Staying Together When an Affair Pulls You Apart

Staying Together When an Affair Pulls You Apart

by Stephen M. Judah
     
 

Affairs happen, and when a marriage is threatened by infidelity, all parties involved can become desperate. The air gets pretty thin, and our ability to look past our immediate needs is compromised. We're tempted to look out only for ourselves, and the marital relationship is left hanging on for dear life.

How did we get here? Where do we go from here? Can this

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Overview

Affairs happen, and when a marriage is threatened by infidelity, all parties involved can become desperate. The air gets pretty thin, and our ability to look past our immediate needs is compromised. We're tempted to look out only for ourselves, and the marital relationship is left hanging on for dear life.

How did we get here? Where do we go from here? Can this relationship survive?

Steve Judah explores the phenomenon of infidelity, considering both the push of marital discord and the pull of sexual temptation. With clear and helpful analysis of the relational science behind infidelity, he delivers a tested way back toward a meaningful marriage.

Your marriage can survive and even thrive after infidelity has been confronted. This book provides a savvy, practical and hopeful guide for couples to navigate this turbulent terrain and find their way back to one another.

Editorial Reviews

Harville Hendrix
"This book reflects a deep understanding of the anatomy of affairs and how to survive them. Judah is a good writer, detailed and clear. Clinicians will find much to assist them in working with couples, and sophisticated readers will find excellent guidance in repairing their relationship."
Diane Sollee
"This wonderful book provides hope--the most important ingredient for recovery after infidelity. The hope rests on five essential disciplines: practical, step-by-step guidelines that help couples navigate the broken terrain and rebuild trust. I highly recommend it."
Ken Blackwell
"Dr. Judah's experience and training reveal the need for high character to inform our marriages when infidelity breaches have occurred. This book can and will help those who desire to reconcile with their spouse and be restored to their family."
Donald M. Joy
"Stephen M. Judah could have become a distinguished research scholar and settled down in the academy as a teacher. Instead, he writes as a lieutenant wrestling in the frontlines of marriages coming unglued. His persistent, careful observation of human experience and his dedication to establish a model of triage for the wounded have given him visible wisdom and an authority unlike anyone I know who writes on healing for broken relationships. Look no further: this is the premier treatment of 'the affair,' and all of us will find ways to incorporate the wisdom the author offers."
The Daily Sentinel
Judah offers very practical advice in bringing healing and reconciliation to everyone involved, including the third party in the affair.
Truth Magazine
In Staying Together, Stephen M. Judah provides very helpful information about what kind of affairs exist, what causes affairs, and how affairs affect the offending party. The major contribution of this book is found in the author's practical steps he offers couples who seek to reunite after experience infidelity.
Library Journal
Tackling the ever-pervasive reality of marital infidelity, psychologist Judah (executive director, Columbus Marriage Coalition) presents a comprehensive discussion of why affairs take place and how couples can restructure their marriages afterward. The author, who has himself been married for more than 35 years, examines how the stage of infidelity is set in childhood, how to overcome infidelity safely, and how to move relationships toward wholeness. While he encourages disclosure (in most cases) and reconciliation rather than divorce, he acknowledges how difficult and grief-ridden that process can be. Judah provides quite a few biblical examples, but his sound advice stands on its own. Clear, well researched, and well presented, this book is highly recommended for all public libraries. Copyright 2006 Reed Business Information.

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780830833993
Publisher:
InterVarsity Press
Publication date:
06/09/2006
Pages:
197
Sales rank:
990,915
Product dimensions:
5.50(w) x 8.25(h) x 0.60(d)

What People are saying about this

Ken Blackwell
"Dr. Judah's experience and training reveal the need for high character to inform our marriages when infidelity breaches have occurred. This book can and will help those who desire to reconcile with their spouse and be restored to their family."
Ken Blackwell, Ohio Secretary of State
Donald M. Joy
"Stephen M. Judah could have become a distinguished research scholar and settled down in the academy as a teacher. Instead, he writes as a lieutenant wrestling in the frontlines of marriages coming unglued. His persistent, careful observation of human experience and his dedication to establish a model of triage for the wounded have given him visible wisdom and an authority unlike anyone I know who writes on healing for broken relationships. Look no further: this is the premier treatment of 'the affair,' and all of us will find ways to incorporate the wisdom the author offers."
Donald M. Joy, Ph.D., Professor of Human Development and Family Studies, Asbury Theological Seminary
Harville Hendrix
"This book reflects a deep understanding of the anatomy of affairs and how to survive them. Judah is a good writer, detailed and clear. Clinicians will find much to assist them in working with couples, and sophisticated readers will find excellent guidance in repairing their relationship."
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples
Diane Sollee
"This wonderful book provides hope--the most important ingredient for recovery after infidelity. The hope rests on five essential disciplines: practical, step-by-step guidelines that help couples navigate the broken terrain and rebuild trust. I highly recommend it."
Diane Sollee, M.S.W., founder and director, SmartMarriages.com

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Meet the Author

Stephen M. Judah (1950-2008) was a psychologist in private practice, a workshop presenter and an advanced clinician in Imago marriage therapy. He also served as executive director of the Columbus Marriage Coalition (Columbus, Ohio). He wrote Staying Together When an Affair Pulls You Apart.

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