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Stepped Up: The Urgency for Fatherhood
     

Stepped Up: The Urgency for Fatherhood

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by Ralph Harper
 
In his emotional and at times shocking debut, author, Ralph Harper shares the journey he and his stepson, Cody, took as Harper comported himself as Cody's father in the absence of Cody's biological father. The confluence of their stories is compelling as Cody's antics as a child and as he grew into adulthood tested Harper's parenting calculus.

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In his emotional and at times shocking debut, author, Ralph Harper shares the journey he and his stepson, Cody, took as Harper comported himself as Cody's father in the absence of Cody's biological father. The confluence of their stories is compelling as Cody's antics as a child and as he grew into adulthood tested Harper's parenting calculus.

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Kirkus Reviews
2013-11-01
A straight-talking memoir about a stepfather's sometimes rocky but always loving relationship with the blue-eyed stepson who stole his heart. In his lively debut, Harper, an African-American, doesn't dwell on racial differences between himself and his stepson, Cody, whose biological father is Caucasian, but skin color isn't really what makes this relationship unique. What stands out is Harper's heartfelt bond with Cody--the two met when Cody was 3--and his determination to remain an active stepfather, even after his marriage to Cody's mother ended in divorce. With an amiable voice, the author cobbles together the story of his life with Cody over the years, discussing child-rearing topics, especially discipline. Harper doesn't claim to be an expert on the subject--his methods were sometimes spur-of-the-moment attempts to teach Cody "life lessons." Once, he paddled Cody, and he now seems to regret it, since he spends a great deal of time explaining it. When the precocious Cody wouldn't take his schoolwork seriously, Harper forced him to write "My education is my number-one priority" a thousand times. There's some rambling in the narrative and quite a bit of repetition as Harper drives his points home, but the overall story remains vivid. The author also analyzes underlying emotional reasons why he stayed in Cody's life: "My relationship with Cody has turned out to be an amazingly important personal journey for me because, sadly, my other children became victims to certain women's respective ‘right to choose.' " Additionally, his relationship with his own father in Alabama wasn't ideal. Regardless of whether readers agree with Harper's personal views or parenting style, most will agree that he admirably filled a role which Cody's biological father, who rarely enters the scene, did not. Harper's central message is not that families with blood relations are better than blended families; rather, this is a soapbox call for fathers to "man up" because, writes Harper, children need them, and it's never too late to make amends. An earnest, touching story of a man and his stepson.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781490320717
Publisher:
CreateSpace Publishing
Publication date:
08/21/2013
Pages:
284
Product dimensions:
5.25(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.60(d)

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Stepped Up: The Urgency for Fatherhood 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 1 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I loved the book.  It is well written, easy to read and really sends a clear message about not only the importance, but how imperative it is for each child to have a father in their lives.  Through Ralph and Cody's journey, everyone can relate to this true story.   This is an inspirational and incredible journey. It gives all hope that if we have "parents that truly step up", then our kids have a  fighting change to succeed in life.  This is a book that I will be passing on to others to read and be inspired and encouraged to step up and raise the kids of our world.    It is an amaazing journey of a step-father who is thrust into raising a child that has been abandoned by his own father and Ralph save's his life by stepping in and stepping up to give those needed boundaries and encourage and teach his son, Cody, how important his life decisions and educational choices will be in shaping his life to be.   I love this book!  Read it! Thanks, Ralph and Cody!   KT