Taking Care of the Me in Mommy: Becoming a Better Mom: Spirit, Body & Soul

Taking Care of the Me in Mommy: Becoming a Better Mom: Spirit, Body & Soul

by Lisa Whelchel

As moms we love to serve and nourish our families. But if we don't learn to rest and receive we run on empty and end up not being the moms we so desperately want to be. Taking Care of the ME in Mommy will show you how to take care of yourself: spirit, body, and soul.

  • Find more time in your day
  • Exercise your brain and your


As moms we love to serve and nourish our families. But if we don't learn to rest and receive we run on empty and end up not being the moms we so desperately want to be. Taking Care of the ME in Mommy will show you how to take care of yourself: spirit, body, and soul.

  • Find more time in your day
  • Exercise your brain and your body
  • Enjoy friends and hobbies
  • Learn how to incorporate prayer and scripture into your daily routines

Filled with practical advice and time-saving tips, you'll feel refreshed, energized, and ready to pour the true you into the ones you love!

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taking care of the "me" in mommy

becoming a better mom-spirit, body & soul
By Lisa Whelchel

Thomas Nelson

Copyright © 2007 Lisa Whelchel
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-7852-8929-6

Chapter One

Your Spirit Breathe in God and Exhale His Spirit

From the time my children entered the adolescent years, we have shared something we call "window time." When they were really little, we called it "high/lows." Every night when I put them to bed, I asked them to tell me their high of the day and their low. This little exercise somehow made it easier for them to articulate their feelings.

As my children have grown, this bedtime ritual has expanded to include more probing questions like, "Did anyone hurt your feelings today? Do you have anything you need to confess? Are you confused about anything?" This is our special time to talk about whatever is on their minds.

It is amazing that even my sixteen-year-old son, Tucker, still looks forward to our "window times" each night. Of course, they have changed a bit now that he is a teenager. Some days he saves up questions or hurts or funny jokes, knowing he can share them with me during "window time." But lately, we mostly listen to music together. You see, Tucker is an awesome musician like his daddy, and he lives and breathes music. Every once in a while, he'll sneak in a question or a hurt still, but usually he just wants to play me the latest guitar lick he's learned, song he's written, or some amazing new band he's discovered.

A few months ago, I woke up suddenly from a great night's sleep. (Moms of small children, take heart-they really do grow up and sleep in, or at least they get old enough to turn on cartoons and pour their own bowl of cereal.) As I turned over on my pillow to see if my husband, Steve, was up making coffee yet, I noticed strange music running through my head. As I focused on the tune, I heard even stranger lyrics: "She don't lie, she don't lie, she don't lie-cocaine!"

What?! What had I been dreaming? Then it hit me: Tucker had played a CD by Eric Clapton for me the night before, and this was a line from one of the songs. I remember hearing that particular line and talking to Tucker about it, but I don't remember memorizing it so I could sing myself to sleep (or awake) with it later.

By comparison, yesterday I spent the drive up to the bunkhouse where I write listening to the iPod my mother bought me for my birthday. I've created several playlists of music I can listen to, depending on the situation. I have a playlist of upbeat contemporary Christian music to listen to when I run on the treadmill. I also have a collection of classical music for when I don't want the distraction of words.

When I'm feeling especially dramatic, I listen to my list of instrumental movie soundtracks and picture my life moving in slow motion. I also have a bunch of sermon CDs and audio books that I hope to listen to someday. And, of course, Tucker has put his own playlist of music on my iPod. (And, yes, we did have another talk about lyrics and the principle of "garbage in, garbage out.")

My favorite playlist is my collection of worship songs and choruses. This is what I was listening to on the long drive up to my writing retreat. I arrived late; read a few chapters from the latest Ted Dekker book; put our dog, Donut, in her crate; and drifted off to sleep. This morning I woke up singing, "Oh, Holy Spirit, You're my comfort. Strengthen me, hold my head up high. As I stand upon Your truth, bringing glory unto You, and let the peace of God, let it reign." What a great way to start the day.

As moms, it is critical that we "live and breathe" Jesus, because what we inhale is what we'll exhale. Proverbs 23:7 says that our outward actions are prompted by our inner thoughts: "For as he thinks in his heart, so is he" (NKJV).

I've found that most moms have an easier time giving than receiving. From the beginning of this book, I've attempted to convince you that it is very important for you to learn how to receive so you will have more to give. It is equally, if not more, important, to discern the right and healthy things to receive so we can give wisdom and life to our family.

Be intentionally aware of everything you allow to enter through your eyes, ears, and heart. What are you watching on television and movies? What are you reading? What kind of music are you listening to? Are you surrounded by friends that fill you up or tear you down? It isn't just about you. What you allow inside your heart and mind is what will inevitably be poured out on your family. What you receive is, most likely, what you will give.

So, what should we be receiving? Jesus told His disciples, "Receive the Holy Spirit" (John 20:22). In the next few chapters and Rest Stops, I will show you practical ways to fill up with the Spirit through praise, Bible study, meditation, prayer, and rest. We will learn to take care of ourselves by taking time to receive from God.

Our only hope for being good mommies is receiving the power of Jesus to parent through us. That is why we must breathe in Jesus all through the day so we may impart life to our families. One of the best ways I've found to accomplish this is through Scripture memorization.

"All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in rightousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work" (2 Timothy 3:16-17).

Let's pull over to the next Rest Stop and learn how we can have "God breath" all day long by memorizing scriptures from the Old and New "Testamints." (I know, I know. My children are rolling their eyes with you.)

Your Spirit-Rest Stop Filling Up with the Word of Life

Keep the Word in Sight

Index cards are useful tools for all kinds of organizational processes and very effective as Scripture reminders too. This is one of the simplest ways I have used to hide scriptures in my heart and a method that worked no matter what age my children were or what season of life I was navigating.

Always keep blank index cards in your Bibles, particularly the Bible you use for your daily devotions. When scriptures come to life off the page, you have the tool immediately available to capture that verse and what the Lord is speaking to your heart. You can then place the index card somewhere in the house where you will be reminded of the Lord's voice.

Currently, I keep cards with memory verses next to my computer screen. These days, the computer seems to be the center of all my activities! But at different times of my life, I have used a variety of locations where I could readily view God's Word several times during my busy days. It is amazing how, without even consciously trying, these verses become committed to memory. Try some of these favorite spots:

* Bedside table or wall * Medicine cabinet or dressing mirror * Car visor * Refrigerator * Purse/wallet * Kitchen sink * TV screen * Exercise equipment * Bookmarks * Next to wall clock

Scripture Primping

One of the biggest challenges for me has been not making Scripture memorization another thing on my already overloaded to-do list. I have tried, instead, to find ways to incorporate scriptures into my daily routine. One of my favorite ideas is "Scripture primping."

Write out scriptures that coordinate with your primping tasks, and stick them to the mirror where you put on your makeup each morning. Read aloud and meditate on those verses, and you'll discover that soon many of them are committed to memory. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

* Foundation-1 Corinthians 3:11 "For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ" (NIV; emphasis added). * Eyebrows-Mark 9:47 "And if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into hell" (NIV; emphasis added). * Eye makeup-Proverbs 16:2 "All the ways of a man are pure in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the spirit" (emphasis added). * Mascara-Proverbs 17:10 "A rebuke impresses a man of discernment more than a hundred lashes a fool" (NIV; emphasis added). * Finishing powder-James 1:4 "Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything" (NIV; emphasis added). * Blush-Luke 6:29 "To one who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also" (emphasis added). * Lipstick-Proverbs 12:19 "Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue is but for a moment" (emphasis added).

You can take this idea and expand it for other routine things you do in your day. Getting dressed could include scriptures about feet (while putting on your socks and shoes), scriptures about keeping your mind focused on the Lord (while brushing your hair), more scriptures about our mouths and words (while brushing your teeth), and scriptures about ears (while putting on your earrings).

Group Scriptures Together

You can purchase spiral-bound index cards at Wal-Mart or office supply stores. You could use them as "flip cards," placing individual verses on each card for a chapter you are trying to commit to memory. After you have achieved that goal, you can keep the cards as refreshers or as a record of what you have committed to memory.

* You can even color-coordinate your cards. Blue could be scriptures on peace, red could be scriptures on anger, and so on. When you are struggling in a particular area, you can grab all the ones from that color and allow God's Word to minister His truth. * I've heard Beth Moore talk about using index cards for grouping together scriptures that speak to a particular season or difficulty in your life.

Other Scripture Memorization Helps

* I have a friend who put up a chalkboard in her kitchen and wrote a scripture every week to learn with her kids. Every time they passed by, they read it. The whole family ended up memorizing it without even trying. * Write out a memory verse and place it on the front of the fridge or just above the water dispenser. Every time you reach for an ice-cold drink, say the verse aloud and fill your spirit with the refreshing living water from Jesus. * There are also two resources I would highly recommend for Scripture memorization. The first one, MemLok, is a program that uses pictures as association points for the first word of a verse. Their Web site is www.memlok.com. * The second program is AWANA Clubs. I have learned more scriptures than ever before by helping my kids with the weekly memory verses that are a part of this interdenominational kids' club. Check them out at www.AWANA.org.

I hope you realize that as much as I believe in the power of memorizing scripture, I also understand the season of life you are in as a mother. Sometimes, even the good things we know to do-and want to do-feel like one more thing on our to-do list. That is why many of the ideas in this Rest Stop have been ways to incorporate scripture in our lives without intentionally memorizing it. Thankfully, every time we even read the Word, aloud whenever possible, we automatically hide another nugget in our hearts.

Prayer is another wonderful opportunity to connect our hearts with the Lord in the middle of our very busy days. I discovered the privilege of personal communication with my Abba Father during my teenage years on The Facts of Life. As I share my story, I pray you will become even more excited about the prospects of an intimate, practical relationship with the Lord as you stick close to Him all day long.


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