So Long, Insecurity Group Experience Leader's Guide

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“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.” —Proverbs 31:25
In today’s image-saturated society, insecurity among women is reaching epidemic levels. We worry about everything—from our looks to our finances to our relationships. But it doesn’t have to be this way. It’s time to say, “So long!” to insecurity and focus instead on becoming the wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, and friends God intended us to be.

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“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.” —Proverbs 31:25
In today’s image-saturated society, insecurity among women is reaching epidemic levels. We worry about everything—from our looks to our finances to our relationships. But it doesn’t have to be this way. It’s time to say, “So long!” to insecurity and focus instead on becoming the wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, and friends God intended us to be.

Join noted Bible teacher and author Beth Moore on her quest for real, lasting, soul-deep security. Through this in-depth, interactive study, you will learn to recognize and rely on the true Source of hope. Beth challenges us to shed our old insecurities and put on the clothing of strength and dignity that can only be found through Christ.

Relevant for any woman trying to survive in this fast-paced, image-obsessed culture with a little dignity, this ten-week study features carefully guided group sessions with questions designed to draw you closer to one another and to the Savior. Tyndale House Publishers

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781414349916
  • Publisher: Tyndale House Publishers
  • Publication date: 5/18/2011
  • Pages: 128
  • Sales rank: 387,291
  • Product dimensions: 7.01 (w) x 9.07 (h) x 0.35 (d)

Meet the Author

Beth Moore
Beth Moore
Beth Moore is a writer and teacher of best-selling books and Bible studies whose public speaking engagements carry her all over the United States. A dedicated wife and mother of two adult daughters, Moore lives in Houston, Texas, where she is president and founder of Living Proof Ministries.
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So Long, Insecurity Group Experience


Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.

Copyright © 2011 Beth Moore
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-4143-4991-6

Chapter One


Insecurity: A Bad Friend

Blessed are those who trust in the Lord and have made the Lord their hope and confidence. They are like trees planted along a riverbank, with roots that reach deep into the water. Such trees are not bothered by the heat or worried by long months of drought. Their leaves stay green, and they never stop producing fruit. Jeremiah 17:7-8, NLT


Welcome your group to the first meeting. You might want to say something like this: "We're blessed to be in this unique group of women. Each of us is valued and dearly loved by God. Each of us is a mix of vulnerability and confidence, weakness and strength. Together we're about to embark on several weeks of learning and growing. My hope is that we'll start building a foundation of trust and love by getting to know a little about each other over the next ten weeks."

Before you dive into the study, have women pair up, chat for a few minutes to find out about each other, and then introduce each other to the whole group. Along with the person's name, it's fun to throw in a few interesting details, such as the person's best-loved restaurant, favorite pastime, or hidden talent.

Once everyone has been introduced, transition into the core material—why you're really here. Raise these questions for discussion:


To grasp how pervasive insecurity is among women, and to get a glimpse of what security in God might look like.


Before your group meets, read the introduction and chapter 1 of So Long, Insecurity. As you read, highlight or underline parts that jump out to you. What rings true to you? What surprises you? What seems most challenging?

* What prompted you to join this group? Why do you want to read and discuss this book? What do you hope to gain by the end of this journey? ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

What will help you get the most out of this experience? What do you need from the group? ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________


{Note to the leader: You might want to read the following aloud to the group.}

I'm thrilled that you're starting this discussion about So Long, Insecurity. Walking through the door for the first session might be the hardest thing you do today. I've heard so many stories from women who bought the hardcover book and immediately had to remove the jacket because they were embarrassed to carry around a book about insecurity! I'm right there with you. It takes a lot of guts to participate in a discussion that will require some vulnerability, and I'm so proud of all of you for starting this journey. I wish I could look each of you in the eyes and tell you that it will be so worth it.

What's our goal for these next ten weeks? When I was in Birmingham, Alabama, on a book tour promoting So Long, Insecurity, a cameraman from a local television station asked me that very question. I'll tell you what I told him: the goal is for an insecure woman to open the book and a secure woman to close it. Nothing less than that. Humanly speaking, fat chance. But what if, somewhere in these pages and through our discussions, we hear God speaking instead? Ah, then, for those willing to believe what He says, fat chances lose their weight and real changes take their place. We're not just looking to talk about a book here, sisters. We're looking to discover the kind of soul-deep security that stands fast in the floodwaters of this image-saturated society. It is time for a change.


This week we'll start with an overview. How common is insecurity, anyway? How does it affect us and our relationships with God?

In the introduction I write honestly about insecurity in my life:

My entire life story grows like a wild shoot from the thorny soil of insecurity. Every fear I've faced, every addiction I've nursed, every disastrous relationship and idiotic decision I've made has wormed its way out of that sorrowfully fertile ground. Through the power and grace of God, I've dealt with so many side effects of it, but oddly, until now, I've somehow overlooked its primary source.... Glance around you. Do you see another woman? She probably shares that battle too. Regardless of our professions, credentials, or possessions, the vast majority of us are swimming in a sea of insecurity and trying our best to hide behind our goggles. (pp. xi, xiii)

Then in chapter 1 I talk about how insecurity affects all of us as women:

I'm feeling ticked for the whole mess of us born with a pair of X chromosomes. My whole ministry life is lived out in the blessed chaos of a female cornucopia. I've been looking at our gender through the lens of Scripture for twenty-five solid years, and I have pondered over us, taken up for us, laid into us, deliberated over us, prayed about us, lost sleep because of us, cried for us, laughed my head off at us, and gotten offended for us—and by us—more times than I can count. And after a quarter of a century surrounded by girls ranging all the way from kindergarteners to those resting on pale pink liners inside caskets, I've come to this loving conclusion: we need help. I need help. Something more than what we're getting.... I hear echoes of fear and desperation from women day in and day out—even if they're doing their best to muffle the sound with their Coach bags. Oh, who am I kidding? I hear reverberations from my own heart more times than I want to admit. I keep trying to stifle it, but it won't shut up. Something's wrong with us for us to value ourselves so little. Our culture has thrown us under the bus. We have a fissure down the spine of our souls, and boy, does it need fixing. (pp. 2, 4)

* How pervasive is insecurity among women? Are there some women who seem to get off the hook when it comes to insecurity, or do you think it's something we all grapple with? ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

When was the last time you came face-to-face with our gender's struggle with insecurity? Have you ever felt angry about the extent to which insecurity affects women? ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

What helps you feel secure? When in your life have you felt the most secure? ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

In chapter 1, I recall hearing a sermon about what a woman needs from a man. As the pastor talked about how a husband needs to affirm his wife's beauty and desirability, I wondered,

"What if no one tells us that? Can we still find a way to be okay? ... Is there no validation for our womanhood apart from a man?" ... Men are not our problem; it's what we are trying to get from them that messes us up. Nothing is more baffling than our attempt to derive our womanhood from our men. We use guys like mirrors to see if we're valuable. Beautiful. Desirable. Worthy of notice. Viable. (pp. 5, 7)

Why do we do this? At times we really seem to think our worth depends on qualities we have little control over, such as appearance or personality. We think someone else's opinion matters that much. We give other people so much power over us, and we need to get it back.

* In our culture, how much weight do women place on male validation? Share a specific example of how you see this reflected in today's movies, television, or music. ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

What problems might result from this dependence on the approval of men? ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________


Now that we have an idea how widespread insecurity is, let's find a little hope. It's easy to look around at our culture and at our own lives and see what we don't want—a sense of self-worth that balances precariously on someone else's opinion and leaves us fragile, overly sensitive, and unable to look beyond ourselves. But what's the alternative? What can we hope for? Here's my answer from chapter 1:

I want some soul-deep security drawn from a source that never runs dry and never disparages us for requiring it. We need a place we can go when, as much as we loathe it, we are needy and hysterical. I don't know about you, but I need someone who will love me when I hate myself. And yes, someone who will love me again and again until I kiss this terrestrial sod good-bye. (p. 10)

Where can we get that kind of security?

We'll talk a lot more about this in the weeks to come, but for now, let's look at a few Scripture passages that point the way to the ultimate answer.

* Read Jeremiah 17:7-8 out loud. According to this passage, what are the characteristics of a secure person? Where does security have its roots? ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

What does it mean to make the Lord your hope and confidence? Can you think of a time when you were able to do this? What happened? ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

* Read Psalm 103:13-18 out loud. Which phrases in the passage highlight how short life on earth is? Which words remind us of God's eternal nature? ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

With vivid language, the psalmist reminds us that everything on this earth will fade away or fail us. We know that nothing material will last for eternity, but sometimes we forget that things on earth will fall apart even in our lifetimes. When was the last time you held on to a relationship, a bank account, or a role you thought was secure—only to see it crumble? The stock market crashes, people let us down, our appearance changes, our kids grow up. We know we shouldn't expect to find security from men, our dress size, our IQ, or a showpiece house, but we're so desperate that we try to grab it anywhere we can. Unfortunately, looking for security from an unsteady source only makes us more likely to fall.

This isn't meant to be a downer, because the truth is, when everything else fails, we're pointed to the one thing that never fails. The one thing that lasts forever—the one thing that can give us a secure foundation—is the rock that is our Lord.

* The Lord created us and knows how frail and shaky our lives are. Still, what is His response, according to Psalm 103? What might that tell us about how He views us when we struggle with insecurity? ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

Two key words in this passage are compassion and love. The Lord knows how frail we are, how emotionally fragile our insecurities make us—and He loves us with an everlasting love anyway. With that kind of love as an anchor, you've got to know there's help for us on the horizon.


I hope you come away from this week with a taste of what it might mean to find true security. I also hope you are beginning to feel more comfortable with each other as you undertake this journey to wholeness. Next week we'll look at the definition of insecurity. We'll put a face to this enemy of ours and try to understand why he can be so hard to shake.

Community is built through caring and prayer. As time permits, share prayer requests within the group and pray for one another. Encourage group members to write down the requests so you can pray throughout the week.


• Write a journal entry describing this present season of your life and why you've chosen to read this book. What do you want to get out of it? How do you want to be changed at the end of the journey? If you're comfortable doing so, consider writing the entry in the form of a prayer.

• As you write, think about how you can reach your goal. What do you need to do to get the most out of this experience? (Journal regularly? Read the chapters each week? Pray about your struggles in a focused way? Meet with an accountability partner to keep you on track?) Whatever it is, commit to doing it. Remember, the goal is for you to close this book a secure woman. That's worth some effort!


Excerpted from So Long, Insecurity Group Experience by BETH MOORE Copyright © 2011 by Beth Moore. Excerpted by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
Excerpts are provided by Dial-A-Book Inc. solely for the personal use of visitors to this web site.

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Table of Contents


Week 1: Insecurity: A Bad Friend....................1
Week 2: How Insecurity Affects Us....................11
Week 3: Good Company....................21
Week 4: Digging Deep....................33
Week 5: Finding Dignity....................47
Week 6: Clearing Our Vision....................57
Week 7: Letting God Be God....................69
Week 8: The Power to Choose....................83
Week 9: Looking beyond Ourselves....................97
Week 10: Moving past Our Fears into Trust....................109
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  • Posted August 23, 2011

    Another Excellent Beth Moore Study

    When the book, So Long, Insecurity, came out, I asked my husband if he would get me this book and he did. It was an amazing book that really got to the heart of insecurity and how to over-come it.

    I was very excited when I saw the study to go along with this book. Using the study, I re-read the book and was amazed at how much deeper I was able to go. Using the Bible as the road map, Beth takes us through the study and helps us to dig deeper into what makes us feel insecure and how to over-come that insecurity.

    Since this is the leader's guide, not only will you get the in-depth questions for the study, but it leads you through how to do the leadership of your group. Each week of the study has a "Digging In", "In the Light of the Word", "Wrap Up" and "On Your Own" sections which keeps the study consistent.

    As with all things written by Beth Moore, the study was excellent, thought provoking and for me, life-changing. I highly recommend this study as it will help you to not only dig deeper into God's Word, but to help you feel more secure.

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