Stillby Stephanie Paige Cole
There is nothing in the world that affects us more than the death of a loved one, especially a child. Stephanie Cole found that out first hand when her unborn daughter died unexpectedly one week after her due date. Stephanie stumbled through the death of her daughter, using creative expression as a tool to navigate her way though the darkness. This book is a
There is nothing in the world that affects us more than the death of a loved one, especially a child. Stephanie Cole found that out first hand when her unborn daughter died unexpectedly one week after her due date. Stephanie stumbled through the death of her daughter, using creative expression as a tool to navigate her way though the darkness. This book is a collection of the writings and artwork that she created in response to her loss.
"Still. is the poignant exposition of the reality that besets more than 25,000 pregnant families each year in the US. Stephanie Cole's portrayal of the year following Madeline's death is vivid and stark, and speaks to the disbelief and emptiness of the 50% of parents who never discover why their unborn baby died. Stephanie's year deprived of an infant is illustrative of the challenge families and those who care for them face when experiencing the loss of an unborn child. Each child is a special chapter in every family's life, even if that chapter is but a few, heartbreaking pages of limited memories. Still. is important reading for those who experience pregnancy loss. Perhaps it is more important reading for those who have not shared the experience but wish to understand."
Dr. John J. Botti, Maternal-Fetal Medicine
"Stephanie's honesty and candor are refreshing in a society that wants everything, even mourning, wrapped up in some sort of neat package. She allows us to walk her path with her, acknowledging that everyone's journey will be unique and that we will eventually accept what will become our new normal."
Beth Gauthier, Mother to Mark (stillborn, Feb 2007)
"Stephanie writes from a place of honesty and raw emotion. Throughout her writing she weaves the dreams she and her husband had for their precious daughter Madeline. Her words help the reader understand the depth of pain felt by parents who experience the death of a much loved and hoped for baby. A great read for any professional who wants to gain a better understanding of the emotions and feelings of a grieving parent."
Chaplain Carolanne Hauck, Bereavement Coordinator
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Stephanie's honesty and candor are refreshing in a society that wants everything, even mourning, wrapped up in some sort of neat package. She allows us to walk her path with her, acknowledging that everyone's journey will be unique and that we will eventually accept what will become our new normal
This book is such a great resource for people that will inevitably experience a stillbirth. My son was stillborn December 28, 2009 and reading Stephanie's book made me realize that I was not alone in this nightmare....that there are other women, other mothers out there that are going through this too. At times when I was reading STILL I felt as though my own thoughts and feelings were being reflected. She made it feel not so lonely to lose your baby. Her art is inspiring and it is nice to see her affect the world in a positive way form such a difficult experience. Madeline is so proud of her mommy and hopefully she is playing with Max. Thank you Stephanie for opening your heart up to the world.
This book is a fast read and a must read for anyone who has experienced a stillborn child. I think this book would be very helpful to anyone who has lost a child, however the loss came about. If you are someone who knows someone who has lost a child, this book can help you understand the raw pain your friend or family member is in. If you are a medical professional who works with expectant moms, this book would make you a better professional, and it's something you could share with patients if tragedy should strike one of them. I hope it can get into the hands of every mom who loses a baby as soon as possible after the loss. The author has a way of putting feelings into words that is just perfect. I think it will help women really identify their feelings and not feel crazy about doing it. I wish I had had it right after my miscarriages. It will certainly help parents who have lost babies feel less alone, which is such a horrible feeling. For the people who care enough to read it just because they care about someone who's experienced the loss of a baby, well, I don't think we'll ever know how much pain might be prevented by careless words that won't be uttered and how much comfort might come from more carefully chosen actions and words.
This is about the heartbreaking loss of a child from the mother's point of view. I have never before read a book with such raw, charged emotion displayed within the pages. The author's strengh and honesty to openly talk about something that is never openly discussed is refreshing. I would resommend this book to anyone and everyone.
When Stephanie Cole's daughter died of unknown causes one week after her due date, it shook her to her very core and set her on a journey into the depths of grief. Stephanie faced her loss head-on, using creative expression as a tool to navigate her way through the intensity of her emotions, and allowing herself to grieve honestly and on her own terms. In her new book, Still: a collection of honest artwork and writings from the heart of a grieving mother, Stephanie invites us in for an intimate look at that first dark year without her daughter. Stephanie has always had a love of writing, but never really considered becoming an author. Even as Still was being created, she didn't feel as though she was writing a book. Stephanie explains, "I write as a way to release all of the overwhelming emotions of grief from my body. Before Still. was a book it was my journal, my canvas. It was a way for me to express the unspeakable." Stephanie felt compelled to publish this very personal account in the hope that it will help break the silence of stillbirth. She wants to give other bereaved parents something they can relate to, to help them feel less alone in their despair. She also wants to offer a deeper understanding to those who haven't experienced such a loss so that they will be better able to support those who have. "There is such a stigma attached to stillbirth, nobody wants to talk about it, but this is a story that needs to be told. Nobody should have to suffer in silence. I want to begin a conversation that will ultimately allow other bereaved mothers to feel confident in speaking about the full truth of their motherhood." Stephanie finds strength and motivation in the courageous women that came before her, who refused to accept the status quo of "put this out of your mind, go home and try again." She credits Sherokee Ilse, Dr. Joanne Cacciatore, Kara L.C. Jones, Laura Seftel and Elisabeth Kubler-Ross as inspirations, saying that through their work they "reached into the ocean of my loss and pulled me aboard their little lifeboat." Stephanie is honored to now be in a position to pull others on board as well, but first she had to overcome the fear of putting such a personal, emotional experience out into the world for everyone to read. "It is a little scary" says Stephanie, "but I have to believe that someone will be helped because of it, and that makes it all worthwhile." Stephanie was born in Queens, New York and later moved to Lancaster County, Pennsylvania with her family. Stephanie studied fine art in Massachusetts and remained there for a few years after graduation. She has since returned to Lancaster where she now lives with her husband and two young sons. Stephanie works a few hours a week at an art gallery, Mulberry Art Studios, but her main job title is stay at home mom. Stephanie also spends a lot of time working with the Sweet Pea Project, which she founded in January 2009. The project collects and donates blankets to hospitals for stillborn babies and provides resources and support for bereaved families. Stephanie will be donating all of her profits from the sale of Still. to the Sweet Pea Project, where the money will be used to donate copies of the book to hospitals and bereavement organizations throughout the country. More information on the Sweet Pea Project can be found online at www.sweetpeaproject.org.