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A self-published success, with more than 55,000 copies sold, this practical guide from a licensed psychotherapist shows you how to conquer any negative beliefs that might be sabotaging your life. Whether you're feeling stuck in your jobs, dating the wrong person, or unable to lose weight, this simple five-step plan can help transform self-defeating thinking into a higher “Deserve Level,” giving ...
A self-published success, with more than 55,000 copies sold, this practical guide from a licensed psychotherapist shows you how to conquer any negative beliefs that might be sabotaging your life. Whether you're feeling stuck in your jobs, dating the wrong person, or unable to lose weight, this simple five-step plan can help transform self-defeating thinking into a higher “Deserve Level,” giving you the tools to stop self-sabotage—and embrace the happiness and success you deserve.
Part I Deserve Level: What Is It?
1 The Fine Art of Self-Sabotage 3
2 What's in It for Me? 17
3 Beliefs: Creating Ones That Work 29
4 Embrace Self-Esteem and Develop Self-Confidence 39
5 Permission from Your Past 51
Part II Self-Sabotage: Why Does This Keep Happening to Me?
6 I Can Get It, but I Can't Keep It: The Throwing-It-Away Sabotage Strategy 65
7 Pass Me the Leftovers: The Settling-for-Less Sabotage Strategy 75
8 Giving Up Before You Start: The Resignation Sabotage Strategy 83
9 I Messed Up: The Fatal-Flaw Sabotage Strategy 95
10 Denial Divas: The Denial Sabotage Strategy 107
Part III I Deserve More!
11 How You Run Your Life Is How You Run Your Business 119
12 Self-Talk: Talk, Talk, Talk 131
13 Self-Release: Let It Go 145
14 The Drama Triangle: Connect and Communicate 163
15 Self-Nurturing: Where Is the Love? 175
16 Self-Support: Friends and Gratitude Are the Answer 191
17 I Deserved More and I Got It! 199
Posted July 1, 2009
I want to recommend STOP Self-Sabotage! Get Out of your Own Way to Earn More Money, Improve Your Relationships and Find the Success You Deserve by Pat Pearson to you.
I reviewed this book in the past, but it's been completely rewritten, picked up by a publisher, and Pearson has done a really fabulous job with it. In fact, I can confidently say that it is even worth re-reading. The new version has better examples, is more up-to-date, and is completely relevant to current circumstances.
She makes great points about what is likely stopping you from achieving greatness. In the book, she presents six self-sabotage categories - for instance Procrastination and Settling for Less. The descriptions of the behaviors related to each of these categories are very thought provoking and really cause you to reflect and identify which one is your personal match.
The descriptions of how these behaviors and outlooks hold us back are so powerful. I saw myself in the "Settling for Less" category. I've done that with diets and in business. Seeing it laid out as a behavior pattern was sobering.
Another real eye opener for me was that "Perfectionism" and "Procrastination" go hand in hand. I'm guilty of it and it's so common for women. We set our selves up with "I have to do this first, and this first, and that." and delay starting on the real project until things are so "perfect" that we sabotage ourselves by either never beginning the important things, or leaving ourselves so little time that we do a poor job. (Or lower our standards, and "Settle for Less.")
Pearson's descriptions will help you see yourself and could help you overcome the problems. By helping you become aware of where you're challenged, this book can help you create a plan to overcome it. And that self-awareness is essential to accomplishing greatness.
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