Test
Posted September 15, 2004
I love this book now, the reason I say now is because when reading it I felt like someone had followed me around and wrote about my life. I had a verbally abusive father, and one I read this book I realized that all the men I had been dating somehow reminded me of him. Once I broke that pattern I met my husband of now 6 years.
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Posted August 19, 2002
The 'smart women' was only a tongue in cheek comment. The book puts the blame on women suggesting the problem lies in the fact that women do not give men of whom don't appeal to them a long enough chance. Men can learn from this advice as well, but that being said, there is nothing more to learn from this book. With the authors being men, if a woman has a low self esteem and is feeling frustrated with men's treatment of them as women, this book is only going to make them feel more rejected by men.
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