Surviving Your Adolescents: How to Manage and Let Go of Your 13-18 Year Olds

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A step-by-step approach to handling teenagers, this guide helps parents end hassles and improve their relationship with their adolescent. Parents learn how to communicate with teenagers, how to manage teenage risk-taking, how to let go in certain situations, and when to seek professional attention. Concise and encouraging, this resource walks parents through the ups and downs of parenting teenagers as their kids push towards independence.

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Overview

A step-by-step approach to handling teenagers, this guide helps parents end hassles and improve their relationship with their adolescent. Parents learn how to communicate with teenagers, how to manage teenage risk-taking, how to let go in certain situations, and when to seek professional attention. Concise and encouraging, this resource walks parents through the ups and downs of parenting teenagers as their kids push towards independence.

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In this revised third edition, Phelan (1-2-3 Magic) offers parents a humorous and laid-back approach to dealing with adolescents. He argues that “society has not yet found a way to deal with the fact that prolonged dependence is insulting to young people … [and that the] inevitable result of prolonged adolescence in our culture is that teens will regularly feel irritation toward older folks and a sense of alienation from the society they are a part of.” Replete with effective drama-laden cartoons, Phelan fully grasps the struggles parents face, and he does not mince words or sugar coat the issues. He firmly believes “the more hostility and distance there is…between parents and teenagers, the more frequently adolescents will act out their negative feelings in activities involving driving, drugs and alcohol, sex and risks on the internet.” To avoid that, parents need to chillax, not take things personally, and put most adolescent behaviors into the MBA category (minor but aggravating).
VERDICT While adolescent titles are a dime a dozen, this is equally as good as Anthony Wolf’s I’d Listen to My Parents If They’d Just Shut Up (2011). Recommended.

(c) Copyright 2013. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781889140605
  • Publisher: Parentmagic, Inc.
  • Publication date: 5/1/2012
  • Edition description: Third edition
  • Edition number: 3
  • Pages: 192
  • Sales rank: 279,130
  • Product dimensions: 6.08 (w) x 8.82 (h) x 0.36 (d)

Meet the Author

Thomas W. Phelan, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and the bestselling author of 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children, Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder, All About Attention Deficit Disorder, “I Never Get Anything!,” and Self-Esteem Revolutions in Children. He lives in Glen Ellyn, Illinois.

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Table of Contents

Introduction: The Snub 1

Part I Straight Thinking

Chapter 1 Appreciating Adolescence 9

Chapter 2 What's Normal? 15

Chapter 3 Risky Business 23

Chapter 4 Diagnosing Your Own Reactions 31

Chapter 5 Your New Job Description 37

Part II Don't Take It Personally

Chapter 6 Making Sense of The Snub 45

Chapter 7 "Don't Take It Personally" in Action! 53

Part III Manage & Let Go

Chapter 8 Six Kids: Intervention Examples 63

Chapter 9 Establish House Rules 67

Chapter 10 Managing The Big Four Risks 73

Chapter 11 Your Teens Have Their MBAs! 87

Chapter 12 Possible Intervention Roles 93

Part IV Stay in Touch

Chapter 13 What Not To Do: The Four Cardinal Sins 111

Chapter 14 What To Do 119

Part V Take Care of Yourself

Chapter 15 Midlife Parent 131

Chapter 16 How To Take Care of Yourself 139

Part VI Relax and Enjoy the Movie

Chapter 17 Boomerang Kids 145

Chapter 18 The Future 149

Appendix 153

Index 163

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  • Posted August 28, 2012

    clear and practical that will help parents of teens

    If you are currently the parents of teenagers or even of pre-teens, do you think that you’ll be able to survive their adolescence? One of the basic problems which develop between parents and their teens is what author Thomas W. Phelan calls “The Snub.” Have you ever had a conversation with your teen like this? “How was your day?” “Fine.” “What did you do?” “Nothin’.” As a result of this, the parents become frustrated because the teen is not communicating with them, and the teen becomes frustrated because the parents seem to be prying. The parents begin to wonder, “I don’t know what to do with this kid any more.” This book is all about what parents should “do” with their adolescents and, equally important, what not to do. Phelan says, “Your primary goal is no longer to control your teen. Your goal is to help them become competent adults who leave home, establish new relationships, contribute to the world, and enjoy life.”
    The first section, “Straight Thinking” encourages parents to appreciate what adolescence is like, recognize how their teen’s behavior makes them feel, and learn their new job description. The new job proposal has five pieces, and the next five sections deal with each of these pieces: “Don’t Take It Personally,” “Manage and Let Go,” “Stay in Touch,” “Take Care of Yourself,” and “Relax and Enjoy the Movie.” Phelan reminds parents, “Not taking your teen’s behavior personally is both an insight and a skill.” I like his approach to automobile use. “Without being haughty, explain to your kids that their use of your car, other than for necessities like school, is a privilege. It’s your car and you are letting them use it; they don’t have an inherent right to your automobile.” He mentions the “Four Cardinal Sins”—spur of the moment discussions, nagging, insight transplants, and arguing--that parents often fall into and makes suggestions on how to avoid them—sympathetic listening, talking about yourself, shared fun, and positive reinforcement. Also, he warns about becoming addicted to anger and promotes a program that will help moms and dads deal with their feelings about the rejection and risk problems, significantly reduce family turmoil, and protect teens and their communities from harm.
    Phelan, who is a registered Ph.D. clinical psychologist and author of 1-2-3 Magic: Managing Difficult Behavior in Children 2-12, concludes, “Don’t take that Snub personally, stick to your House Rules, stay in touch with your teens and take care of yourself as best you can….We’d have a shot at enjoying the movie. After all, in the grand scheme of things, it’s really a very short film.” At the end of the book are an appendix on how to manage various specific issues and an index for reference purposes. While the book is not for children but parents, even some adults might like to know that the “d” and “h” words are used occasionally, and the term “son of a b****” occurs once. As with other books on parenting, not every bit of advice will be applicable in all situations. Some people may not agree with certain observations, especially a few relating to sex and romance. For example, it is simply said that “Large numbers of girls opt for abortion,” but for many this is just not a possibility even to be considered for religious reasons. However, parents who are struggling with their teenagers all the time will find some clear and practical information that will be helpful to them.

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