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Step Wars: Overcoming the Perils and Making Peace in Adult Stepfamilies
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More and more people over age sixty-five are remarrying each year, and few families are prepared for the avalanche of feelings that comes when adult children learn that a parent is getting remarried. Psychiatrist Grace Gabe and award winning author Jean Lipman-Blumen provide a practical guide with advice and understanding for every family facing this increasingly common, complex situation. Using case studies from a variety of perspectives, chapters address concerns frequently faced, including:
* Who Should Inherit My Property? Managing Financial Conflict Between the Generations
* Health and Illness: Thank Heaven the Caretaker Is On Duty
*The Grandchildren: Innocent Pawns (or Occasional Bridges) in Stepfamily Conflicts
Written for both the couple getting married as well as their adult children, Step Wars is the only book in the market that focuses on the blending of adult families.
| Acknowledgments | vii | |
| Introduction | ix | |
| Part I | Entering a Foreign Land: Some Travel Necessities | 1 |
| 1 | Announcing the Good News: Why Isn't Everybody Happy? | 3 |
| 2 | The Wedding: Here Comes the Bride, Here Comes Complexity | 19 |
| 3 | Step Matters: Which Role Will You Play? | 41 |
| 4 | Opportunities or Dangers? Can the Graces Overcome the Furies? | 65 |
| Part II | Does History Matter? | 89 |
| 5 | What If the Old Marriage Ended in Divorce? | 91 |
| 6 | What Happens When Widow(er)hood Precedes Remarriage? | 112 |
| Part III | Critical Landmarks Along the Way | 133 |
| 7 | Whose House Is This Anyway? | 135 |
| 8 | Whom Do You Love Best? Your Lover or Your Other Loved Ones? | 157 |
| 9 | Your Children and Mine: Can They Ever Become Ours? | 174 |
| 10 | The Grandchildren: Pawns or Bridges? | 193 |
| 11 | Who Should Inherit My Property? | 208 |
| 12 | My Inheritance: Great Expectations Gone with the Wind | 228 |
| 13 | Love Is Great the Second (or Third) Time Around, But Should the Old Folks Be Doing It? | 241 |
| 14 | When Couples Don't Marry | 254 |
| 15 | Family Holidays, Celebrations, and Commemorations: The Banana Peel Beneath Your Heel | 271 |
| 16 | Health and Illness: Thank Heaven the Caretaker Is on Duty | 288 |
| Part IV | Destination Reached: A Pocket Guide | 313 |
| 17 | The Brave New World of Adult Stepfamilies | 315 |
| Glossary | 329 | |
| Index | 333 |
Anonymous
Posted April 22, 2004
Finally! A book that emerges amidst the sea of stepfamily guides, offering direction through the waters of ADULT stepfamilies. Step Wars assists your travel through the life of an adult stepfamily beginning with the conception of the relationship, and covering the plethora of complications, which lead up to the inheritance at its bereavement. Straying from the theoretical pathway that too many authors follow, Grace Gabe and Jean Lipman-Blumen intertwine their theories and advise among the examples from real individuals as they experience adult stepfamiles. As you read through the various interviews throughout the book, you¿ll inevitably stumble upon a scenario that hits close to home. Step Wars is more than just a book about adult stepfamilies; it is a handbook that EVERY stepparent and stepchild should not live without. As you find yourself confronted with any difficult crossroad, you¿ll undoubtedly find the answer you need within the covers of this book.
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Posted November 3, 2011
Step Wars was a very interesting book that shed light on unfamiliar, and often uncertain times that will arise when adjusting to an adult step family. This book shows ways to maneuver around the problems presented in adjusting into a step family. Through a plethora of different presented solutions,Grace Gabe and Jean Lipman-Blumen show the steps needed to solve the problems,in addition to the probable problems that will arise. While this book did not truly apply to me, I was still able to enjoy this books message. In my personal opinion, some of the tips used in this book could be used to settle everyday family issues. Overall, this book has enlightened me on some of the ways on how to face family tribulations, as well as resolve them in a civilized manner without all of the fighting involved. Overall I thank Grace Gabe and Jean Lipman-Blumen for writing this very intriguing novel.
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Overview
More and more people over age sixty-five are remarrying each year, and few families are prepared for the avalanche of feelings that comes when adult children learn that a parent is getting remarried. Psychiatrist Grace Gabe and award winning author Jean Lipman-Blumen provide a practical guide with advice and understanding for every family facing this increasingly common, complex situation. Using case studies from a variety of perspectives, chapters address concerns frequently faced, including:
* Who Should Inherit My Property? Managing Financial Conflict Between the Generations
* Health and Illness: Thank Heaven the Caretaker Is On Duty
*The Grandchildren: Innocent Pawns (or Occasional ...