Teach Your Children Well: Parenting for Authentic Success

Teach Your Children Well: Parenting for Authentic Success

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by Madeline, PhD Levine PhD
     
 

Psychologist Madeline Levine, author of the New York Times bestseller The Price of Privilege, brings together cutting-edge research and thirty years of clinical experience to explode once and for all the myth that good grades, high test scores, and college acceptances should define the parenting endgame.

Teach Your Children Well is a toolbox

Overview

Psychologist Madeline Levine, author of the New York Times bestseller The Price of Privilege, brings together cutting-edge research and thirty years of clinical experience to explode once and for all the myth that good grades, high test scores, and college acceptances should define the parenting endgame.

Teach Your Children Well is a toolbox for parents, providing information, relevant research and a series of exercises to help parents clarify a definition of success that is in line with their own values as well as their children’s interests and abilities. Teach Your Children Well is a must-read for parents, educators, and therapists looking for tangible tools to help kids thrive in today’s high-stakes, competitive culture.

Editorial Reviews

For thirty years, clinical psychologist and educator Madeline Levine has been hearing the same parental complaint: "We've tried to help our children in every way, but that just seems to make them unhappier and more stressed out." From hard-won experience and cutting-edge research, Dr. Levine knows that good child-raising means more than facilitating standout grades, high test scores, and acceptances from prestigious colleges. In this ever so timely book, the author of The Price of Privilege describes how straightjacket conceptions of success are undermining the talents, happiness, and wellbeing of our children. A thoughtful, impassioned call for awakening the skills most essential in the 21st century: creativity, collaboration, and innovation.

Publishers Weekly
In this powerful text, psychologist Levine (The Price of Privilege) argues that “our version of success is a failure.” Levine reports that our nation’s ideas of success have led to children and teens who are stressed, anxious, depressed, and exhausted (as are many parents). Kids are on a fast track to higher grades and impressive tests scores, prestigious colleges, and relentless competition—goals that are wearing everyone out—rather than focusing on such skills as resilience, creativity, innovative thinking, and the ability to collaborate. While academics are important, Levine maintains, growing up to become authentically successful involves making friends, playing, developing a sense of self and emotional intelligence, and many other nonacademic tasks. In separate chapters, the author takes readers through the stages of child development that occur in elementary, middle school, and high school, and includes practical tips on how parents can help kids flourish during each phase. According to Levine, our society is at a “tipping point,” and it’s time to redefine success so that kids can meet their full potential in academic and other areas without relinquishing their well-being. The text also includes various examples that illustrate the ways in which kids and parents are struggling with our “dysfunctional system.” Though bucking the trend may be a challenge, parents who want their kids to succeed without compromising their health or losing the joy of learning will be buoyed by Levine’s support, encouragement, and guidance. (Aug.)
Forbes
“An excellent new book.”
Psychology Today
“Here’s one potentially bright and shiny opportunity for optimism (at least if you take her advice) thanks to one busy and one hope’s wise clinical psychologist. . . . Her insights are fresh . . . look no further for your Beach Book, here it is!”
San Jose Mercury News
“Levine, author of The Price of Privilege, offers practical tips for helping kids relax, cope with the very real demands of adolescence and mature into healthy adults.”
Judith Warner
“Levine really comes into her own . . . when she moves beyond child development to concentrate instead on parent development, exploring why we do the misguided things we do, and asking how we must (as we must) change ourselves and behave differently.”
Dr. Ned Hallowell
“A fantastic, on-point, desperately needed book! If you have children or care about children or care about the future of this country and the world, read this book.”
Daniel H. Pink
“Madeline Levine’s voice is a welcome antidote to the Tiger-Momming of America. [Teach Your Children Well] is packed with smart and savvy advice for raising independent, productive, and well-adjusted young people. Read this book—your kids will thank you.”
David Elkind
“With keen insight and telling examples, Levine offers suggestions for adopting a more balanced idea of success that requires changing deeply ingrained habits but is well worth the effort.”
Kenneth R. Ginsburg MD
“For the sake of the adults of tomorrow, I hope that Teach Your Children Well becomes a must-read and must-discuss book for parents today.”
Wendy Mogel
“A modern guide for the perplexed! First Levine captures a culture which puts competition and social status ahead of character. Then, with a gentle, firm remarkably clear head, she tells parents precisely what to do to bring good sense and respect for children back to parenting.”
Doctor - Ned Hallowell
"A fantastic, on-point, desperately needed book! If you have children or care about children or care about the future of this country and the world, read this book."
MD - Kenneth R. Ginsburg
"For the sake of the adults of tomorrow, I hope that Teach Your Children Well becomes a must-read and must-discuss book for parents today."
Kirkus Reviews
Practical advice for raising well-rounded and successful children. Psychologist, author and co-founder of Challenge Success, Levine (The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids, 2006, etc.) draws on 30 years of counseling experience and current research to debunk contemporary thoughts on raising children. Beginning in preschool, parents and teachers push their students to obtain good grades and high SAT scores and participate in numerous extracurricular activities, with the end goal of attending a prestigious college. While these are still worthwhile endeavors, Levine offers readers hands-on solutions to "optimize conditions so that a far greater number of children can actually be successful without the accompanying high levels of distress that have become so prevalent." Today, there is too much emphasis on driving children toward an often unrealistic and narrow definition of achievement, creating a generation of young adults at "high risk for emotional, psychological, and academic problems." Through the use of scenarios from her own experience of raising three sons, as well as instances from her clinical practice, Levine provides examples of common situations encountered while raising children and suggests new solutions to handle these situations. The author's approach includes unconditional love, empathy, stimulating challenges, a safe environment that encourages curiosity, and discipline when necessary. With these tools, Levine believes all children are capable of leading "satisfying, meaningful, and authentically successful lives" without the accompanying stress, panic and exhaustion commonly seen in adolescents. A rethinking of the term "success" provides new insight on how to raise today's youth.
The New York Times Book Review
…a cri de coeur from a clinician on the front lines of the battle between our better natures—parents' deep and true love and concern for their kids—and our culture's worst competitive and materialistic influences…Levine has good, if familiar, lessons for parents about the virtues of teaching empathy; encouraging the development of an authentic self; and making time for dreaming, creating and unstructured outdoor play. But she really comes into her own…when she moves beyond child development to concentrate instead on parent development, exploring why we do the misguided things we do, and asking how we might (as we must) change ourselves and behave differently.
—Judith Warner

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780061824746
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
07/24/2012
Pages:
352
Sales rank:
542,211
Product dimensions:
6.30(w) x 9.00(h) x 1.30(d)

What People are saying about this

Ned Hallowell

“A fantastic, on-point, desperately needed book! If you have children or care about children or care about the future of this country and the world, read this book.”

David Elkind

“With keen insight and telling examples, Levine offers suggestions for adopting a more balanced idea of success that requires changing deeply ingrained habits but is well worth the effort.”

Daniel H. Pink

“Madeline Levine’s voice is a welcome antidote to the Tiger-Momming of America. [Teach Your Children Well] is packed with smart and savvy advice for raising independent, productive, and well-adjusted young people. Read this book—your kids will thank you.”

Kenneth R. Ginsburg

“For the sake of the adults of tomorrow, I hope that Teach Your Children Well becomes a must-read and must-discuss book for parents today.”

Judith Warner

“Levine really comes into her own . . . when she moves beyond child development to concentrate instead on parent development, exploring why we do the misguided things we do, and asking how we must (as we must) change ourselves and behave differently.”

Meet the Author

Madeline Levine, PhD, is a clinician, consultant, and educator; the author of the New York Times bestseller The Price of Privilege; and a cofounder of Challenge Success, a project of the Stanford School of Education that addresses education reform, student well-being,and parent education. She lives outside San Francisco with her husband and is the proud mother of three newly minted adult sons.

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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
After being a parent for 10 years and after feeling increasingly stressed about my parenting techniques, decisions, strategies and my children's future, I was lucky to read Madline Levine's article in NY Times a few weeks ago which led me to this book. This is a fantastiic guide to parenting that puts the whole concept of parenting in a different and truly authentic perspective. Mrs. Levine with her easy to read jargon-free writing put an end to all my uncertainties and endless anxiety about my children's up brining by questioning the current standars of success which are truly flawed. I need to go back and read the book, particularly the last two chapters, again. This is a must read guide for every parent who strives for authenticly successful children and family no matter how old the children are. Mrs. Levine, thank you for your superbly written book and for sharing your knowledge and experiences as a professional and as a parent with the rest of us. Teaching Your Children Well is the light that all of us need as we try to navigate and find the right path for ourselves and our children everyday.
LovesToReadSF More than 1 year ago
I highly recommend this book to anyone who is looking for thoughtful advice on how to raise a well-balanced child in our hectic world. Dr. Levine reminds us of what's truly important when it comes to raising children: loving them for who they are as individuals vs. what we want them to be; allowing them to experience both the ups and downs of life in order to build resilience; and making time to connect with them during the simple, everyday moments as opposed to always running from activity to activity. Her words of wisdom encourage us to focus on raising kids who will grow up to be well-rounded and capable adults, rather than figuring out how to get them into accelerated classes or running interference for them when they are faced with the inevitable challenges of life. A fabulous read for parents and educators alike!!
MomsChoiceAwards More than 1 year ago
Teach Your Children Well is a recipient of the prestigious Mom's Choice Award. The Mom’s Choice Awards honors excellence in family-friendly media, products and services. An esteemed panel of judges includes education, media and other experts as well as parents, children, librarians, performing artists, producers, medical and business professionals, authors, scientists and others. A sampling of the panel members includes: Dr. Twila C. Liggett, ten-time Emmy-winner, professor and founder of PBS’s Reading Rainbow; Julie Aigner-Clark, Creator of Baby Einstein and The Safe Side Project; Jodee Blanco, New York Times best-selling Author and; LeAnn Thieman, motivational speaker and coauthor of seven Chicken Soup For The Soul books. Parents and educators look for the Mom’s Choice Awards seal in selecting quality materials and products for children and families.