Supporting Someone Polyamorous: FAQs About Non-Monogamy and Allyship for Family, Friends and Loved Ones

by Lola Phoenix, Rachel Wright (Foreword by)

Overview

Could my loved one's polyamory just be a phase?
What does it mean for raising children?
How should I navigate meeting multiple partners?
Having a polyamorous family member or friend can bring up lots of questions - including some that you might be too scared to ask. This non-judgemental, accessible guide addresses common concerns, explains new terminology and walks you through key scenarios to help you best support your polyamorous loved one.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781805018612
Publisher:	Jessica Kingsley Publishers
Publication date:	08/21/2025
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	176

About the Author

Lola Phoenix runs the popular weekly relationship advice column and podcast, Non-Monogamy Help, and has been non-monogamous for over a decade. Their writing has appeared in Medium, Huffington Post, Pink News, Gay Star News, The Independent, and Everyday Feminism. They often give talks and presentations on relationships and LGBTQIA+ issues and have been interviewed for Attitude, Buzzfeed and The Independent, as well as podcasts such as Multiamory and the Breakup Monologues. They are the author of The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy, and The Non-Monogamy Journal, and are based in Stockholm, Sweden. 

Editorial Reviews

Beautifully balances an affirming stance to diverse relationship styles with an honest exploration of the challenges that come with relating outside the norm. Contains all the information those who are unfamiliar with non-monogamy need, presented in an accessible and engaging way with lots of helpful examples. It also addresses all the common questions friends and family have, answering these clearly and with compassion and wisdom around the understandable fears that generally underlie people's concerns. A spot on template for how we might support the people we love in their relationships and in general.

Meg-John Barker

An incredibly thorough yet easily digestible book for any friend or family member looking to support and better understand their loved one's decision to be polyamorous! Lola's writing is engaging, non-judgmental, and educational.

Zachary Zane

This guide to better understanding nonmonogamy and supporting your polyamorous loved one is a must-read for family members and friends who need more information and context about these styles of relating. Lola Phoenix offers kind and no-nonsense guidance I wish my family had when I told them about polyamory many years ago.

Laura Boyle