Steven Petrow's Complete Gay & Lesbian Manners: The Definitive Guide to LGBT Life

Steven Petrow's Complete Gay & Lesbian Manners: The Definitive Guide to LGBT Life

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Finally, the first big book of manners for the more than 15 million lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people in the United States and Canada and the people who love them, work with them, and live with them. Written by Steven

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**In recognition of Quality, Excellence, and Design, this ebook has been granted a QED seal of approval from Digital Book World.**
Finally, the first big book of manners for the more than 15 million lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people in the United States and Canada and the people who love them, work with them, and live with them. Written by Steven Petrow, the go-to authority on the subject—he’s the same-sex wedding expert at The New York Times and a columnist for The Huffington Post, Yahoo’s Shine, GayWeddings.com, and the “Q” Syndicate (with distribution to more than 100 LGBT newspapers and websites)—this is the definitive book of LGBT etiquette.

Encyclopedic in its approach, filled with practical wisdom, lively wit, and much insight, Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lesbian Manners covers everything: from coming out to being out in the workplace; from dealing with the joy and complexity of same-sex weddings and commitment ceremonies (including how to propose and write meaningful vows) to handling the legal paperwork every couple needs. There’s a chapter on sex etiquette, and another on the challenges and opportunities of raising a family, plus sections on travel, bullying, entertaining, meeting new friends, introducing your partner to your family, a primer on gay pride, and so much more.

Throughout there are hundreds of questions—some posed by LGBT folk, and others by straight people: What do the mothers of two brides wear to a lesbian wedding? What do you say to an anti-gay joke? How do you answer “Who’s the father?” when there are two mothers?

Manners, yes, but with a twist.

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher
How do you come out to your kid? When two men get married, who buys the engagement ring? ... Petrow dives into all these questions with thoughtful, measured advice. ...Ms. Post would approve.
Entertainment Weekly

How do you come out to your kid? When two men get married, who buys the engagement ring? ... Petrow dives into all these questions with thoughtful, measured advice. ...Ms. Post would approve. —Entertainment Weekly

Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lesbian Manners helps gays and straights navigate the subtleties of the same-sex world.” —People

“Move over, Emily Post! When it comes to etiquette for members of the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community—as well as their straight friends, family members and coworkers—author and journalist Steven Petrow is the authority.” —Time

“What could’ve easily become a novelty book has emerged as an exhaustively researched, essential resource thanks to advice columnist and etiquette expert Steven Petrow.” —The Advocate

Kirkus Reviews

Syndicated writer andNew York Timessame-sex wedding expert updates his volume on manners and navigating gay and lesbian life.

Petrow (The Essential Book of Gay Manners & Etiquette, 1995) concedes that manuals on propriety can seem passé by contemporary standards, but he believes that "treating everyone with respect and decency makes for a better and fairer world, and that manners are among the best ways to make sure we do." The author sees little difference between good behavior in the gay world versus the heterosexual one, but most etiquette books, he writes, fail to address predicaments unique to the homosexual (LGBT) population. In the sensitive, smartly conceived opening section, Petrow establishes then acknowledges the pride and pitfalls of sexual orientation. Important chapters on supportive friendships follow, which include timely resources on bullying, gay suicide, and the Trevor Project's prevention helpline. The author then cheerily delves into more naturally provocative material like romance and sexual etiquette, where the delicate dance of that first in-person date and the joys of a committed relationship meet the technologically savvy world of online profiles, social-media navigation and breaking up via text message. Petrow also gives equal space to more important issues, like ruminations on HIV status disclosure, infidelity, domestic violence, workplace discrimination and homophobic travel destinations. He also examines gay weddings, with appropriate rules for rings, invitations, attire and even honeymoons. Also effective is the author's addition of a wide range of asides, like the gay-focused "queery" and heterosexual-based "straight talk" inserts. Most gay men and women will find something of interest here, whether they're contemplating marriage, starting a family, coming out of the closet or simply setting the dinner table.

An indispensable refresher course, alternately edifying and campy, on what's proper in modern gay life.

Children's Literature - Paula McMillen
Author Petrow's credentials for writing this book are substantial. He currently moderates the website www.gaymanners.com, was former president of the Lesbian & Gay Journalists Association and has written on gay manners for such publications as The Huffington Post, The Advocate, Salon, The New York Times and The Los Angeles Times. The scope of coverage is impressive and the range of topics is sometimes a little jarring—from the particulars of when and how to bring out the sex toys on a first date to how to fold the napkins at a dinner party. There is, however, nothing salacious about this book. Every topic is treated in a non-judgmental and reasonably respectful manner although the tone can occasionally be humorous or serious as needed. There is nothing funny about bullying, but humor may help in defusing other uncomfortable situations. Chapters include: Coming Out, Dating, Sex Etiquette, Moving In Together, Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies, Being a Parent, Bullying & Homophobia, Entertaining, Workplace Issues, and Travel. There is an extensive list of resources following the text. Avery good index has been provided. "Queeries" and "Straight Talk" which are questions from both LGBT and straight readers of the website along with Petrow's answers are interspersed throughout. This is an incredibly informative book, not only for LGBTQ individuals but for those who know them. There is certainly information here that would be useful for teens, especially the chapter on coming out, but the primary audience is adults. Given the very explicit descriptions of sexual behaviors in some chapters, this might also present problems for school libraries so this book is probably more useful for public libraries. Reviewer: Paula McMillen, Ph.D.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780761156703
Publisher:
Workman Publishing Company, Inc.
Publication date:
06/01/2011
Pages:
448
Sales rank:
379,164
Product dimensions:
7.40(w) x 9.10(h) x 1.50(d)

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Kate Kendell
"This is not your mother’s book on manners. Steven Petrow provides tons of information and guidance on everything from coming out to hookups to dealing with hostile or nosy family or coworkers. For the entire queer community and all who love us or want to figure us out, Steven’s book is a fabulous reference."
From the Publisher
A great read and an indispensable reference. ...Advice on sex, weddings and parenting, how much to reveal on Facebook and résumés, why it’s harmful to say ‘that’s so gay’—Steven Petrow has written a remarkably comprehensive guide to the complexities of modern LGBT life.
—Ted Allen, host of Food Network’s Chopped

Oh, the old days! So simple! Keep your head down and don’t get caught. Now, with the freedom to be ourselves, it’s nothing but decisions, decisions, decisions. Lucky for us, we’ve got Steven Petrow—Dear Abby, Emily Post, Ask Amy, Dan Savage, and a reassuring older sibling all rolled into one sane, sage, and savvy voice.
—Eric Marcus, author, Making Gay History

This is not your mother’s book on manners. Steven Petrow provides tons of information and guidance on everything from coming out to hookups to dealing with hostile or nosy family or coworkers. For the entire queer community and all who love us or want to figure us out, Steven’s book is a fabulous reference.
—Kate Kendell, Executive Director, National Center for Lesbian Rights
How do you come out to your kid? When two men get married, who buys the engagement ring? ... Petrow dives into all these questions with thoughtful, measured advice. ...Ms. Post would approve.
Entertainment Weekly

How do you come out to your kid? When two men get married, who buys the engagement ring? ... Petrow dives into all these questions with thoughtful, measured advice. ...Ms. Post would approve. —Entertainment Weekly

Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lesbian Manners helps gays and straights navigate the subtleties of the same-sex world.” —People

“Move over, Emily Post! When it comes to etiquette for members of the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community—as well as their straight friends, family members and coworkers—author and journalist Steven Petrow is the authority.” —Time

“What could’ve easily become a novelty book has emerged as an exhaustively researched, essential resource thanks to advice columnist and etiquette expert Steven Petrow.” —The Advocate

Meet the Author

Sally Chew has worked for magazines and websites from Vibe to Time Inc.’s Health.com. She lives in Brooklyn.

Steven Petrow, former president of the National Gay & Lesbian Journalists Association, is a syndicated writer on LGBT manners for The Huffington Post, Yahoo! Shine, LOGO, and the “Q” Syndicate. The same-sex wedding expert for The New York Times, he has also written for The Advocate, The Los Angeles Times, Salon, The Daily Beast, and Out.com. His previous books include The Essential Book of Gay Manners & Etiquette and When Someone You Know Has AIDS. He lives in Chapel Hill, North Carolina.

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