Stop Walking on Eggshells
  • Stop Walking on Eggshells
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Stop Walking on Eggshells

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by Paul Mason
     
 

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781572241084
Publisher:
New Harbinger Pubns Inc
Publication date:
07/28/1998
Series:
Unassigned Series
Pages:
258
Product dimensions:
6.00(w) x 9.04(h) x 0.59(d)

Meet the Author

In addition to Stop Walking on Eggshells, Randi Kreger is the author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook (New Harbinger, 2002) and The Essential Family Member Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells (Hazelden Publishing, 2008).

Kreger's website, BPDCentral.com, is one of the longest-established, popular, and largest sites about BPD on the Internet. BPDCentral is the home of her "Welcome to Oz" online support community, a group she founded in 1995. The community is home to some 16,000 family members who gather in 15 different lists, or "neighborhoods," depending upon the type of relationship or living situation they have with someone with BPD.

Kreger was also instrumental in the formation of the Personality Disorders Awareness Network (PDAN), a not-for-profit organization. She speaks and gives workshops about BPD internationally.

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Stop Walking on Eggshells 4.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 23 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
My BP daughter has spent 10 years in therapy, misdiagnosed and mis-medicated. It's not the doctors' fault, this condition is sneaky and age has a part. After so many failed attempts at med-therapy, worsening symptoms, substance abuse and her resistance to behavior therapy, we tested further and found BPD, still with several comorid's. I didn't totally believe it. Since there was no childhood abuse, I found many of the hallmarks not quite fitting. I wondered if we really had the right diagnosis this time. Then I read this book. If I had to rely only on the clinical points, I would say she fit 50-60% but when you read the feelings of people with BP and their families, you see the real deal. I am confident now that our diagnosis is correct and that my mother also has this condition. I have walked on eggshells all my life trying to keep peace and be logical. I am only a few chapters into this book but I can't wait to finish it and get a clue. I even sent a copy of it to another family member so they will understand as well. This has been so enlightening, and appreciated.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is a must read. I am Anthony Walker, author of The Siren's Dance : My Marriage to a Borderline: A Case Study, a personal memoir of living with someone with BPD. Throughout my relationship I fumbled in a psychological darkness looking for answers in dealing with the difficult behaviors and situations. All the texts available at the time were heavy duty clinical texts and dealt with the condition itself. The book to help the loved ones and partners of the BPD person had not been written. This book is it. It sets out specific easy to understand guidelines, and is particularly strong with regard setting boundaries. Treatment requires not only treatment for the BPD but help for those who love them as well. Well done Mason et al. A. Walker, MD
Guest More than 1 year ago
My relationship with my mother has tormented me for many years. This book has opened up so many doors of knowledge and understanding for me. I have never been able to understand my mother's behavior, because it is usually so illogical. At times she seems perfectly normal and charming, other times she does the most bizarre things that don't even make any sense. She would continually contradict me and even herself! Sometimes I felt that I was losing my mind because I couldn't remember some of the conversations she said we'd had. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has someone in their life who makes them feel this way. There is an explanation!! Better yet, you can learn skills to better deal with this disorder. My relationship with my mother has slowly improved since I read this book.
Guest More than 1 year ago
For who ever reads this, this is one of the best books i have ever read. it helped me understand how my mother is and how she acts by reading this book i could relate and feel the same things. i could say Hey that happened with me and my mother and could actually relate i could feel the feeling that the writers were writing. please get this book it is well written.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book has saved the lives of myself and many of my good friends. This book allows NonBPs (those in relationships with someone with borderline personality disorder) to make informed decisions about the future of their relationship with the person having the disorder. No less than three online communities of Nons exist primarily because of this book. These communities consist of hundreds of Nons who have benefited from this work and from interacting with each other. If you know someone who might have borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder, you must read this book and join one of our online communities!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I haven't finished this book yet, but so far it is very informative. It explains the many mood swings, etc. that I have been living with for so many years. It has made me realize that the person with BPD has the issues, not me. I can't wait to finish the book!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I had never heard the term Borderline Personality Disorder before I was referred to this book, but in the first few pages I found a frighteningly accurate description of my wife and her mother, and many of the symptoms rang true for others in my life as well, including my own mother. This book helped me understand the sudden rages, bizarre outbursts and baseless accusations that I was facing on a daily basis. Better yet, several effective strategies are provided that helped me regain control over my own life and (to a lesser degree) our household. If you think you are involved with, or related to, someone who suffers from this under-diagnosed disorder, this book is a must-read.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I would recommend this book to anyone who is currently involved with someone who has or is suspected to have borderline personality disorder. I did not discover this book until my relationship deteriorated beyond repair. This book helped me thru the emotional roller coaster, and self doubt I was experiencing. It also explained alot of unanswered questions about the behavior of my now ex fiance. I so wish I would have known about this book and this disease. So much pain could have been prevented.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is a must for non-BPD, especially if you have no clue about BPD. A friend who was a long term best friend of my BPD recommended this book to me and I will be eternally grateful. I am free (other than having to co-parent with)from my BPD. This book helped me realize that setting MY boundries, being firm, and consistent was the key. How my BPD responded was not my problem. The book is clear, easy to understand and full ofr help, at least it was for me.
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It was like they had lived my life the past 5 1/2 years
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SarahKR More than 1 year ago
As a stepmother trying to support my husband in effectively addressing the co-tangled state of his relationship with his teenage daughter and ex-wife (who has bpd), I was deeply moved, energized, and encouraged by the "dead on" information contained within "Walking on Eggshells". My husband and I have become more educated through some of the extremely accurate (and scary)insights and projections of how dependent children may/will be negatively affected by a mother who has bpd presented in this text. Some of this medically-based data will help in court cases when the non-bpd parent appeals to a family court judge to remove a child from the custody of the bpd parent. For anyone who has a dependent child within the clasps of a bdp parent, this is a MUST read to learn more about the bpd's MO and harmful behaviors towards the child, some useful techniques on how to help the child cope, but, as importantly, the crucial imperative to physically remove the child from the bpd's control and influence. I highly recommend this book to parents, teenage children and older, and anyone who has a bpd in their life.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I highly recommend this book as means to understanding the behavior of those with borderline personality disorders. I always knew my husband's behavior and angry outbursts were different but couldn't put a name to it or what triggered them. This book enabled me to have a better understanding of the disorder and how to not to 'buy into' the behavior.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I have recommended this book to client's who have reported it helpful. This book is very easy to understand and non-technical. A must read for anyone who is involved with someone with BPD traits.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read this book three times and it truly help me understand my partner and why she behaved as she did. I also learned that I had to stop giving in to her and set limits. I learned from the book that I was encouraging her angry and violent outbursts by accepting them. I am glad I read this book.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I don't like this book. It has a judgmental tone that seems to alternate between wanting to affirm the person with BPD and wanting to affirm the non-BPD person. But you can do this without making one or the other look like manipulative jerks. YUCK. I really don't like this book. Some people find it helpful. But there is so little out there in writing about coping with this disorder (whether you have it or are in relationship with someone who has it) any book is bound to seem helpful. For me, tho, it is far too simplistic and has degrading stereotypes.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is by far the best, most informative, useful and hopeful of the books I have read about BPD. Every page contains an 'Ah ha' of understanding and hope. The even tone and non-blaming perspective serve to take some of the emotion and hurt from trying to live with someone with BPD. You learn to replace hurt and fear with true understanding and coping techniques.
Guest More than 1 year ago
My sister-in-law recommended this book. She was also reading it. Because my husband her brother' has BP. Took me years to actually know what was going on with him, i was tired of walking on eggshells for years. By reading this book it has helped me to help him thru what he is going thru. I highly recommend it.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book by New Harbinger offers the reader lots of information on BPD. If you suffer from back pain, I recommend their back pain book "The Multifidus Back Pain Solution."