Sometimes Rhythm, Sometimes Blues: Young African Americans on Love, Relationships, Sex, and the Search for Mr. Right

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Today’s women expect it all: a successful career, an understanding and equally successful mate, and children--all wrapped up in a white picket fence. But recent studies show that while black women have ascended to form a new middle class and have attained success in the business sector, black men haven’t followed suit. Perhaps as a result, with other sociological and economic factors at play, many successful sistahs are having trouble finding a partner to call their own. This groundbreaking anthology explores ...
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Overview


Today’s women expect it all: a successful career, an understanding and equally successful mate, and children--all wrapped up in a white picket fence. But recent studies show that while black women have ascended to form a new middle class and have attained success in the business sector, black men haven’t followed suit. Perhaps as a result, with other sociological and economic factors at play, many successful sistahs are having trouble finding a partner to call their own. This groundbreaking anthology explores the many reasons why--analyzing materialism and financial expectations, single motherhood, bling bling culture, media representations of African-American gender roles, missing fathers, incarcerated partners, and more--and offers hope from women who have beaten the odds. Writers including Kevin Powell and Victor LaValle weigh in on the men’s side in a "Talking Back" section, while female contributors include Kiini Ibura Asalaam, Shawn E. Rhea, Shani O’Neal, and Asha Bandele.
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In an effort to clarify the state of relationships in the black community, network news journalist Smith has assembled 25 mostly unfamiliar writers who bare their souls, discussing burning issues like marriage, infidelity, and single parenting. Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781580050968
  • Publisher: Avalon Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 2/9/2004
  • Series: Live Girls Series
  • Pages: 245
  • Product dimensions: 5.46 (w) x 8.18 (h) x 0.78 (d)

Table of Contents

Introduction
Interview with Audrey B. Chapman
A Tangled Web We've Weaved: Exploring the Complexities of African-American Relationships 1
When Conception Equals Confusion: The Battle Between Mothers and Would-Be Fathers 3
The Edge: Topography of a First Date in Prison 11
Dance Like Nobody's Watching 17
Marriage: The Unfulfilled Prophecy 25
Retracing Our Steps: An Examination of the Personal Histories that Shape Us 33
The Trial 35
Black, White, and Seeing Red All Over 49
Different Ways of Saying I Love You 59
Las Cartas del Alma de Pedro Valentin Carol Almeraz 65
The Bride Price 79
Bass 87
I'll Sing You a Song from My Soul: The Love Stories 97
The Gift of Breath 99
Baggage Claim 107
Pack Light 119
Love Down Under 131
What One Dance Can Do 137
For Better or Worse: African-American Marriages Under the Microscope 149
Me and My Marine: Holding Fast in Love and Faith 151
Don't Judge a Brother by His Cover 167
Co-Parenting: Stay-at-Home Dads and Other Family Constructs 173
Notes on My First Year of Marriage 181
Talking Back: Black Men Speak 191
Love Letters 193
Big Time 201
Wilderness 101 207
I Don't Need No Man: Does a New Kind of "Bling-Bling" Feminism Create a False Sense of Emotional Empowerment? 215
The World of Yes 221
Acknowledgments 233
About the Contributors 237
About the Editor 247
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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 16, 2005

    This is great book club reading!

    As others have said, the authors' essays probe some serious issues that can help or hinder relationships. But I find a lack of critique, insofar as some of the authors don't necessarily probe their own perspectives as much as provide examples of the types of thinking that people bring to relationships. That critique can arguably be raised in the context of a book circle, as members probe the texts and consider their own experiences.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 22, 2004

    Sometimes Rhythm, Sometimes Blues: Young African Americans on Love, Relationships, Sex, and the Search for Mr. Right

    This book is full of wonderful stories that talk about the ins and outs of real life relationships between black men and women. Never before have I read a book where black people are so candid and open about their relationships. This is a must-read for anyone interested in relationsips or finding a lifelong partner...

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 18, 2004

    Sometimes Rhythm, Sometimes Blues: Young African Americans on Love, Relationships, Sex, and the Search for Mr. Right

    This is a fantastic book filled with wonderful stories about real-life relationships among young african-americans. For the first time, members of the Hip-Hop generation are speaking openly and candidly about Love, Sex, and relationships. Buy this book today! You will not be disappointed.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 21, 2004

    Very enlightening

    I found this book to be very helpful. I pretty much have known you don't have to be a genius to know how to make a relationship work, but it was good to read these stories of various black women and their experiences with love and relationships. I think if we as black men take the time to listen to our women, everything would be much better. Hopefully, sisters won't give up on all black men, because all of us are not knuckleheads even though it may seem like it. I recommend this to anyone who has an open mind and is willing to pay attention. I'll be looking out for anything else Ms. Smith puts out.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 11, 2004

    An interesting perspective on our relationships

    I thought this was an excellent book. I found it very refreshing to hear sistas give us the truth about their relationships, even when the truth wasn't always flattering. I think anybody who is out there looking for 'Mr/Mrs Right' should read this, because I think it will make you think about what is truly important and what it is you value because they aren't always the same.

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