Teenagers Learn What They Live: Parenting to Inspire Integrity and Independence

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Parenting by example. Using the simple, powerful message that turned Children Learn What They Live into an international bestseller with over 1.5 million copies in print, Drs. Dorothy Law Nolte and Rachel Harris bring their unique perspective to families with adolescents.

Structured, like the first book, around an inspirational poem, Teenagers Learn What They Live addresses the turbulent teenage years, when a stew of hormones, pressures, and temptations makes for such extreme ...

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Overview

Parenting by example. Using the simple, powerful message that turned Children Learn What They Live into an international bestseller with over 1.5 million copies in print, Drs. Dorothy Law Nolte and Rachel Harris bring their unique perspective to families with adolescents.

Structured, like the first book, around an inspirational poem, Teenagers Learn What They Live addresses the turbulent teenage years, when a stew of hormones, pressures, and temptations makes for such extreme challenges for parents and children. Teenagers addresses popularity and peer pressure ("If teenagers live with rejection, they learn to feel lost"); the responsibilities of maturity ("If teenagers live with too many rules, they learn how to get around them./ If teenagers live with too few rules, they learn to ignore the needs of others"); body image and the allure of cigarettes, drugs, and alcohol ("If teenagers live with healthy habits, they learn to be kind to their bodies"). Central to the book are ways for parents to communicate with their teenage children-including how to deal with being "tuned out" and when to start the conversation again-and how to strike the right balance between holding on and accepting a teen's growing independence. Hundreds of examples of parent-child interactions cover everything from the all-night graduation party to problems of sexual identity, providing great guidance as well as effective conversation starters.

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Following up on their first parenting manual (Children Learn What They Live) Nolte, a teacher, and Harris, a psychotherapist, here turn their attention to the difficult years of adolescence. Like the earlier work, each chapter is inspired by a line in a poem written by Nolte ("If teenagers live with failure they learn to give up"; "If teenagers live with too many rules, they learn to get around them"). The same philosophy-that teens, as well as children, are guided more by what parents do than by what they say-also holds sway here. Many examples of how a good parent-child relationship fostered in the early years will help teens better navigate the tricky waters of adolescence are provided. According to the authors, parents should set standards of behavior but recognize that they cannot and should not always control the behavior of their children. Decision-making is also an activity that teens need to learn by trial and error. When Morgan decided to skip her senior year of high school and go to college under an early admission program, her parents, although against the plan, chose not to overprotect their daughter. After a miserable freshman year, Morgan, who was academically but not socially prepared for college, learned from her mistake and also profited from the many supportive telephone conversations she had with her parents during this difficult time. A practical and inspirational guide for parents. (Jan.)
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780761121381
  • Publisher: Workman Publishing Company, Inc.
  • Publication date: 10/28/2002
  • Edition description: First Edition
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 240
  • Sales rank: 787,927
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 6.84 (h) x 0.79 (d)

Meet the Author

Rachel Harris, L.C.S.W., Ph.D., is a psychotherapist who completed postgraduate training in family therapy and parenting education. She lives with her teenage daughter in Princeton, New Jersey. Rachel has know Dorothy Law Nolte for almost 30 years as teaching associates and co-workers.

Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D. is a lifelong teacher and lecturer on family life education, and is the author of the poem "Children Learn What They Live," which has been translated into 20 languages and is used the world over by parents and educators. The mother of three, grandmother of three, and great grandmother of five, she lives and works in southern California.

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Table of Contents

Teenagers Learn What They Live, the poem vi
Introduction viii
If teenagers live with pressure, they learn to be stressed 1
If teenagers live with failure, they learn to give up 27
If teenagers live with rejection, they learn to feel lost 44
If teenagers live with too many rules, they learn to get around them 67
If teenagers live with too few rules, they learn to ignore the needs of others 90
If teenagers live with broken promises, they learn to be disappointed 107
If teenagers live with respect, they learn to honor others 122
If teenagers live with trust, they learn to tell the truth 144
If teenagers live with openness, they learn to discover themselves 166
If teenagers live with natural consequences, they learn to be accountable 187
If teenagers live with responsibility, they learn to be self-reliant 209
If teenagers live with healthy habits, they learn to be kind to their bodies 227
If teenagers live with support, they learn to feel good about themselves 256
If teenagers live with creativity, they learn to share who they are 279
If teenagers live with caring attention, they learn how to love 301
If teenagers live with positive expectations, they learn to help build a better world 322
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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 5, 2010

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    A good Jumping Off Spot

    This Book definitely provides helpful insights and does so in a light, yet practical manner. It is clear throughout that the anecdotes are fictional, They are too numerous and too far from realistic to be beneficial; however, the situations portrayed are often good food for thought. This is a good book to read as your children enter adolescence... not once they're already deep into the teen years. Also, I don't recommend this if you are searching for answers to "what if" questions for scenarios that didn't go according to plan. This book is a bit "dreamy" in that sense - it doesn't seem geared toward readers who are already heading down a bumpy path with their children.
    In summary, if you are looking for a how-to manual in preparation for your children reaching adolescence, this is a cute, easy read with some helpful tips. If, however, you are looking for answers to complex issues, put this back on the shelf and keep going... I'd suggest you grab a copy of Parenting from the Inside Out instead.

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