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In Speak from the Heart, Emmy Award-winning broadcaster, newspaper columnist, and motivational speaker Steve Adubato reveals the secrets to being a great communicator -- with a program that will dramatically change the way you talk, listen, and connect with others. teve Adubato's life experiences, both professional and as a husband, son, brother, and father, have taught him invaluable lessons about the power of personal, sincere communication. In Speak from the Heart, he demonstrates that being a truly great communicator is not simply about being articulate or being a "good talker." It is not about fancy visuals and PowerPoint presentations, or hard-core sales pitches, or even who has the most facts, figures, and technical wizardry. What really counts is making an authentic connection with other people that comes not merely from the intellect but from the heart.

If you want to make a lasting impact, Dr. Adubato shows you how to engage people through empathy and understanding, how to be a great listener, and how to make an audience -- whether one, one hundred, or one thousand people -- care about you and your message. He helps you to rely less on written speeches, teleprompters, and index cards full of too much forgettable information, and learn, instead, how to tell a compelling story and create excitement and enthusiasm. peak from the Heart will not only make it easier for you to communicate your message without being ignored or misunderstood; it will also improve your relationships with other people and help you to become more productive at work -- with more satisfaction and less stress. Written by a man who has trained thousands of professionals in all walks of life, including corporate managers, lawyers, educators, health professionals, salespeople, and customer service reps, Speak from the Heart is for anyone who interacts with others at work, at home, in the community, or at social functions.

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We often forget how closely the physical act of speaking is tied to our fortunes in the world: Even the word vocation derives from the Latin word vox, which we would translate as "voice." In this well-presented book, Steve Adubato, himself a television anchor and voice trainer, and his coauthor, Theresa Foy DiGeronimo, teach you how to understand and manage all the major facets involved in communicating with others. From body language to eye contact, empathic listening, and the basics of small talk, the authors explore all the nuances and possibilities that we often overlook. From there, they go on to offer specific suggestions on how to be a better speaker in work situations. People who wish to improve their communication skills will find the advice and instructions contained in this book to be of real help.
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These two books treat similar subjects, but the contrasts are significant. One covers the entire landscape of speaking, whereas the other focuses just on "small talk." The title of Speak from the Heart describes the book's very solid premise. Emmy Award-winning broadcaster and motivational speaker Adubato emphasizes the importance of being genuine as he attempts to cover every conceivable speaking situation, including public speaking, private conversations, group discussions, and listening. He guides readers in the use of eye contact, developing a conversational style, and being comfortable with their message. Despite many charming personal anecdotes and stories drawn from other sources, this book remains a heavy read. Ironically, while Adubato tells us to make a connection with our audience rather than to "cover the material," he does a much better job of covering the material than of connecting. In contrast, Fine fully engages her audience. She involves readers in the discussion and gives lists of lines people can use to start, maintain, or end a conversation. She discusses conversation topics and how to use them and also includes quizzes, throws in a poem, and scatters a few cartoons to break up the text. Originally released as an audiocassette in 1997, this work comes across much like one of her seminars on small talk. The Fine Art of Small Talk does everything that Speak from the Heart says should be done. Adubato's book is best for academic libraries or large public and business libraries. Fine's is a better choice for most public libraries, as well as business libraries. David Leonhardt, Toronto Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information.
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Mark Victor Hansen co-creator, #1 New York Times bestselling series, Chicken Soup for the Soul The heart of speaking is speaking from the heart, and Steve Adubato has mastered this important art form and shares with you its mighty secrets.

Bill Bradley former U.S. Senator It took me ten years of public speaking to learn what Speak from the Heart shares in a few hours of reading...A great resource and a fun read!

Tommy Lasorda former manager, Los Angeles Dodgers, two-time World Series Champions Steve Adubato has hit a home run with Speak from the Heart. It's passionate, personal, and practical.

Bill Baker President, WNET/Channel 13 (PBS), New York Steve is a one-of-a-kind communicator who gives advice that can help you get heard in an increasingly superficial world.

Laura Berman Fortgang author of Living Your Best Life Whether you need to make a speech or talk straight with your kids, Speak from the Heart will become your bible for expressing yourself.

Dr. Jane Greer author of Gridlock: Finding the Courage to Move On in Love, Work and Life In Speak from the Heart, Dr. Adubato demonstrates how passion and compassion can empower and enrich all your personal and professional relationships...A must-read.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780743521000
  • Publisher: Simon & Schuster Audio
  • Publication date: 4/1/2002
  • Format: CD
  • Edition description: Abridged, 2 CDs, 2 hrs. 20 min.
  • Product dimensions: 5.70 (w) x 5.02 (h) x 0.45 (d)

Meet the Author

Steve Adubato, Ph.D., has enjoyed a distinguished career as a broadcaster, author, university professor, and motivational speaker. Steve is a Rutgers University lecturer, four-time Emmy Award-winning television anchor for WNET/Channel 13 (PBS), and newspaper columnist. In addition to his work on public television, Steve is an expert commentator for ABC/7 in New York. Adubato also served in the mid-1980s as New Jersey's youngest state legislator at age twenty-six.

A much sought-after motivational speaker, for the past decade Dr. Adubato has conducted communication, leadership, and team-building workshops for a variety of clients in the corporate and nonprofit sectors, including Prudential, PaineWebber, Johnson & Johnson, Merrill Lynch, the United Nations, and the American Cancer Society. His motivational program, called "Stand and Deliver: Speak from the Heart," is a dynamic, hands-on professional development and training program that Dr. Adubato created to help professionals reach their potential as communicators and leaders. You can visit the program's Web site at www.stand-deliver.com.

Currently the anchor of two WNET/Channel 13 (PBS) broadcasts and a syndicated television series called "One-on-One" with Steve Adubato, Adubato has interviewed hundreds of guests, including such public figures as Rudy Giuliani, Colin Powell, Bill Bradley, Al Gore, Bobbi Brown, Ralph Nader, Sam Donaldson, Tommy Lasorda, David Dinkins, Ed Koch, Ross Perot, Jesse Jackson, and Christie Whitman. He has also gone one-on-one with CEOs of Fortune 500 corporations, entrepreneurs, and athletes, as well as with ordinary people accomplishing extraordinary things.

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Introduction

On September 11, 2001, President George W. Bush faced the most difficult task of his presidency. As a public figure not known to be a compelling or charismatic speaker, he had to talk directly to the American people about the terrorist attacks on the World Trade Center and the Pentagon — acts that were beyond words, beyond description, and beyond comprehension. What could he say to address our fears and bolster our spirits? After much soul searching, he chose to leave unspoken the political jargon and the facts and figures of central intelligence. Instead, he offered America a glimpse of his own feelings and emotions — his own sense of patriotism. On that day, and for weeks and months after, President Bush was more than simply a politician. He was a compassionate and caring leader to the thousands of grieving families of those who had died. And his words continued to be a steady and calming presence in the midst of horror and devastation for all of us. You can't do that without speaking from a highly personal and human perspective. You can't do that without speaking from the heart.

This compelling example and my own experience as a state legislator, broadcaster, motivational speaker, and university professor have taught me invaluable lessons about the power of honest communication. Speak from the Heart shares these lessons and introduces a new way of communicating and connecting with others. You will learn that being a truly great communicator is not about simply being articulate. It is not about being a "good talker." It is not about fancy visuals and PowerPoint presentations that are nothing more than data dumps. It's about feelings, and human connection, and engagement, and empathy. It's not about who has the most facts, figures, and technical wizardry. It's about who can make an audience care about the message and who can find the words that touch not only the intellect but also the heart.

The title of this book perfectly expresses what these pages boil down to. My premise is that too many of us don't understand how to communicate in ways that reach others on a personal human level. I believe that the way we have been taught to view communication is convoluted and often counterproductive. From elementary school on, we have been told that the purpose of communication is largely "to transmit information." What a narrow view! The problem with simply giving out information is that it is a one-way experience and not especially engaging. Effective communication means more than just sending out a message and hoping it is received. It means touching people, moving people, and connecting with people, be it one or one hundred. From the U.S. secretary of state Colin Powell and former Dodger Hall of Fame manager Tommy Lasorda to lesser known but no less dynamic communicators, this book explores the essence of being real with yourself and with your audience.

This book is for all those who were taught to give book reports as little kids by reading verbatim from a piece of paper to make sure all the material was covered. It's for those of us who were forced to listen to unimaginative college professors who lectured from the same tired notes year after year without passion or enthusiasm, much less with eye contact. It is also for the PTA president, community activist, or toast giver who is deathly afraid to speak in public because he or she lacks the tools, and therefore the confidence, to do it well.

Beyond public speaking, this book attempts to understand what it takes to engage in a meaningful conversation. Small talk can pay big dividends. Together, we will explore the power of what we don't say and also how body language and nonverbal cues can either support or contradict our words. We will delve into how to make a positive first impression while still being true to yourself and not being a "phony." We'll consider what it takes to be a truly great and caring listener. We'll discuss the importance of empathy and compassion and of improving our relationship with family, friends, and colleagues.

This book is especially relevant to all those who lead or are part of a team. I am fascinated by teamwork and the communication skills required to keep a group of unique personalities focused on a single goal. To show that there is no one "correct" way to lead a team, I have profiled numerous leaders with differing styles, from the quiet, calm, and supportive Yankee manager Joe Torre, to an intense, in-your-face CEO who believes you need to "kick some ass" to get your people to respond. I have also shared my own experiences as a flawed but always ready-to-learn leader, who believes that what it often comes down to is the ability to communicate compassion, caring, and confidence to those who are willing to stand beside you. These teamwork tools and tips are no less relevant to a family team of five than to a corporate team of five thousand.

No book about communication would be complete without addressing the influence of information technology. If you use computers, e-mail, PowerPoint, cell phones, faxes, or beepers, I'll show you why, as great as high-tech tools can be, you must avoid the temptation to hide behind them or let them control you or your message. It's crucial to remember that the message is always in you — not in the equipment. In a world dominated by instant and constant high-tech communication, keeping the human touch is more important than ever.

We will also explore the world of gender communication, drawing on the expertise and wisdom of gender experts Dr. Patricia Kuchon and Dr. King Mott, as well as a group of men and women, including some of my closest friends and family, who were willing to share their feelings, fears, and confusion about communicating with the opposite sex.

Ultimately, speaking from the heart comes down to being real and knowing yourself. Being a great communicator is not about copying someone else's style. It is about knowing what's in your heart and asking yourself what you truly believe, then having the courage, passion, and conviction to share those beliefs with others. How can you be yourself without knowing yourself? From Oprah and actor/entertainer Joe Piscopo to Pulitzer Prize-winning author Anna Quindlen, the final chapter makes the case that speaking from the heart requires a level of honesty and introspection that many of us have not yet explored. It requires us to ask challenging questions. It is the answers to these questions that allow us a level of freedom and confidence that is amazingly liberating. I know because I've asked and answered some of these questions, and I know what it has done for me as a person and as a communicator.

Copyright © 2002 by Steve Adubato

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Table of Contents

Introduction xi
Communicating with Passion 1
1. The Personal Touch 3
2. Lecture Less; Engage More 10
3. Communicating Under Pressure 21
Talking Without Speaking 33
4. Body Language Speaks Volumes 35
5. The Power of First Impressions 46
6. The Eyes Have It 58
Listen Up 67
7. Gaining an Edge with Effective Listening Habits 69
8. Active Listening: "Enough About Me, Let's Talk About You" 81
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First Chapter

Chapter 1: The Personal Touch

Would you rather listen to someone with a monotone voice who awkwardly reads from a written speech or to someone who communicates with passion, conviction, and feeling? The answer seems so obvious it's hardly worth mentioning, never mind writing a book about, but if you've recently attended a conference, convention, awards dinner, graduation, business or political meeting, or even a wedding, you know that, unfortunately, it is rare to come across someone who knows how to put aside the written speech and simply have a conversation that comes from the heart. No doubt you've heard presenters drone on as they read carefully prepared words off a piece of paper. You've seen them lose their place and stumble to recover their thoughts. You've seen the slide projector or PowerPoint equipment break down, the audio fall out of sync with the visuals. You've listened to statistics and you've looked at charts and graphs without hearing or seeing them in any meaningful way. How did you respond to these speakers? I'll bet many of you have dozed off occasionally or at the very least tuned out the speaker to take a short mental vacation in which you plan what you'll have for dinner and what you'll do on the weekend. You may even have walked out — I know I have. These experiences can make you nervous about giving your own presentation because they show you firsthand how easy it is to lose an audience.

Have you ever tried to figure out why it's so hard to keep an audience (or even one other person) interested in what you say? If you stand back and objectively view any presentation, you can quite easily see how things go so wrong. The world of business and most professional situations are dominated by people speaking from every place other than their authentic self. Somewhere along the way they have come to believe that if they inundate people with enough facts, figures, stats, charts, and graphs their message will be too compelling, the logic too indisputable, to ignore.

I remember waiting my turn to give a speech at a business conference in New York City. The five people before me gave extremely well rehearsed PowerPoint presentations. The lights were down; the bells and whistles were going off; the speakers were clicking their slides along in perfect synchronization one to the next. After an hour or so of this, it was my turn. I got up and said, "I have to apologize for not coming prepared with a PowerPoint presentation for you." The audience cheered, applauding wildly. They were thrilled that someone was going to turn on the lights, look at their faces, and talk with them rather than at them. My presentation focused on communication competence and connecting with people in a low-tech, conversational way. I spoke what I believed. I tried to talk with conviction from a place rooted in strong feelings. I told them about the mistakes I've made as a communicator and the ways I was trying to improve. I used real-life examples and anecdotes to support and explain my main point. I told them about my own communication challenge of trying to become a better listener. The audience stayed with me; they asked good questions; I asked them questions; we were engaging each other. No one, that I could see, dozed off. The "magic" in that style of communicating compared to the others was simply this: my effort to make a personal connection with the audience.

I certainly don't own the patent on this idea. There have been far more powerful speakers since the beginning of humankind who, with mere words, could inspire people to move mountains. Consider great communicators like Jesus or Gandhi, who through their powerful lessons about the nature of right and wrong moved people to change their lives. Consider Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., who changed the course of history with his forceful words of conviction. (Can you imagine Dr. King giving his "I Have a Dream" speech in PowerPoint?)

Unfortunately, the ability to touch people with words is becoming a lost art. In an age in which we are overwhelmed with information, data, and technical wizardry, our society is hungry for people to speak to us in a human, personal way. That's exactly why Oprah Winfrey is so successful. Every day she communicates a sense of genuine caring by empathizing with her guests and audience. Her tremendous skill as a communicator allows her to engage in a personal heart-to-heart conversation with them. She is living proof that audiences are quick to appreciate the spoken word that is not written by a professional speechwriter or advertising jargon master, that is not dependent on the bells and whistles of high-tech, audiovisual support, and that is not crafted to sound good in a fifteen-second media sound bite.

I recently experienced this effect as a member of the audience myself at my son's graduation from second grade (no caps and gowns here, but our educational system now moves him into a middle school). I sat back at this graduation ceremony expecting the usual little speeches that say, "We're so proud of your children....They have all worked so hard....We will miss them and wish them good luck." But I was soon surprised. Judith Conk, the superintendent of the school system, touched each one of the several hundred parents that day in a way none of us will soon forget. She told us that her own children were in their twenties and that she sometimes has a hard time remembering what each one was like in the second grade. She then asked us to take a moment to look at our children on the stage — not through the lens of a video camera, but from our deepest selves — and to burn that picture into our memory so that when the years flew by, we would always have that mental picture to cherish. She spoke to us without notes in a very personal, human way. Although I no longer recall the other speeches given that day, her words are forever etched in my memory.

Not all speakers know how to do this — or are even willing to try. During that same week, I watched a political candidate who had just won a hotly contested primary election for major public office illustrate a more common and flawed style of speech making. As he read his carefully prepared acceptance speech, he kept losing his place when the audience interrupted him with applause. He would then fumble along searching frantically for his next words. He had no idea what he really wanted to say to these thousands of enthusiastic supporters. He didn't realize that they didn't want to hear a "canned" speech — they simply wanted him to look into their eyes and tell them how he felt at this very special moment. He failed to capitalize on the opportunity that their enthusiasm offered to really connect and create a memorable and meaningful exchange.

I'll wager that not one of the millions who heard the candidate's speech live and on TV could tell me today a single detail of that message, but that not one parent will ever forget the message he or she received from Judith Conk at that graduation.

Making the Connection

In addition to the many dreary speeches I've had to sit through, I've also listened to many exceptionally good ones. In all my experience, no one that I know of reaches an audience better than General Colin Powell. This top military man, who has lived most of his life in a world dictated by strict rules and procedures, has mastered as well as anyone the ability to talk to people in a caring and empathic way. I've seen him do this on several occasions, but the speech that stands out in my mind is a presentation he gave as chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff to a gathering of army nurses at the groundbreaking for the Vietnam Women's Memorial.

In analyzing how he prepared for this critically important speech that brought his audience first to tears and then to their feet with cheers, General Powell says, "There were a lot of things I wanted to say to these women, but most of all I wanted them to know how important they were to our country. And I wanted to make a personal, human connection. My speechwriters gave me some ideas, but they didn't seem to capture the essence of what I felt — which is understandable because they're not me. I had to ask myself how I really felt about these women and about the way the United States military had treated them in the past. I read some books, some memoirs, that nurses had written about the feelings and emotions they had bottled up for so many years after the Vietnam War. And I read some of their poems and I was deeply moved by what these women had gone through. This helped me understand what I wanted to say to them, but it was still a very difficult speech for me to write and to deliver."

General Powell did this preparatory research, not to pile on the data, statistics, and facts, but because he wanted to feel a sense of empathy with the nurses' point of view on a personal level. "I saw combat every now and again," he said, "but the nurses saw the consequences of combat every single day as these youngsters were brought in, broken and shot, wounded. And they had to comfort them. They were those moms and sisters and aunts and loved ones and wives in the last few moments of the lives of these young people. And we had not properly recognized that or adequately acknowledged the contribution that women and especially the nurses have made, not just in the Vietnam War but throughout our nation's history in combat."

The result of these personal insights gave General Powell the body of a speech that did not follow the expected military line. He did not go to that groundbreaking to take the easy way out by saying something like: "We thank you for your contribution. You should be proud of all you have done. Blah, blah, blah." He brought with him that day honest words filled with personal perspective, emotion, and candor. Here is a short excerpt from this extremely personal and human interaction. It is a classic example of a speaker establishing a true connection with his audience:

"How much of your heart did you leave there? How often were you the mother for a kid asking for Mom in the last few seconds of his life? How many nineteen-year-old sons did you lose? I didn't realize, although I should have, what a burden you carried. I didn't realize how much your sacrifice equaled and even exceeded that of the men. I didn't realize how much we owed to you then and how much we should have thanked you and recognized you and comforted you since then."

It doesn't get better than that.

Do It Now

To speak like General Powell does not mean talking off the cuff or discounting the value of the intellect or a rational argument. It remains necessary to invest time in preparation, research, planning, and practice. But it means that you prepare differently than you might be accustomed to. To begin to prepare speeches with a significant impact, try these two steps:

Step One: Determine How You Feel About Your Primary Message

Making a personal and honest connection is impossible unless you tap your feelings. A simple and practical brainstorming exercise will help you do this with ease. To begin, think of the topic you want to talk about and get in touch with your feelings on the subject. Focus on isolating those pieces that affect you most deeply. Jot down on a piece of paper any feelings or thoughts that come into your mind. Not complete sentences — just words and phrases. When I prepared a recent speech about race relations, for example, I sat down and put words on paper that the topic brought to mind — words like fear, frustration, anger, confusion, lack of empathy, prejudice, baggage, and hope. When the paper was full, I picked out the few words and phrases that I reacted most strongly to and focused my presentation on those key points. Once I had these, I could begin my research. I found quotations, facts, examples, and anecdotes to support my point of view and add to the points of my subject that touched me most. Remember that data mean nothing without context and in every case the context is how you feel about the subject, what matters most to you the speaker. This is where effective communication begins.

Step Two: Ask Yourself Three Key Questions

  1. What is my message? (This is the one thing you want people to remember when you finish.)
  2. Who is my audience? (What will move them? Touch them? Reach them? What do they need or want from me?)
  3. What do I want these people to do or feel when I'm finished?

Until you complete these two steps, you're not prepared to communicate in public no matter how many color slides you have, no matter how many pages of text you prepare, no matter how many hours of research and editing you invest. The most effective communicators connect personally with their audience, whether one-on-one, in small group conversations, or with crowds of thousands. It is the key to moving people into action, to persuading them, to gaining their support, or to resolving a conflict or difficult situation. This is the most powerful communication tool you have.

Copyright © 2002 by Steve Adubato

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Introduction

Introduction

On September 11, 2001, President George W. Bush faced the most difficult task of his presidency. As a public figure not known to be a compelling or charismatic speaker, he had to talk directly to the American people about the terrorist attacks on the World Trade Center and the Pentagon — acts that were beyond words, beyond description, and beyond comprehension. What could he say to address our fears and bolster our spirits? After much soul searching, he chose to leave unspoken the political jargon and the facts and figures of central intelligence. Instead, he offered America a glimpse of his own feelings and emotions — his own sense of patriotism. On that day, and for weeks and months after, President Bush was more than simply a politician. He was a compassionate and caring leader to the thousands of grieving families of those who had died. And his words continued to be a steady and calming presence in the midst of horror and devastation for all of us. You can't do that without speaking from a highly personal and human perspective. You can't do that without speaking from the heart.

This compelling example and my own experience as a state legislator, broadcaster, motivational speaker, and university professor have taught me invaluable lessons about the power of honest communication. Speak from the Heart shares these lessons and introduces a new way of communicating and connecting with others. You will learn that being a truly great communicator is not about simply being articulate. It is not about being a "good talker." It is not about fancy visuals and PowerPoint presentations that are nothing more than data dumps. It's about feelings, and human connection, and engagement, and empathy. It's not about who has the most facts, figures, and technical wizardry. It's about who can make an audience care about the message and who can find the words that touch not only the intellect but also the heart.

The title of this book perfectly expresses what these pages boil down to. My premise is that too many of us don't understand how to communicate in ways that reach others on a personal human level. I believe that the way we have been taught to view communication is convoluted and often counterproductive. From elementary school on, we have been told that the purpose of communication is largely "to transmit information." What a narrow view! The problem with simply giving out information is that it is a one-way experience and not especially engaging. Effective communication means more than just sending out a message and hoping it is received. It means touching people, moving people, and connecting with people, be it one or one hundred. From the U.S. secretary of state Colin Powell and former Dodger Hall of Fame manager Tommy Lasorda to lesser known but no less dynamic communicators, this book explores the essence of being real with yourself and with your audience.

This book is for all those who were taught to give book reports as little kids by reading verbatim from a piece of paper to make sure all the material was covered. It's for those of us who were forced to listen to unimaginative college professors who lectured from the same tired notes year after year without passion or enthusiasm, much less with eye contact. It is also for the PTA president, community activist, or toast giver who is deathly afraid to speak in public because he or she lacks the tools, and therefore the confidence, to do it well.

Beyond public speaking, this book attempts to understand what it takes to engage in a meaningful conversation. Small talk can pay big dividends. Together, we will explore the power of what we don't say and also how body language and nonverbal cues can either support or contradict our words. We will delve into how to make a positive first impression while still being true to yourself and not being a "phony." We'll consider what it takes to be a truly great and caring listener. We'll discuss the importance of empathy and compassion and of improving our relationship with family, friends, and colleagues.

This book is especially relevant to all those who lead or are part of a team. I am fascinated by teamwork and the communication skills required to keep a group of unique personalities focused on a single goal. To show that there is no one "correct" way to lead a team, I have profiled numerous leaders with differing styles, from the quiet, calm, and supportive Yankee manager Joe Torre, to an intense, in-your-face CEO who believes you need to "kick some ass" to get your people to respond. I have also shared my own experiences as a flawed but always ready-to-learn leader, who believes that what it often comes down to is the ability to communicate compassion, caring, and confidence to those who are willing to stand beside you. These teamwork tools and tips are no less relevant to a family team of five than to a corporate team of five thousand.

No book about communication would be complete without addressing the influence of information technology. If you use computers, e-mail, PowerPoint, cell phones, faxes, or beepers, I'll show you why, as great as high-tech tools can be, you must avoid the temptation to hide behind them or let them control you or your message. It's crucial to remember that the message is always in you — not in the equipment. In a world dominated by instant and constant high-tech communication, keeping the human touch is more important than ever.

We will also explore the world of gender communication, drawing on the expertise and wisdom of gender experts Dr. Patricia Kuchon and Dr. King Mott, as well as a group of men and women, including some of my closest friends and family, who were willing to share their feelings, fears, and confusion about communicating with the opposite sex.

Ultimately, speaking from the heart comes down to being real and knowing yourself. Being a great communicator is not about copying someone else's style. It is about knowing what's in your heart and asking yourself what you truly believe, then having the courage, passion, and conviction to share those beliefs with others. How can you be yourself without knowing yourself? From Oprah and actor/entertainer Joe Piscopo to Pulitzer Prize-winning author Anna Quindlen, the final chapter makes the case that speaking from the heart requires a level of honesty and introspection that many of us have not yet explored. It requires us to ask challenging questions. It is the answers to these questions that allow us a level of freedom and confidence that is amazingly liberating. I know because I've asked and answered some of these questions, and I know what it has done for me as a person and as a communicator.

Copyright © 2002 by Steve Adubato

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 20, 2002

    The bible of human communication.

    'Speak from the Heart' is an extraordinary intellectual and creative work. I can't imagine anyone not needing the pearls of wisdom that the author, Steve Adubato has presented to us in this fabulous literary work. Effective communication is what makes the world go round and 'Speak from the Heart' surely provides that momentum. As you can tell, I relish this book and I know you will too. Enjoy!

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