Stronger Than You Think: Becoming Whole Without Having to Be Perfect - A Woman's Guide


If you've known broken relationships . . .
If you've ever felt like you don't measure up . . .
If you've suspected something inside you might be missing or flawed . . .

This book is for you.

Kim Gaines Eckert, psychologist and counselor, has spent years helping women with a variety of life issues, from self-esteem and body image to developing healthy relationships and healing...

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If you've known broken relationships . . .
If you've ever felt like you don't measure up . . .
If you've suspected something inside you might be missing or flawed . . .

This book is for you.

Kim Gaines Eckert, psychologist and counselor, has spent years helping women with a variety of life issues, from self-esteem and body image to developing healthy relationships and healing from the past. At the heart of their struggle, she believes, is not the desire to be perfect, but the desire to be whole. And wholeness, she is convinced, ultimately comes only from God.

In this book Kim invites you into her conversations with women. You'll discover you are not alone in your struggles, and you'll learn from her practical and proven guidance for growth and change. And because growth is always more powerful in community, each chapter includes questions for you to explore in a small group.

Let Kim Gaines Eckert show how God can mend your brokenness and help you become a whole, healthy person—the woman he created you to be.

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Editorial Reviews

Cara Davis
"The battleground for women's souls is in the mind. Stronger Than You Think equips women with the armor they need to combat society's messages, Satan's deceptions and our own internal misgivings."
Virginia Todd Holeman
"Stronger Than You Think offers to women and men sound theology and practical psychology on managing many of the perplexing dilemmas of being human. If you struggle with self-esteem, body image or relationship matters, then this book will help you to grow into the whole person that God created you to be."
Judith Balswick
"This excellent woman's guide, Stronger Than You Think: Becoming Whole Without Having to Be Perfect, offers a much-needed message to the women I know. Regardless of age, relational brokenness leads to internal pain and a profound longing for wholeness. Kim Eckert uses sound psychological insight and biblical truth to provide tools for the journey of growing inward and outward. It's an amazing experience to accept and love the you God created through healing relationships."
Jan Silvious
"Solid, thought-provoking, healing, challenging. These four words describe my reaction to Stronger Than You Think. With the mix of the straightforward teacher and the insightful therapist, Kim Eckert gives women a book that speaks to our heads and our hearts. If it is time for you to take a positive, life-altering journey, this woman's guide is for you. I loved it."
Mark R. McMinn
"This book will make you think and feel and grow. Kim Gaines Eckert draws on her extensive knowledge in Christian theology, spiritual formation and psychology, and yet makes it practical for everyday life. This is not just a helpful book for women, but also for the men who walk alongside women as friends, colleagues and lifelong partners."
Stephen Arterburn
"Every woman who worships the god of perfection can come to know the God of the universe while discovering the wonder of who God has made you to be."
Publishers Weekly
This is not a self-help manual with the obligatory seven steps for growth or spiritual renewal. This is a book about women's brokenness. Eckert, an assistant professor of psychology and counseling at Tennessee's Lee University, says that failed relationships, body issues, sexual wounds, low self-esteem and dormant anger conspire to keep women from the wholeness they desire. In the first half, Eckert draws on the work of Mary Pipher and Kathleen Fischer to highlight the damaging messages women internalize, and the "negative self-talk" that can cripple them. These chapters are well done, with Eckert bringing the message home through various "tools for the journey"-practical suggestions of things that women can do to enjoy greater authenticity and wholeness. The book's second half really sings as Eckert tackles specific issues like anger, depression, self-image and-in the book's most poignant chapters-beauty and women's sexuality. Drawing on her own stories and those of women she has counseled (and mixing in song lyrics from Dar Williams and Natalie Merchant), Eckert asserts that women are stronger than they think they are: emboldened by Christ, they can find spiritual healing and emotional wholeness. (Feb.) Copyright 2006 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780830833733
  • Publisher: InterVarsity Press
  • Publication date: 1/28/2007
  • Pages: 246
  • Sales rank: 506,037
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.50 (h) x 0.56 (d)

Meet the Author

Dr. Kim Gaines Eckert is a licensed psychologist in Chattanooga, Tennessee, where she maintains a private counseling practice at the Relationship Therapy Center. Dr. Eckert came to Tennessee in 2002 to join the faculty of Lee University. She now teaches at Lee on an adjunct basis and is the clinical director of the Lee University Play Therapy Center. Dr. Eckert holds an undergraduate honors degree in English and anthropology from the University of Michigan, as well as a master's and doctorate from Wheaton College. In addition to her two books with InterVarsity Press, she has also published in Today's Christian Woman, Psychology for Living and Youth & Christian Education Leadership. Dr. Eckert is a national speaker and has been featured on programs such as Moody Radio's Prime Time America and Midday Connection.

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Table of Contents

AcknowledgmentsPart 1: longing for wholeness
1. Searching for Wholeness in Romance, Motherhood or CareerWhy a Broken World Leaves Us Disappointed
2. Finding Wholeness in Our True IdentityRelational Beings Made in God's ImagePart 2: Growing Inward
3. Learning to Use Your VoiceRecovering from the Negative Messages of Girlhood
4. Negative Self-TalkHow the Way We Think Affects the Way We Feel
5. When Your Emotions Get the Best of YouGrowing Through Anger, Anxiety and Depression
6. Never Good EnoughBuilding Healthy Self-Esteem
7. Doing Battle with Your BodyDeveloping a Healthy Body Image in a Toxic Body CulturePart 3: Growing Outward
8. Rethinking Female SexualitySexual Intimacy, Single Sexuality and Sexual Wounds
9. The Search for ConnectionGrowing Healthy Intimate Relationships
10. Restoring Your Broken HeartHealing from Loss, Abuse and Other Relational Wounds
11. Wholly Broken. . . Yet Still WholeReaching Out to a Hurting WorldPart 4: Growing in Community
Questions for Discussion and Reflection
Further Reading
Author Index
Subject Index
Scripture Index

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 19, 2007

    A woman's guide we should all own

    There are so many Christian 'self-help' books on the market written for women about relationships, marriage, personal problems, depression, sexuality, prayer life, etc. However this book is very different. 'Stronger Than You Think' does address many of these issues, but the overall theme of the book in not self-help or how-to steps, it is celebrating the brokenness we all experience in our lives and how God can lead us to wholeness. The author is well qualified to write on the subject material. I feel like a lot of Christian books for women are just written by a 'stay-at-home mother of three' or the wife of a pastor or someone else who may not have as much credibility. Kim Gaines Eckert is a wife and mother, but she is also a clinical psychologist and a professor of psychology with a Doctorate degree. To me, this made her writing not only more credible, but it was also backed up with the knowledge and experience of a very educated and accomplished professional. Despite her professional education and experience, the author writes in a very 'readable' manner. She draws from her teaching and counseling practice, but also includes many personal stories of her own pain and brokenness. Among my favorite personal stories she shares are when she was a preteen and no one came to her birthday party (who hasn't experienced adolescent humiliation!), her struggles with weight and body image, and the tragic story of a friend who became paralyzed in an accident. The author also includes a lot of examples of women she has seen in counseling that I could relate to: women who struggle with a sense of self or using their voice. In addition, Eckert includes Bible verses, song lyrics, quotes from Pipher and other groundbreaking psychologists, and many references to prominent Christian authors such as Oswald Chambers and Brennan Manning. References such as these help the reading flow and encourage readers to connect to the material. I highly recommend 'Stronger Than You Think' to every woman, and also to men. For those of us who feel incomplete, somehow not quite right, and just plain imperfect, the book allows us to learn that our brokennes can be used by God in the lives of others. This book helped me to discover and share who I really am with others, and for that I am grateful.

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