Taking Charge of Anger, Second Edition: Six Steps to Asserting Yourself without Losing Control

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Do you "see red" more often than you'd like—and find yourself saying things you'll regret? Are friends or coworkers complaining that your joking has a hostile edge? Has brooding over other people's bad behavior been keeping you up at night?

 

This straight-talking book—grounded in over 25 years of experience—has already helped many tens of thousands of readers understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms. If you've decided you want to gain control of your anger,...

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Overview

Do you "see red" more often than you'd like—and find yourself saying things you'll regret? Are friends or coworkers complaining that your joking has a hostile edge? Has brooding over other people's bad behavior been keeping you up at night?

 

This straight-talking book—grounded in over 25 years of experience—has already helped many tens of thousands of readers understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms. If you've decided you want to gain control of your anger, or if someone else has urged you to "get a grip—or else," anger expert Dr. Robert Nay has a message that might surprise you: There's nothing wrong with the way you feel. Anger can be a positive force that shows us when to stand up for what we want or need. It's what we do with our anger that makes the difference between solving a problem and making it worse.

 

Dr. Nay's six-step plan for taking charge of anger is effective and easy to learn, and—unlike other programs—brings about lasting change. Clear explanations of all the different factors that can trigger anger, plus quizzes and worksheets that uncover what makes you mad, put you in the driver's seat. The second edition includes a new chapter on forgiveness, plus updated examples and resources. Dr. Nay guides you to:

 

*Determine which of the five "faces of anger" are a problem for you, from passive–aggression to all-out rage.

*Understand the anatomy of anger: what brings it on and how an anger episode unfolds.

*Identify and change unrealistic expectations you have for yourself and other people.

*Recognize the early warning signs of anger in your physical sensations and thoughts.

*Master cooling-off strategies that work in the heat of the moment.

 

Dr. Nay helps you make anger control second nature, even in stressful, hot-button situations. You'll learn all kinds of ways to stop an anger episode as it is first developing—before it takes on a life of its own. You'll also gain skills for dealing with other people's discourtesy or provocation. Techniques for defusing conflict and communicating your feelings calmly will enable you to put a lid on destructive anger while strongly asserting your needs.

 

Based on the proven principles of cognitive-behavioral therapy, the approach presented here is optimistic, practical, and empowering. If anger is getting in the way of your goals—or disrupting the relationships most precious to you—the time to make changes is now.

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Editorial Reviews

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"This valuable book provides evidence-based techniques that can help you gain control of anger and communicate more effectively. Kudos to Dr. Nay for producing a guide that draws on extensive clinical and research experience--and that is straightforward, practical, and user friendly."--Donald Meichenbaum, PhD, Research Director, Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention and Treatment, Miami

"If you're among the many people who want to express anger more appropriately, this book offers real help. Using examples of anger problems we can all recognize, Dr. Nay provides clear and direct advice. He walks you through steps to curb anger and replace it with assertiveness--so you can get what you need without harm to self-esteem, reputation, or relationships. The six steps in this book will help you take charge of anger once and for all."--Margaret Wehrenberg, PsyD, author of The 10 Best-Ever Anxiety Management Techniques

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781462502424
  • Publisher: Guilford Publications, Inc.
  • Publication date: 4/18/2012
  • Edition description: Second Edition
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 289
  • Sales rank: 654,808
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 0.90 (d)

Meet the Author

W. Robert Nay, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice in McLean, Virginia, and Annapolis, Maryland, and Clinical Associate Professor at Georgetown University School of Medicine. He has trained thousands of mental health professionals nationwide to work on anger management and relationship issues with their clients. The author of the Overcoming Anger blog for Psychology Today, Dr. Nay lives in Annapolis with his wife. His website is www.wrobertnay.com.

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Table of Contents

Introduction to the Second Edition
Step One. Understanding and Recognizing Anger
1. The Faces of Anger: Whom Do You See in the Mirror?
2. Behind the Mask: Understanding Anger and Its Expression
Step Two. Identifying and Preparing for Anger Triggers
3. Understanding Your Anger Triggers
Step Three. Pinpointing Your Anger Early On and Dampening Arousal
4. Anger Awareness
5. Dampening Anger Arousal
Step Four. Identifying and Changing Thoughts That Fuel Anger
6. Recognizing Thoughts That Fuel Anger
7. Rewriting Your Script: New Thinking for New Solutions
Step Five. Staying Cool Under Fire
8. Assertive Problem Solving: Expressing Anger Constructively in Conflict Situations
9. When Anger Is Aimed at You
Step Six. Staying the Course: Sustaining New Behavior and Coping with Roadblocks
10. Establishing New Anger Habits
11. Resolving Resentment and Considering When to Forgive When You Can't Forget
12. So You've Had a Setback: Getting Back on Track
Appendix 1. Self-Assessment of Anger Questionnaire (SAQ)
Appendix 2. Daily Anger Log
Appendix 3. Personal Anger Scale
Appendix 4. Anger Analysis
Appendix 5. Relationship Anger Profile
Suggested Resources

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