Swingland: Between the Sheets of the Secretive, Sometimes Messy, but Always Adventurous Swinging Lifestyle [NOOK Book]

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A wry and revealing story of one man’s journey into the swinger lifestyle that pulls back the curtain on one of our most fascinating—and private—subcultures

An estimated fifteen million strong worldwide, swingers are everywhere—a huge community hiding in plain sight whose erotic pastime remains a complete mystery to the rest of us. In Swingland, Daniel Stern outs himself ...
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Swingland: Between the Sheets of the Secretive, Sometimes Messy, but Always Adventurous Swinging Lifestyle

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Overview

A wry and revealing story of one man’s journey into the swinger lifestyle that pulls back the curtain on one of our most fascinating—and private—subcultures

An estimated fifteen million strong worldwide, swingers are everywhere—a huge community hiding in plain sight whose erotic pastime remains a complete mystery to the rest of us. In Swingland, Daniel Stern outs himself and the secretive society he loves, recounting his transformation from a bumbling neophyte terrified of all things carnal into a veteran sexual adventurer.

Once confined to suburban key parties and private clubs, “swinging” has transformed, via the Internet, into a free-for-all. Today only a few mouse clicks locates your perfect couple (or couples), far easier and less riskily than ever before (no worrying about running into them at PT A meetings). There are plenty of bumps and bruises along the way for Stern, including countless rejections, missed opportunities, and one particular AARP orgy. But slowly and surely, through an impressive series of threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes, this “Vanilla” newbie becomes a much sought-after partner for couples looking to spice up their relationships. During his exploits, he learns a whole new lexicon (there aren’t many single women swingers, or “Unicorns,” but plenty of MFMs, FMFs, MFMFs, and GBs), as well as invaluable advice (be honest, open, and know your limits).

But Swingland is much more than a titillating exposé. Stern’s wit and infectious enthusiasm make Swingland as improbably safe as it is fun—and impossible to put down. All are welcome, but bring flip-flops (it can get messy).
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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
Screenwriter Stern initiates readers into the world of swinging, sharing his experiences, often in graphic detail, and instructions—should you decide to enter into “The Lifestyle”. After a series of poor performances, Stern decided he needed “sexual batting practice” and joined a Web site for those seeking casual encounters. He recounts his first experience with multiple partners, which began with a chat about countertops and ends with Stern cutting his head open on a ceiling fan. Another encounter finds Stern “the youngest by three-plus decades.” He participates in a poker game to “win” sex with a woman and gives hilarious commentary on the competition. Stern provides advice for single men about being respectful to women and impervious to rejection, and about how to create the ideal online profile. He also includes tips for e-mailing potential partners, and outlines scene lingo—including the important distinctions between an MFM and an MMF experience, or hard versus soft swaps. Only an insider could describe proper sex club footwear and detail necessary topics of discussion before an encounter, as well as Lifestyle faux pas. Stern warns that participation in the Lifestyle “takes Kevlar skin and a Chicago Cubs fan’s constitution,” but, if inclined, you will find no greater guide into its inner workings. (Oct. 1)
New York Times Book Review
"Transcends most of the usual boundaries of sexuality.…Leaves the vanilla world behind."
New York Post
"Stern hilariously recounts his life in the swingers community…Equal parts memoir and guide book."
Associated Press Staff
"SWINGLAND is a seductive story about a mysterious subculture, but ultimately, it's about transformation and one man's search for his own naked truth."
Oriana Small
"Swingland is everything you need to know about swinging, whether it's your thing or it isn't. Stern isn't trying to pull punches here. He's the real deal, and it shows. Especially in chapters like Synthesis, bedded down in a lovely little section called Intercourse. This book is a must-read. I also thought it was really funny that he says 'DON'T be creepy' in a guidebook to swingers. Brilliant."
Matthew Specktor
“Daniel Stern's Swingland is brave, funny, eye-opening, entertaining and well-written . . . everything one could ask, really, of a book about sex. But for all its titillations, Swingland is also something more rare: it is humane, and vulnerable. The book is a genuine delight.”
Rachel Kramer Bussel
If you want to know your MFM from your MMF, your NSA from your GB and so much more, here's a man who's been there and done everything! Swingland is the erotic equivalent of a travelogue, Stern is an excellent X-rated tour guide through the often misunderstood world of swinging.”
Oriana Small a.k.a. Ashley Blue
"Swingland is everything you need to know about swinging, whether it's your thing or it isn't. Stern isn't trying to pull punches here. He's the real deal, and it shows. Especially in chapters like Synthesis, bedded down in a lovely little section called Intercourse. This book is a must-read. I also thought it was really funny that he says 'DON'T be creepy' in a guidebook to swingers. Brilliant."
Sam Benjamin
"Delightfully self-deprecating, and unrelentingly honest. Swingland offers an insightful glimpse into a strange sexual world."
Antonia Crane
"Daniel Stern navigates the naked frontier of consensual, casual group sex with a firm, polite grip. Never pedantic, Swingland shimmies like the mingling souls of James Brown (The Los Angeles Diaries) and Augusten Burroughs to the Boogie Nights soundtrack."
Kirkus Reviews
2013-10-01
Los Angeles screenwriter Stern penetrates the unconventional world of swinging. Aiming to educate readers on an exclusive community he's made a large part of his own life, Stern starts at the beginning, where, as a youth, his carnal education was awkwardly stunted by anxiety and hair-trigger orgasms. In desperate need of "sexual batting practice," he embarked on a mission to shed his naïveté (and abandon monogamy altogether) through hookup websites, the Craigslist "crapshoot" and an immense amount of social networking with swinging couples looking for spicy interactions. The bounty of his titillating exploratory research into "the Lifestyle" forms the foundation of the book's 13 lessons/chapters featuring explicitly graphic, casual sexual encounters and erotic arrangements. These include Stern's first (disastrous) group-sex experience, which ended with a ceiling fan hitting him in the forehead. Most of these threesome sexcapades are carefully predetermined and, to Stern, gloriously NSA (no strings attached), which are just a few of the many benefits the author touts about this highly promiscuous subculture. Stern's prose is appropriately authoritative and spares no carnal detail; he wants the reader to reap the benefits of his years of experience. For the curious, the author includes sections on varying scenarios like the hard versus soft swapping of partners and a thoughtful list of must-have items for the neophyte. Elsewhere, he explains the types of couples most encountered and the social etiquette required at play parties. With revealing material similar to Suzy Spencer's Secret Sex Lives (2012), Stern still rejects the notion that his book technically violates the swinging community's strict "code of discretion," and he further implores readers to get out and explore the multifaceted pleasures of an alternative lifestyle tailored to "the right people with the right reasons with the right attitude." A unique, voyeuristic expose of a taboo bedroom counterculture.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781476732558
  • Publisher: Touchstone
  • Publication date: 10/1/2013
  • Sold by: SIMON & SCHUSTER
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 320
  • Sales rank: 162,001
  • File size: 4 MB

Meet the Author

Daniel Stern is director of operations at an entrepreneurial company, a screenwriter who placed in the top four in Project Greenlight, and was a Sundance Lab screenwriting finalist. He lives in Los Angeles.
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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 4, 2013

    Laughs and giggles

    Superb work. Daniel had me laughing at many of the visuals, and empathising in some situations.

    Play on

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