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(From Chapter 5: Coping With Rejection)
It Sank. Get Over It.
Someone created a T-shirt with a picture of the Titanic on the front and, on the back, the words: “It sank. Get over it.” The same can be said of rejection.
“Getting used to” rejection doesn’t mean that rejection loses its sting. It doesn’t. Nor is that a bad thing: I suspect that the day rejection ceases to hurt is the day one has lost one’s passion for writing. Pain isn’t a bad thing. Pain simply means we care.
At the same time, there are things you can do to ease the sting. The next time your material comes back with one of those awful slips, try one of these:
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· Have a rejection party. “Celebrate” your rejection with a pizza, a dish of ice cream, a trip to the movies. You have a right to celebrate: You have to be a writer to be rejected.
· Start a rejection slip file. Besides being useful for taxes (it proves to the IRS that you’re conducting a business), it can come in handy down the line, when you’re famous. Then you’ll be able to say, with a smug flourish, “Well, I was rejected 48 times before my story/novel/article was accepted by Megabucks Publishing...”
· Send your material to the next publisher on your list.
· Write something else. Better yet, start writing something else the minute your last piece is finished and out the door. Rejection stings less when your mind is occupied with a newer, and therefore more interesting, project.
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Remember, there is something worse than rejection, and that’s never writing (or submitting) anything to be rejected in the first place.