Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain

Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain

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by Rona B. Subotnik, Gloria Harris
     
 

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What Now?

Nothing your marriage has sustained in the past compares to the pain of discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful. The betrayal, rage, sadness, and jealousy is unlike anything you've experienced before. And yet it is possible to move forward, decide what to do in your marriage, and most important, heal.

For more than 10 years, Surviving

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What Now?

Nothing your marriage has sustained in the past compares to the pain of discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful. The betrayal, rage, sadness, and jealousy is unlike anything you've experienced before. And yet it is possible to move forward, decide what to do in your marriage, and most important, heal.

For more than 10 years, Surviving Infidelity has been offering sage advice and compassionate, nonjudgmental analysis. Based on the private practices of licensed marriage and family therapist Rona B. Subotnik and clinical psychologist Gloria G. Harris, Ph.D., this third edition has been completely updated and gives you strategies to:

  • Understand the different kinds of affairs and why they happen, including Internet and emotional affairs
  • Cope with your emotions, from grief to rage
  • Repair the marriage if you choose to
  • Learn what it takes to be a survivor
Surviving Infidelity, 3rd Edition brings you the new hope and the empathy you need in this difficult time.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781440520952
Publisher:
F+W Media
Publication date:
05/01/2005
Sold by:
Barnes & Noble
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
240
Sales rank:
137,737
File size:
1 MB

Meet the Author

Rona B. Subotnik, L.M.F.T., is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice in Palm Desert, CA. She is a clinical member of the California and American Associations of Marriage and Family Therapists.

Gloria G. Harris, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist in private practice in San Diego.

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Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain 3.3 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 16 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Unfortunately, right in front of me, my spouse was having an emotional infidelity. Sure, as she says, it was only a carpool, they talk about everything and have "fun". A carpool, then help me understand why would you be constantly on the phone or texting, sometimes as many as 45 times a day, back and forth including your days off, if it's only a carpool? Spending 8 hours a day together at work and then 2 hours a day together in a carpool; is that normal? Wow, was I fooled. Sure, she's says that in his words "he's in a miserable marriage". Well, as a superior or even as a direct supervisor, then your only recommendation is to seek professional help, not be their friend. So, that's how she described the situation, "I let a friendship go too far". No, that's not friendship, that's called Emotional Infidelity! This book explains it perfectly. It begins at the very basics, right where it all starts. It even answers the issues that were thrown at me by my spouse. We didn't resolve all our issues when we would disagree. Yes, the book addresses that too. Many times what seemed important at the moment, really just wasn't and many things are left unresolved because they truly are unimportant. People need to recognize and understand the word "respect". The book even talks about that old adage, "we really are opposite", when being used as an excuse for wanting to dissolve a marriage. Sure, everyone is opposite. Even if you married the little boy or girl that was you neighbor from infancy, yep, you're still opposite; no difference if you married someone from across the "railroad" track. Inherently, the two sexes are opposite, so stop using that as an excuse. This book really helped me, highlighted everything I was seeing and dealing with. Sadly, the one who made a conscious decision to get hooked by someone who was living in a state of misery, allowed herself to talk herself out of her own marriage. The carpool was nothing short of "misery loves company". This book is the only one I read that pulls it all together. Unfortunately, I was the only one in the marriage that read it, the one person actually involved in the emotional infidelity refused to accept and read it. Just think, if there was only a way to change the old adage, "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't force it to drink"; things might be different.
Guest More than 1 year ago
After recently dicovering my husband's affair, and finding out we are pregnant, I am desperate to find ANYTHING to help with the pain and hurt that I am feeling. This book was hard to stay focused on, and I felt a little better after reading it, but all in all, not too much. It recognizes a lot of psychological problems that 'cheaters' have, and makes very good points, but if you are looking for something to help you cope, try below titles.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Sorry to the authors but I think most of the book is a waste. If your problem is internet cheating you might like it, but otherwise...keep looking, I am.
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RolfDobelli More than 1 year ago
¿I¿ve been unfaithful.¿ With this sentence, most marriages will never be the same again, if they survive at all. Authors Rona B. Subotnik and Gloria G. Harris pledge to provide counsel to those who are hurt and reeling. getAbstract believes this book fulfills their promise. The authors thoroughly explore types of affairs; teach you how to cope with your pain, grief and anger; and advise you how to decide if you want the marriage to continue. Then they offer compassionate guidance on how to repair your relationship. With the knowledge drawn from their clinical practices, they also show you how to heal your wounds and emerge as a stronger, better person. If you¿re struggling to pick up the pieces of your life, your marriage and your heart, this book can help.