Suicide: Living With the Question

Suicide: Living With the Question

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by Ruth H. Maxwell
     
 

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SUICIDE: LIVING WITH THE QUESTION is a personal journey of healing and recovery. It shows how one family struggled to survive the agony and shock of a loved one's suicide. Although it cannot answer the question of "why," it can offer comfort as it asks other questions that open the possibility of looking at suicide in new ways. This book can offer solace to the

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SUICIDE: LIVING WITH THE QUESTION is a personal journey of healing and recovery. It shows how one family struggled to survive the agony and shock of a loved one's suicide. Although it cannot answer the question of "why," it can offer comfort as it asks other questions that open the possibility of looking at suicide in new ways. This book can offer solace to the many who are affected by suicide: Parents, siblings, spouses, children, friends, co-workers. For each individual left behind, the suicide is devastating. And the attitudes and lack of understanding in society add salt to the wound. SUICIDE: LIVING WITH THE QUESTION offers hope to others, a small ray of light to penetrate the dark shroud that covers the subject of suicide.

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Maxwell (Eighteen Roses Red, 2006, etc.) revisits her son's suicide and her subsequent grieving process. When her 35-year-old son, Bill, committed suicide in 1989, Maxwell was shocked. Bill was seemingly happy and healthy. Married to a woman he loved, the father of two small children and engaged in a promising career, he was someone whom Maxwell felt had "found his place in life." Maxwell recalls the days and weeks after Bill's death with a mixture of palpable grief, journalistic detail and wisdom gained from the passage of time. As she carries on in the face of this almost unbearable loss, and as her family participates in the rituals associated with saying goodbye, Maxwell scours Bill's life for signs of suffering that the family may have overlooked. She catches glimpses of Bill's distress, including the haunting detail that an 8-year-old Bill told his younger brother he wanted to kill himself. One of the most intriguing aspects of the book is in how Bill's wife, Laura, his children and his siblings navigate how to preserve and honor his memory. In the final chapters, Maxwell explores depression and suicide directly, drawing from extensive readings and her family's experience. She concludes that societal attitudes toward suicide—described as "moralistic" and "superstitious"—are not only wrong but damaging. Her final advice to grieving readers: "Be willing to live with the unanswered questions and with your grief." Time has provided Maxwell with the clarity to assess her grieving, but this memoir will be most comforting to those recently unmoored by a loss. This unusually thoughtful, considered memoir will be valuable and inspirational to readers who have lost a loved one to suicide.

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ISBN-13:
9781468555912
Publisher:
AuthorHouse
Publication date:
03/07/2012
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Barnes & Noble
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
120
Sales rank:
529,236
File size:
214 KB

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Suicide: Living With the Question 3.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 5 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Quick read. I have had my mother and brother both commit suicide. This book is comforting. After a family member dies from suicide, friends/family/co-workers etc. may think they should have seen the signs, but after reading this book..... that is really not true. There are many unanswered questions after a suicide .... and that is ok. Also, the pain never goes away, it just seems to get a little easier to bare.
SeattleJenn More than 1 year ago
I don't know anyone that has not been affected by suicide ... a member of their own family, a friend, an individual in their community, someone at school, or even a tragic news story. Ruth Maxwell's story addresses the questions and challenges that her family and their friends were faced with after her son took his own life. Her honest and very personal narrative of the emotional, spiritual, and philosophical journey that followed his suicide is full of wisdom and insight. Her analysis of family dynamics and relationships is applicable to any crisis, not just suicide. I highly recommend it to anyone who has ever wondered how they would survive losing a loved one, anyone who has regrets about a personal interaction, and anyone who wants to improve a relationship.
Anonymous 9 months ago
I want to die. CAN GOD HELP ME THERE??
Anonymous 9 months ago
IT DOESNT FEEL LIKE JHE LOVES ?E VERY MUCH I AM ONE IN THIS FU?CKING WORLD
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
God. It is that simple. He can and WILL save you. He loves you so much. Your life is just a prologue. It is something small that affects the book. How will your life affect eternity? What will your choices result in? Heaven? Hell? Anything? Your story could be great or it could be one of those cheap books titled 'the easy way into hell'. If you end your life now, you have just began either the besr thing or the worst thing.