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Posted April 11, 2015
This book was a great resource to teach me how to become more social. Before, I was nervous in crowds and didn't want to speak to anyone, I kept mostly to myself. After reading this book, though, I found the tools I needed to open up and become more social with the people around me. I want to feel better about myself, improve my job, and just be an all around better social person. This book contains the strategies I need to make this happen. Once you read the 18 reasons why you don't have better social skills, a lightbulb will go off, and you too will discover what has been wrong all this time. This is a must read for anyone looking to become a better talker, listener, and just better socially. Highly recommended.
Posted March 16, 2015
There is no doubt that social skills set people apart across all walks of life. Those who "have it" are often the people who are able to get better jobs, more friends, and just an overall better life. When you are able to get along with people in an easy and natural fashion, you just get better results at everything. For a long time, I have been a person who was kind of socially standoffish. I got along alright, but I really sort of envied others who I considered to be a "people person". I figured that if you just weren't naturally like that, you were out of luck. I decided to look into the topic a little deeper though, which lead me to finding this book on Kindle.
First of all, I was genuinely surprised that this is a skill that can be taught effectively. It will take some commitment and dedication to change how you do things, but good information is definitely the first step. As with anything, it's very important to understand why things are the way they are right now for you before you go trying to change anything. This book does a good job of describing many issues that can affect and impact social skills, and how social problems can impact daily life.
Personally, I immediately recognized myself in many of these descriptions. From that point, I have just followed the plan of action the book lays out. For me, I realized that I have to do a lot more listening and concentrate more on my body language and what it's conveying to people. There's a whole lot more, but you just have to read the entire book to get an idea of what you will personally need to do to improve your situation. It's all in there.
Since I've been applying what I've learned, I have noticed an undeniable improvement at work and in general social situations. I'm not avoiding people as much as I used to, and I am starting to engage a bit more with my co-workers at the office. I guess you could say that I have gained a fair amount of confidence from what I have learned and managed to put into action. I'll admit that I still have a ways to go, but I can't believe how well it's going so far. Social skills really can be taught effectively. For what I have gotten out of it, I couldn't be happier with my purchase.
Posted March 7, 2015
Social Skills: The Modern Skill for Success, Fun, and Happiness Out of Life
I purchased this book because I felt a need to improve my social skills and to try and find out why I feel so socially inept. I am so glad that I purchased this book. I almost didn't purchase it because of a negative review I read that stated the internet would be more helpful and said the book only told you what social skills are and why you need them. Yes, the beginning of the book does tell you what social skills are and why you need them. That is basically Part One of the book. I'm thinking that maybe the reviewer only read the first part of the book and didn't continue onto the end. If they had This book really delivered. Part One of the book starts out with the very basics. Some people may say that part one is too basic and everyone knows this. I feel that even if you already know it there will be others who don’t and it’s always good to have a reminder. It is very necessary to have this part in. By starting basic and progressing everyone can start on equal footing. Chapter 3 was a real eye opener for me. I always knew that the 18 reasons listed could be the cuprit for why a person has a lack of social skills but it never clicked that they could/would apply to me as well. I was shocked to realize that 12 of the 18 listed applied to/affected me.
Part Two talks about how we develop social skills. Part Three talks about the application of social skills and how to improve them. I like how Mr. Angelo gives activities to help you improve your social skills. For instance, reading faces and interpreting emotions is a social communication skill we all need. If you have problems with this skill try playing Emotion Charades or Emotion Pictionary. I never would have thought of those activities but I can totally see how they would work. I'm excited to try this out.
Every part of the book is broken up in rough age groups (Children, Teens, and Adults). Mr. Angelo talks about how social skills affect each age group and how they use them. He also puts the skills in context of school, work, home, etc.
In Part Four things really begin to heat up. Mr. Angelo puts you in a Social Skills Boot Camp. My favorite part of the boot Camp section is the social skills exercises were you are given a different exercise every week and that exercise is broken down into daily goals and activities. Each week builds upon the previous weeks. I especially appreciate that if for some reason you feel you need more time on an activity you can continue it for another week and then move on.
This book is good and from it I have learned a bit more about myself and why I am the way I am. I will close my review with my favorite quote from this book. It really spoke to me…
“Being social” means that they discover what a rich, fulfilling social life looks like for them, and then they live that out .”
Posted March 2, 2015
Reduce your stress level. Cultivate more meaningful relationships. Improve your work environment. So much in life can be enhanced by being mindful of your social skills. Gabriel Angelo tackles such ideas and practices with “Social Skills: The Modern Skill for Success, Fun, and Happiness Out of Life”. A fittingly long title for simple, but deep ideas.
In this book I was seeking ways to increase my “business value” as Angelo calls it, through improved social skills. Chapter 10 provided tips in depth, but he covers this topic throughout.
The bulk of applicable practices lie in the back half of the book, but the science behind the “why” is provided in an easy-to-read manner in the first several chapters. If you’ve ever taken entry-level communication or psychology classes, you’ll recognize a lot of the reasoning and it’s a quick brush up. These self-coach style books tend to speak over the head of novice readers. Often times, with new material (or subject matter), I’ll find myself re-reading sections at a time. Angelo presents the information simply enough for somebody unfamiliar to get through it quickly with masterful understanding. Even when discussing studies and the social skills more scientifically, it’s easily digestible.
I must admit I started to glaze a bit when Angelo wrote specifically about topics unrelated to me. I am a father, but wasn’t immediately interested in reading about how children develop poor social skills, autism and Aspergers Syndrome (chapter 3). Chapters 4 and 5 also lost me a bit as the youth and adolescent development chatter continued. I can see myself coming back to these sections as my children reach those ages.
Angelo jokes in chapter two about how simple it is to improve your social after laying out a list of 10 basics: “Sounds like rules you learned in pre-school?” That attitude in his writing helps hammer home how simply you can improve your communication and social skills. Simplicity comes at the cost of occasional anecdotal cheesiness, a tradeoff I’m willing to take. The point is never lost by Angelo trying to bog down an example.
There’s a lot to be gained in the meat-and-potatoes found in the backend of the book, and through Angelo’s examples. Why are emotionally intelligent people successful? What do they do? How do they communicate and build relationships? What inspires people of different personality types? He tackles broad topics concisely, sites sources and dives into the application in section 3. These practices are easy to apply, more difficult to master. But over time, the awareness of these tools replaces poor habits. In my estimation, Angelo nails it.
Posted February 25, 2015
There are a lot of books out there on social skills, mostly cheap short ones. This book is the real deal. This is also a great book for those looking to better understand/teach those lacking social skills how to interact with the world and each other in a more healthy manner. Reading social cues, and learning about all their different possibilities, and how to improve your own social skills, is very much like learning a new a language.
Really, this book has something for everyone; adults, parents, teachers, you name it, and even has a section for teens and children. You can improve your station in life if you take the skills presented in this book to action. It just all comes down to how you use the exercises contained here to see how far you can improve. For this reason, this book is quite dense, but FULL of incredible information, and actionable techniques, if you need to improve the way you relate to people.
Posted February 18, 2015
Not for the Average Masses. Feels like a Course. Take Notes.
I went through the reviews, and one person did say this was like the encyclopedia for social skills, and I have to agree. Would be better if this book, or would have benefited, if it were called the Social Skills Encyclopedia.
"Social Skills" by Gabriel Angelo is an intriguing combination of academic, technicality, and practicality. It's rather hard to explain it, like trying to categorize a single particular musical genre for a song.
It does get slightly technical but at the same time remains doable. I recommend when you're actually using this book to improve your social skills, is to take notes of the things you're going to do because it can get overwhelming with the information.
If you're only going to do one run-through with the application part, you'll going to get overwhelmed. This is one thing I wished this book could be simplified more. That's the only reason why this book is 1-star short of perfection, but besides that I highly recommend this book.
This is the one and only social skills book you'll ever need. The author has done an excellent job of making it the most in depth book on social skills book out there. It does at times get to the point where it feel more like a social skills training course, rather than a book. This could be a blessing or curse for this book, acting as a double-edged sword.
Nevertheless, without a doubt, a high-quality book. It's no cookie-cutter nor magic-bullet. Just remember be prepared to take notes and follow the exercises, and you'll be all set.
Posted February 16, 2015
Truly the Completely All-In-One Book on Social Skills
I want to say, this book truly is robust. It's a powerhouse book on social skills. Think of it like an encyclopedia for social skills.
The negative reviews for this book appears to be folks complaining about the lack of applications; they haven't read the entire book, or to make their life easier, should have skipped to the back and forget the rests.
The first 3 parts were reference and resources to social skills, lots of backgrounds and the importance of social skills, but you can skip all that and go straight to the back. Here was where I was impressed. It actually feels like a different book here, like 2 books in one.
There were exercises and activities you can do. The best thing about this book is that it is broken up where you can self-train via self-sessions or follow the guidelines on how to train others (children, teens, adults), which is good for parents and teachers.
The final 5-weeks training program this book weights itself in gold.
This is definitely the complete all in one book for social skills.
Posted February 16, 2015
An excellent book about improving your social skills and that of your children. This book is full of information about why I need social skills, how to improve my social skills, how to make friends, etc...
I was especially impressed by the in depth chapter on Autism Spectrum Disorder and the lists of resources for helping yourself or your children gain improvement in social skills. Autism is a topic that I am quite familiar with after working for ten years with children and adults affected by the problem. This book has very comprehensive information on the subject as well as a list of resources for parents, teachers or caretakers to use.
There is more than mere information explaining how and why social skills are formed early, but also information on how to improve upon them. There is an entire chapter on lessons at the end of the book to help improve skills, both using group work and individual studies.
I found it interesting to read that more and more people are becoming less and less interactive as a general group, turning instead to tablets, phones and wearing headphones instead of interacting with those in our immediate vicinity. Technology is killing basic interaction with others. We used to chat about the weather, the latest current events, ourselves to others while waiting in lines or for buses, but now we are becoming more introverted as a society in general as a direct result of the gadgets we seem to be unable to live without.
Social skills are very important, in real life, in the work place, we need to focus on other people in order to keep our jobs. By isolating ourselves with our gadgets and relying on Internet interactions, our inner beings become isolated. We can become depressed more easily and even less willing to venture from out behind our keyboards or phone keypads. This book made me rethink how I am relating to others around me and I am going to be more cognizant of saying hello to others.
Posted February 10, 2015
As I sat down to read, “Social Skills: The Modern Skill for Success, Fun, and Happiness Out of Life,” I was admittedly apprehensive, as a student of Social Psychology I have read other books on the same topic and was afraid this book was trying to reinvent the wheel. My mind was put to rest as this book was not an attempt to reinvent the wheel, but rather an in depth explanation of the wheel and all it's parts.
What scares me is that while I think most of the skills are common sense, everyone should know this, I look around my community and see evidence that this belief couldn't be further from the truth. I live in a rural farming community with high unemployment, low literacy, an obscene amount of drug addicts and alcoholics, and a startling poverty rate. I am hard pressed to decide if these circumstances led to the lack of social skills or if the social skills were always lacking and led to the circumstances.
Social media, in my opinion, has hijacked the social skills that were once prevalent in Western society. There is a cover of anonymity, a feeling that if you can't see the person your disrespecting face to face then it doesn't really matter. Social battles have been waged in every way imaginable, and once private discussions have become fodder for the whole world to see. For evidence all you need to do is look at a local news story about a hardship someone is facing and I guarantee there is always at least one socially inept person making ignorant and usually hateful comments toward the person(s) or groups. Why? Because they are protected by the computer, they don't have to face the body language, the voice, the feelings, the person one on one.
“Social Skills,” could be a tool in aiding readers in developing social skills they may lack. Parents, teachers, employers, and community outreach organizations can use the book to educate the people they come in contact with. Instead of focusing on standardized testing that assumes a one size fits all learning curve, schools should be a place where children and teens learn social skills that will serve to better their lives in terms of continued education, future employment, interpersonal relationships, and in diverse social settings.
This book has great focus that explains the importance of skills such as: embracing diversity as world cultures meld together, the difference between professional and casual/personal social skills, the value of eye contact and body language in communication, and how social skills develop over a lifetime. I was delighted to see a focus on the topic of diversity especially. Technology has allowed cultures of the world to melt together.
As I said this is a book that could be a valuable tool, however, it shouldn't be the only tool. While there is a great explanation of all the topics, this book is quite clinical in nature. I found myself drifting back to my Social Psychology course work often. I would have liked to see activities that could help the reader develop social skills. Perhaps a self assessment activity of some sort to determine current abilities could be included. The tips and plans in the second half of the book are great but generalized and seems to not take in account that there are variables that make achieving better social skills a bigger, less straight forward hurdle for some people.