Strange Relation: A Memoir of Marriage, Dementia, and Poetry [NOOK Book]

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In 2004 Rachel Hadas's husband, George Edwards, a composer and professor of music at Columbia University, was diagnosed with early-onset dementia at the age of sixty-one. Strange Relation is her account of "losing" George. Her narrative begins when George's illness can no longer be ignored, and ends in 2008 soon after his move to a dementia facility (when, after thirty years of marriage, she finds herself no longer living with her husband). Within the cloudy confines of those difficult years, years when reading ...
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Strange Relation: A Memoir of Marriage, Dementia, and Poetry

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In 2004 Rachel Hadas's husband, George Edwards, a composer and professor of music at Columbia University, was diagnosed with early-onset dementia at the age of sixty-one. Strange Relation is her account of "losing" George. Her narrative begins when George's illness can no longer be ignored, and ends in 2008 soon after his move to a dementia facility (when, after thirty years of marriage, she finds herself no longer living with her husband). Within the cloudy confines of those difficult years, years when reading and writing were an essential part of what kept her going, she "tried to keep track... tried to tell the truth."

"If only all doctors and nurses and social workers who care for the chronically ill could read this book. If only patients and family members stricken with such losses could receive what this book can give them. While Strange Relation relates one illness and the life of one family, it is also, poetically, about all illnesses, all families, all struggles, all living. The art achieves the dual life of the universal and the particular, marking it as timeless, making it for us all necessary."—Rita Charon, MD, PhD, Program in Narrative Medicine, Columbia University

"Rachel Hadas's own wonderfully resonant poems, along with the rich collection of verse and prose by other writers that she weaves into her story, clarify and illuminate over and over again this thoughtful and lucid tale of love, companionship, and heartbreaking illness—illness that, as she shows us so well, is at once frighteningly alien and also deeply a part of our unavoidable vulnerability as mortal beings. Beautifully written, totally engrossing, and very sad."—Lydia Davis

"Strange Relation is a deeply moving, deeply personal, beautifully written exploration of how the power of grief can be met with the power of literature, and how solace can be found in the space between them."—Frank Huyler

"Strange Relation is a beautifully written and piercingly honest account of life with a brilliant man as he descends into dementia, in his sixties. His wife finds herself taking charge of his life: his diagnoses and treatments, his memories, his accomplishments, his day to day existence, while he withdraws into a kind of living absence and an almost total silence. Because, as she writes here, 'Even the most sympathetic doctors write no prescriptions for the imagination,' poet and scholar Rachel Hadas reveals the ways in which she has relied upon literature and poetry—some of it, poignantly, her own—as she tries to clarify each step of an uncharted and bewildering journey. This is a deeply intelligent and illuminating book, all of its many layers suffused with love."—Reeve Lindbergh

"Brilliant and tough-minded, poignant but clear-headed, Rachel Hadas shines a steady light on her experience as the wife of an accomplished composer who, at a comparatively early age, descended into dementia. Strange Relation never sacrifices truth for easy answers. Instead, Hadas uses literature to chart a course through wrenching complexities. This lauded and exceptional poet shows how language itself, the very thing her husband loses, became her shield as she crossed the ravaged lands of decision-making, making new discoveries, new friends, and new sense of the world. Strange Relation snaps with bravery, intelligence, and Hadas' tart, candid wisdom."—Molly Peacock

"A poignant memoir of love, creativity and human vulnerability. Rachel Hadas brings a poet's incisive eye to the labyrinth of dementia."—Danielle Ofri, MD, PhD, author of Medicine in Translation and Singular Intimacies

"Like an elegy, Strange Relation is about loss and grief. Like all elegies, it also memorializes and celebrates. Rachel Hadas, in the course of her personal narrative, cites accounts of dementia, in its social and personal meanings. She also cites works of imagination by Constantine Cavafy, Emily Dickinson, Euripides, Thom Gunn, Thomas Hardy, William Shakespeare, and many others, as well as her own poems: all integral and necessary to her subject—which ultimately is wonder at the human mind itself, in all its mysterious powers and fragilities."—Robert Pinsky
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Product Details

  • BN ID: 2940012222794
  • Publisher: Dry, Paul Books, Incorporated
  • Publication date: 2/14/2011
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Sales rank: 1,199,312
  • File size: 438 KB

Meet the Author

Rachel Hadas is Board of Governors Professor of English at Rutgers University in Newark. She is the author of many books, including The River of Forgetfulness, Laws, Indelible, and Halfway Down the Hall: New & Selected Poems. She co-edited the anthology The Greek Poets: Homer to the Present.
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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 1, 2011

    brilliant

    Rachel Hadas is such a teacher, that you feel on every page her impulse to share what she knows about poetry, music and the consolations of art, and her very great skill at doing it. This is a book you want to pass on to others but not quite yet, because you also want to reread it yourself. Few of us will live out our lives untouched by dementia; this book offers wisdom and a very rare grace under the terrible pressure that it brings to those who love a sufferer.

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