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Team Us: Marriage Together
     

Team Us: Marriage Together

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by Ashleigh Slater, Gary Chapman (Foreword by)
 

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What are you agreeing to when you say “I do”?

When a couple promises “I do,” they agree to more than just a shared last name, a joint bank account, and no more dateless nights. This husband and wife duo forms a new team. “Life together” becomes their mantra. Nothing can come between them. At least, that’s the plan.

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What are you agreeing to when you say “I do”?

When a couple promises “I do,” they agree to more than just a shared last name, a joint bank account, and no more dateless nights. This husband and wife duo forms a new team. “Life together” becomes their mantra. Nothing can come between them. At least, that’s the plan.

But then real life sets in, bringing with it disappointments and frustrations. If the couple isn’t intentional in their day-to-day interactions, that once enthusiastic “we” can slowly revert to “you” and “me.” Before long, the couple’s left wondering what happened to their team spirit.

Team Us: Marriage Together offers couples practical ways to cultivate and strengthen unity in their marriages. Author Ashleigh Slater shares from her own marriage as she presents couples with realistic ideas on how to foster cooperation, deepen commitment, and exercise grace on a daily basis.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780802411792
Publisher:
Moody Publishers
Publication date:
06/01/2014
Edition description:
New Edition
Pages:
176
Sales rank:
261,854
Product dimensions:
5.25(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.40(d)

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Team Us Marriage Together


By Ashleigh Slater, Bailey Utecht

Moody Publishers

Copyright © 2014 Ashleigh Slater
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-0-8024-1179-2



CHAPTER 1

Grace like Sweeping

The greatest marriages are built on teamwork. A mutual respect, a healthy dose of admiration, and a never-ending portion of love and grace.

—FAWN WEAVER


I'm not big on sports. Yeah, I know that seems a bit ironic coming from the author of a book called Team Us, but there you have it. The fact is, I'm fairly clueless when it comes to America's favorite athletic pastimes. Sure, I can name my current hometowns major league baseball team, the Braves, but if you start asking me about football teams, I'd need the help of Google.

Luckily for me, I married a man who isn't all that into sports either. Sometimes Ted wishes he were, but if given the choice he'd much rather watch a political analysis of the president's latest speech on Fox News than instant replays on ESPN. While some couples have power struggles over whether to watch HGTV or Monday Night Football, our quibbles face off kitchen remodels against breaking news.

We aren't total killjoys in the realm of sports. We feel the electricity when Olympic season rolls around. I do pull out my "Go USA!" spirit for figure skating during the winter games. Ted finds the modern pentathlon in the summer games intriguing, largely because a friend of ours competed in recent years. Yet, if we miss watching them when they air, I can't say we're all that disappointed. Life goes on pretty much the same either way.

But something unexpected happened the last time the Winter Olympics made its way to our TV. We got hooked. As in DVR-recording, disappointment-when-we-missed-a-competition type hooked. It wasn't what you'd think, though. We weren't addicted to ice skating, freestyle skiing, or even bobsledding, but on curling. You know, that sport you'd expect to find on the decks of an ocean liner somewhere because it looks a lot like shuffleboard. Except, well, it's played on ice.

It happened one Saturday afternoon as I randomly flipped through the channels. I'm pretty sure I was looking for the pairs figure skating competition. I didn't find skating, but I did stumble upon a sport I'd never seen before. A game that included ... wait, were those brooms? In the Olympics? Really?

I'm not sure why I kept watching, but I did. It wasn't like this sport was all that exciting at first glance. Honestly, it seemed to have the entertainment value of C-SPAN. For some reason, though, the longer I watched, the harder it was to stop. Soon Ted joined me. Before long, I'd even pulled up Wikipedia on our laptop to learn more about this broom-inclusive sport.

Nicknamed "chess on ice," curling requires strategy, precision, and excellent teamwork. If you don't know how the game works, here are the basics from my research via Wikipedia (I also possibly spent a few hours perusing Curling for Dummies online).

A game of curling is made up of two teams with four members each. The players take turns skillfully sliding a granite stone across the ice, also known as the "curling sheet," toward a large circular target called the "house." The team to get the most stones in the house's center or closest to it wins. As you'd expect from a game likened to chess, there are a number of complicated rules and plays. But as I said, basics.

What makes curling interesting is that it's not like bowling. It isn't a game where once you've done your best to calculate your ball's trajectory and sent it off, it's gone. You know, the kind where if it starts to veer for the gutter, you're out of luck. Nope, curling has this wonderful thing called "sweepers." After the stone is slid, two team members, or "sweepers," skate alongside it, using the sweeping motion of their brooms to make sure the "rock," as we North Americans like to call it, doesn't deviate from its set path.

I'm telling you, if you've never watched a game of curling, it really is fascinating once you understand all the strategy that's at play. Search for it on YouTube. You'll thank me.

What makes it even more intriguing for me, though, is it reminds me of marriage. You see, just like curling, marriage is a team effort that can thrive when approached with strategy, intentionality, and lots of sweeping. At least I've found this to be true in my own marriage.


The War Room Picnic

I still remember one of Ted's and my first real dates, although I admit being a mom of young children has blurred the details a bit. Like, did we eat Reubens on our May picnic? Or perhaps it was turkey and cheese? I can bet that Ted doesn't remember either. If it happened more than five years ago and wasn't life-changing, he tends to forget.

Regardless of whether our bread was rye or wheat, what I do know is that we didn't just bring lunch to the park that day. We also packed a few pieces of scrap paper and two pens. While some couples may have used that beautiful spring afternoon to gaze adoringly into each other's eyes, as they ever-so-discreetly checked their teeth for stray food, we decided to make a list. Sure, it sounds boring—well, maybe not to all you fellow Type-A personalities out there—but looking back, it was perhaps one of the wisest ways we could kick off our relationship.

You see, this wasn't a bucket list of our must-dos. We weren't scribbling down things like "Take a walk in the botanical gardens" and "Eat crème brulee in the shadow of the Eiffel Tower," although we did go on to do both. Nope, we were strategizing. The picnic table that day became our war room.

We jotted down a list of qualities we wanted to see characterize our relationship. At that point in time, we didn't know whether we'd go on to marry each other, but what we did know was that regardless of the result, we wanted to look back at our time together and know we did our best to wall out our relationship in a way that honored God and each other.

We scribbled things like friendship, purity, and good communication. It may sound like we were writing a prescription for our relationship or dictating a set of rules, but we weren't. What we were doing was creating a map of the way we wanted to see our interactions develop and play out We'd both been in previous dating relationships; Ted had even been engaged twice. We'd learned a lot from our mistakes, and neither of us was eager to repeat them.

I think it's safe to say that every team, whether it's in curling or marriage, does better with strategy and intentionality. They take a team far. Yet these things alone don't bring home the gold. Ted and I have found that sweeping is crucial


Sweeping Matters

While strategy and intentionality set our marriage on a good path, they aren't what's kept us going when we've struggled with each other's selfish habits. Or when we've faced conflict. They're not what's brought us through job loss and a miscarriage and different parenting styles.

Nope, it's been grace.

Grace is to marriage what sweepers are to curling (I know, I sound a bit like the Sphinx from the 1999 film Mystery Men). Just like the two sweepers' primary job is to ensure the rock follows its projected trajectory as closely as possible grace helps marriage stay on that heavenward "until death dc us part" course.

I'm sure you're familiar with the term grace. It's one we throw around fairly often and sometimes rather casually in our Christian circles. It's the name of our churches, the short prayers we utter before meals, and, for me, the middle name of our oldest daughter. I think many of us, including me at times, have come to view grace in the context of our spiritual lives, as we do cheddar cheese to a cheeseburger: necessary, but not as exciting as a good slice of Gruyère. It's much more interesting to focus on what God's calling is on our lives or our top three spiritual gifts.

While there's nothing wrong with concerning ourselves with these things, it's important not to brush over grace. This "disposition to or an act or instance of kindness, courtesy, or clemency" is foundational to our salvation. Therefore, I think it should be foundational to our marriages.

In his letter to the Ephesians, Paul wrote, "For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast" (Ephesians 2:8–9).

I love that passage. It reminds me that God's grace is free, It's a gift. It's not dependent on how many hours I volunteered at hospice while in high school or how consistently I show up on Sunday mornings. Yes, I certainly want to honor God with my attitudes and actions, just as Ted and I wanted to in our dating relationship, but I don't have to bring home first place in the category of good works in order to snag this prize.

When I grasp this truth that God's grace—His kindness and clemency—has been given to me, it should make a big difference in my relationships with others, specifically with Ted. And it has. While I don't think we wrote grace down on our list that day at the park, somewhere along the way we determined it was important. We decided that we wouldn't withhold it from one another or force the other to earn it, We'd give it freely to each other, just as we'd received it from the Lord.

Does our practice of grace mean that anything goes in our marriage? Do we just turn a blind eye to each other's sins? Not at all. Although, as I'll mention later, it has taken some growth on my part to directly address it.

But when Ted and I do address it, especially the small stuff, we also embrace the wisdom of 1 Peter that says, "Love covers a multitude of sins" (1 Peter 4:8). We attempt to do what R. C. Sproul Jr. points to as the core meaning of this verse. We "under-accuse, over-repent and over-forgive." We're not afraid to call sin by its name, but we're also quick "to forgive it and to look past it."

I'm reminded of what nineteenth-century theologian Charles Spurgeon once said:

He who grows in grace remembers that he is but dust, and he therefore does not expect his fellow Christians to be anything more. He overlooks ten thousand of their faults, because he knows his God overlooks twenty thousand in his own case. He does not expect perfection in the creature, and, therefore, he is not disappointed when he does not find it.


The reality is that deciding and doing aren't the same thing. Just because Ted and I determined to extend grace doesn't make it easy. Sometimes we'd much rather pick a fight with each other than extend kindness. Sometimes that's exactly what we do. Neither one of us is naturally inclined to respond to everything with grace, especially when it falls into the category of irritating or just plain maddening. That doesn't mean we stop trying, though.


The Game Plan

So what's been Ted's and my game plan for living out grace in the minute-by-minute, hour-by-hour of daily life? Especially on those days when picking a fight takes a lot less effort?

As you'll read throughout this book, there are lots of ways we've put grace to work in our marriage. Believe me, we don't just let it lie around. There's one thing, though, that serves as a starting point for everything else. And that is our determination to focus on the best, not the worst, in each other.

Think back to those Olympic curling teams. Yep, they're masters at strategy, precision, and sweeping. They have to be to make it to "the Games." But something else influences how well they execute a game, and that's team unity. When they step out on that ice, they need to work together.

Whether it's in curling or marriage, unity flourishes when members of a team focus on and play to each other's strengths, not weaknesses. Our friends George and Julie have found this to be true in their marriage. George shared:

I'm a clean freak. Julie's ... well, not a clean freak. She won't be starring on Hoarders any time soon, but she just doesn't see a problem with piles of papers on her desk and a little clutter in the living room. That stuff drives me nuts; so a number of our first fights were about messiness. Even now, I get dirty looks when I suggest relocating piles of papers to the recycle bin.

In our initial years of wedded bliss, here's how the fight usually went. I'd get stressed about other things (like work), so my patience would get shorter than usual. (And to be honest, patience is not one of my selling points on a good day.) I'd notice a fresh stack of debris in the house, and make a few delicate, subtle suggestions about what to do with it (or maybe where to shove it). Julie would roll her eyes, then say she'd deal with it "tomorrow."

A few days later, when the pile was still there and I was stressed again, I'd get on her case for not keeping her promise about "tomorrow." Julie's eyes would narrow as she reminded me how busy she was with grad school. My tone would turn sarcastic as I reminded her that she'd watched three episodes of reality TV last night. Before you knew it, the cheerful sounds of shouting and door-slamming would ring through the household.

Slowly, I think we both realized that fighting over messes was ... how should I put it? ... really stupid. Messes still drive me nuts, and Julie still makes 'em, but when she leaves a pile of clothes on her side of the bed, I try to look the other way. She has plenty of good qualities (like loving me, for instance) that make up for dirty laundry. If she misses her self-imposed deadline to clean things up, I try to remind myself she had good intentions, even when the follow-through is lacking.

When I gripe about a debris pile, she does her best to remember that although I'm an irritating neat freak, there are a couple reasons why she agreed to marry me anyway. So she'll often put in some time on the cleanup, even if the mess never attains my standards of antisepsis.

We still have "discussions" over messes, but blowups have become rare. Most of the time, we get through it with a few rolled eyes and a little understanding. There are enough good things in our marriage that I can deal with a stack of random CDs heaped in the living room—even the one I'm staring at as I type this paragraph on my laptop. Julie's a talented worship musician, and talented musicians need lots of CDs. I'll try to remember that later today when I drop subtle hints for her to sort them onto shelves ...


Poised for the Best

For Ted and me, focusing on the positive doesn't just include keeping the other's strengths front and center. I doubt it stops there for George and Julie either. It means that we also choose to assume the best of the other's motives and actions.

This idea of assuming the best comes from 1 Corinthians 13, that famous New Testament chapter on love. Odds are, you had it read at your wedding. In this passage, the Amplified Bible says that love "is ever ready to believe the best of every person" (1 Corinthians 13:7). Did you get that? "Ever ready," as in always poised.

This section of Scripture is more than just nice prose read during one's nuptials. I've found that when it comes to extinguishing "fires" set off by things like knee-jerk reactions, there's nothing like it. Ted and I keep it handy for such occasions.

Okay, maybe I should clarify that a bit: I'm mostly the one who keeps it handy. You see, while grace may not come naturally to either Ted or me 24/7, when it's time to assume the best, Ted seems to make it look effortless.

I'd love to claim it's because I make it a cinch for him. That I'm like Mary Poppins: "practically perfect in everyway." Let's all get a good laugh out of that now because it couldn't be more untrue. It just seems to be part of Ted's last-born, easy-going personality. He doesn't read too much into what others say. He tends to take them at face-value and is quick to offer the benefit of the doubt. It's a beauty he's brought to our marriage.

I've had to work harder, especially when we first started out. My default was to jump to conclusions, and not positive ones at that. Over a decade later, I'm still learning from an early opportunity I had to assume the best of Ted.

Remember that war room meeting in the park? About two months later, Ted and I found that item #3 on our list, that would be "good communication," wasn't going to be as easy to accomplish as we'd first assumed.

It all started when Ted disappeared. Yep, for about three days.

Okay, so he didn't actually disappear, as in his location was a mystery. I knew exactly where he was, he just wasn't available. At least not to me. Instead of us taking random walks through the woods or eating dinner at our favorite Mexican dive, he was holed up in his home studio making last-minute edits to a CD our church was producing. Not only had he lent his synth and piano playing skills to the project, but he also served as one of the engineers. It was down to the wire, and Ted had taken vacation time off to make the final tweaks.

The problem was, I think he forget he owned a car or a phone or an email account during that time. If he remembered he had them, he certainly wasn't using them to get in touch with me.


(Continues...)

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Team Us addresses one of the most important aspects of an intimate marriage: becoming one. With a whimsical and engaging style, Ashleigh Slater challenges us to build our 'team' with careful thought, perseverance, and commitment.
Gary Thomas, author of Sacred Marriage and A Lifelong Love

Is your marriage a team effort? Are you and your main squeeze producing the sweet fruit of joyful togetherness and intimacy? Or are you beginning to resemble a pair of old lemons, estranged and sour, waiting to be picked off by the enemy and added to the heap of failed relationships? If you've lost some of the "us-ness" you had when you first got married, Team Us: Marriage Together is a book you need to read. If you want to fire up the togetherness in your relationship, build oneness, and live with a "Team Us" spirit, read Ashleigh's book today! Her writing is transparent, engaging, funny, and helpful. This book will fill you with the practical perspective you need to win in marriage.
Kirk Cameron, actor/film producer

Part Princess Bride and part Remember the Titans, you’ll be cheering for Team Us from page one! Ashleigh does a masterful job of weaving in her own story with yours. You’ll learn what it takes to triumph in marriage as a team, even when the odds are stacked up against you.
Arlene Pellicane, author of 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife and coauthor of Growing Up Social

Marriage is the adventure of a lifetime—a sacred and lifelong commitment played out in the triumphs and tragedies of the day-to-day. In Team Us, Ashleigh (and Ted) bring you along on their adventure, sharing the simple but foundational lessons they've learned along the way. The result is a fun, honest, and convicting read that made me eager to apply the “team” concept to my own marriage, and more excited than ever for the years ahead.
Alex Harris, coauthor of Do Hard Things and Start Here

Team Us is a wonderful read for married couples who are looking to get on the same page. Encouraging, inspirational, and very easy to pass between spouses for sparking conversation.
Renee Fisher, author of four books including Forgiving Others, Forgiving Me

Packed full of challenging and uplifting marriage advice, Team Us will draw readers in and set them up for a successful, fun, and godly marriage. Ashleigh Slater has a way with words where we see our own strengths and weaknesses within her story. Coupled with candid personal stories, humorous life happenings, and biblical truth, both men and women will relate and jump in to make their marriages even better. Team Us will be close at hand to share with those I mentor.
Sarah Francis Martin, author of Just RISE UP!: A Call To Make Jesus Famous www.liveitoutblog.com

Like a conversation with a true friend, this book is open, real, and honest. Ashleigh invites you inside her heart and home to humbly share wisdom gained from experiences she and her husband have walked through. Here you’ll find solid teaching that is gentle, yet poignant, with a touch of humor, showing how to trust, to love freely, to keep no record of wrongs  . . . and the many other ways of living that make for a rich, fulfilling marriage. We highly recommend this book for couples of any age.
Matthew and Lisa Jacobson, authors of 100 Ways to Love Your Husband and 100 Ways to Love Your Wife

Team Us is a “must-have” book for every couple. Ashleigh’s writing style drew me in and kept me captivated throughout. The relationship between Ashleigh and her husband, Ted, is my favorite aspect of the book, and I love the fact that his voice was present throughout. Absolutely beautiful and inspiring!
Darlene Schacht, creator of The Time-Warp Wife

When it comes to the ups and downs of daily life, are you and your spouse on the same team? If you struggle with unity in your relationship, Team Us is a great read. It offers practical and encouraging thoughts on how you can better live out marriage together!
Mitch Temple, LMFT, marriage author/speaker, faith and family movie consultant (Fireproof, Mom’s Night Out)

Team Us is a transparent look into marriage through the life of Ashleigh and Ted Slater. It is their real life ups and downs through which Ashleigh has brilliantly unearthed relevant principles that will add value to any marriage. Ashleigh’s humor and vulnerability will keep you turning pages. If you are married or believe marriage is in your future, then Team Us is waiting for its place on your nightstand.
Rob McDowell, lead pastor, North Metro Church, Marietta, Georgia

Team Us: Marriage Together is a resource that I believe will help husbands and wives put their relationship into the right perspective and give them hope and motivation to aim for teamwork!
Jennifer Smith, author of The Unveiled Wife and Wife After God

Ashleigh’s warm, humorous, and unflinchingly honest revelations and insights convicted, inspired and motivated me. Even after 23 years of marriage, God used Team Us to give me a clearer, deeper picture of exactly what He has in mind when He created marriage. It gave me new tools to tackle old problems with hope and a plan. Team Us is a wonderful resource for couples that can transform their mentality about marriage and help them pursue the relationship in the way God intended!
MelindaMeans, blogger, speaker and co-author of Mothering From Scratch: Finding the Best Parenting Style for You and Your Family

Meet the Author


ASHLEIGH SLATER is a writer and editor passionate about seeing marriages at every stage thrive. As the founder and editor of the popular webzine Ungrind and a regular contributor at Start Marriage Right and www.iBelieve.com, The Time-Warp Wife, and For the Family, she unites the power of a good story with biblical truth and practical application to encourage couples. She has almost 20 years of writing experience and a master¿s degree in communication. Ashleigh and her husband, Ted, have been married for more than a decade. They have four daughters and reside in Atlanta, Georgia. To learn more, visit www.AshleighSlater.com.

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PennyMindingMom More than 1 year ago
I often refer to my books as “old friends”, but it’s not to often that I feel like the author is speaking to me as an “old friend”.  Right from the first chapter of “Team Us: Marriage Together” by Ashleigh Slater I felt that she was speaking directly to me. The book “Team Us: Marriage Together” discusses one of the most important things in a marriage – Unity.  When you get married it’s no longer “You” and “Me” but it’s “Us”.  All to often after the honeymoon is over we revert back to the “You” and “Me” in our marriage.  The author, Ashleigh Slater, shares with us ways to deepen commitment to each other, and practice grace on a daily basis. It is evident that Ashleigh and her husband love the Lord, and it is shown throughout their writing in the book. They shows how a Godly marriage will still have it’s arguments and frustrations but also how you can follow God’s word to live in grace and love. Ashleigh shares with us some of her own marriage lows and highs.  Her husband Ted also shares his thoughts on what his wife has written.  The end of each chapter has some questions that you and your spouse discuss.  Don’t worry if your partner doesn’t read the book along with you, you still can open up the discussion and you’ll be surprised here the questions sometimes lead you. The author reminds us that it’s not all about changing our partner, but sometimes we need to change how we view things as well.  She really stresses the “Us” part of a marriage while still showing how you can also maintain the “Me” too.  “Team Us: Marriage Together” is a book that would be great for everyone regardless when you tied the knot.  Newly weds will learn how to work together to form a stronger partnership and seasoned couples will be given a gentle reminder on what it is to be “one”. I received a copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.
DKStevens119 More than 1 year ago
I so agree with this from the back cover:  When a couple promises "I do," they agree to more than just a shared last name, a joint bank account, and no more dateless nights. This husband and wife duo forms a new team. "Life together" becomes their mantra. Nothing can come between them. At least, that's the plan. This is what so many newlyweds haven't taken time  to consider. Ashleigh shares in TEAM US how marriage couples should  communicate, have a regular date night, say I LOVE YOU often and have a deep commitment to having a strong marriage.   I liked how they stressed to exercise  grace on a daily basis.. This is a nice reminder that to make a marriage work - YOU have to work at it, it won't just happen... A book that will open your eyes and help you learn from others mistakes. I thought it was an inspiring and oh so honest book.  So join in and join up with TEAM US... I was gifted this book by FlyBy Promotions Blogger Network for my honest opinion which I have given.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
In her new book, Team Us: Marriage Together, author Ashleigh Slater reminds couples that we’re actually playing on the same team. As easy as it is to nag, complain, and even compete in marriage, a better, more God-honoring mindset is to remember each day that it’s not “Team Me” vs. “Team Him.” It’s “Team Us.” Team Us: Marriage Together is challenging encouragement wrapped in light-hearted language. When it comes to communication, Ashleigh Slater is a natural. Her writing voice is so conversational that reading Team Us is like having a lively and engaging chat with a friend over a chai latte at Panera. For that reason, I think a wide variety of people will enjoy and benefit from this book — young marrieds, and those with a lengthier track record; those who love to read, and those who rarely open a book. After all, who wouldn’t love a book with plentiful references to The Hunger Games, The Princess Bride, and even the Olympic sport of curling? I particularly appreciated Ashleigh’s honesty and vulnerability as she recounts what she has deemed, “The Weeping Years.” She shares with raw testimony about a devastating miscarriage, and how she and her husband processed their grief differently. She also describes how they have endured several job losses, resulting in multiple cross-country moves and stretching tests of patience. Even as she struggled to wait while her husband sought the right job that would suit his gifts, Ashleigh was quick to point out, “The keys to our longevity are found in those moments we decide to assume the best of each other instead of the worst. In those times we offer grace, not irritation. On those days we offer grace, not irritation.” Poignant advice for all.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If you think you have read everything there is about marriage and more, think again. Ashleigh, with the help of her husband, brings a fresh team-oriented perspective to marriage that will entertain, inspire, and challenge you to take a new look at your marriage. Whether you are about to get married, a newlywed, or living in a seasoned marriage, you will find wisdom within the pages of the book that will bring life to your marriage in a way you never thought possible. This book is a must for those going through pre-marital counseling to go through together as a couple. I am in what I consider a beautiful and strong marriage, and I still found new ideas and things to consider that will bring even more life to our partnership in the coming years. What I love most about her book is her casual style. I feel like I am having beautiful conversation over coffee with an old friend while her husband peeks his head in for a comedic intervention every once in awhile. While reading, you will find yourself laughing, crying, or feeling other emotions you didn't even know were there. Sometimes when I read a book, I feel like the people writing it are perfect, but Ashleigh's stories remind us that they have not had a perfect marriage. She and Ted share about clashes they had in parenting styles, personality differences that presented challenges, moving issues, and even miscarriage. They truly have a solid foundation of experiences to speak from. The important thing is that they didn't implode with the challenges. Instead, their marriage strengthened, and they share how in Team Us. This is a book that you can read on your own, but you are encouraged to read it in conjunction with your spouse. There are discussion questions at the end of each chapter that will challenge any marriage and inspire not just discussion, but change. Marriage truly is a team effort. It is work. It is HARD. But if you truly learn how to be a team full of grace, love, and with a common goal, it can lead you toward a "winning season." Thank you, Ashleigh, for giving us your wonderful tips on how to do this!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Marriage is a team sport. It's hard, it's fun and it's always evolving. And when we team up with our spouses, being lavish with grace, viewing conflict as team building, and laughter as essential, marriage can be a God designed adventure. Getting there takes focus and intention. Like a long talk with a good friend, author Ashleigh Slater shares stories from her marriage adventure with her husband Ted, giving authentic glimpses into both joyful experiences and times of struggle in their lives. Filled with practical tips that will better equip you and your teammate, Team Us: Marriage Together is a book that will alter your marriage. You'll relate to Ashleigh and Ted, laugh with them, and gain wisdom from their reflection on grace, friendships, confliction resolution and parenting.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
As the mom of two toddlers, I have difficulty finding the time to read. That's why I was so pleased that Team Us: Marriage Together was so engaging and lively. Refreshingly candid and witty, author Ashleigh Slater shares the struggles and joys of her own marriage to provide a balanced look at marriage at its finest! Team Us is a lighthearted, encouraging read with a poignant message: marriage is one of the greatest adventures God gives us in this life. Make the most of it by becoming an incredible team!    
Heather1017 More than 1 year ago
Team Us is written in a way that is easy to read & apply to your marriage. It encourages discussion on important topics with great questions at the end of each chapter. This would be a great book to read with your spouse or even small group. I found myself laughing out loud as Ashleigh compares marriage to curling. There are TOO many great examples, stories & quotes that I highlighted to share. But I really appreciated the chapter about friendships, we just moved to a new community & need to build a new circle of friends. I can't say enough about Team Us - just buy the book you won't be disappointed!!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I want to get this book for every married couple, about-to-be-married couple, and single-but-I-want-to-be-married person I know!! BRILLIANT depiction of how to face relational conflict with a "team-first" rather than a "me-first" mentality. For instance, Ashleigh writes, "It’s not about whether we will fight as a couple—because we will— but how and when we fight that matters... As a couple, we should seek to work through our conflict in ways and times that serve to unite us." Great advice to serve both in marriage and in LIFE! "TEAM US" IS A MUST READ!