The 12 Rules of Grandparenting

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Becoming a grandparent is one of the happiest and most eagerly awaited events in the lives of most adults. Grandparents Break the Rules empowers grandparents to develop their own strategies so that they can have a positive impact on their grandchildren's lives. In a no-nonsense style, the author examines each rule of grandparenting and seeks to clarify, explain, and rewrite the "book" on what to expect from grandparents and, perhaps more importantly, what not to expect. She covers many sensitive issues in a ...
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Overview

Becoming a grandparent is one of the happiest and most eagerly awaited events in the lives of most adults. Grandparents Break the Rules empowers grandparents to develop their own strategies so that they can have a positive impact on their grandchildren's lives. In a no-nonsense style, the author examines each rule of grandparenting and seeks to clarify, explain, and rewrite the "book" on what to expect from grandparents and, perhaps more importantly, what not to expect. She covers many sensitive issues in a subtle and non-threatening style, including: grandparents' role in babysitting; spoiling grandchildren; scolding or disciplining; involvement in situations of divorce, custody, or illness; and differing parenting styles between generations.
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Editorial Reviews

Harry F. Rosenthal
Kettmann, a child development specialist, parent and grandparent...suggests grandparenting with a bright new twist. . . . The section of bringing fun ideas to the grandchildren is worth the entire price for the paperback book. . . . This is not the first book of this type to come to this column's attention, but it is the best.
Over 50, Associated Press
Wisconsin Bookwatch
The 12 Rules of Grandparenting is 'must' reading for anyone who has become a grandparent and wishes to fully enjoy the experience, or must deal with disruption in the lives of their grandchildren and in need of sound advice on what to do.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780816039951
  • Publisher: Facts on File, Incorporated
  • Publication date: 12/28/1999
  • Pages: 224
  • Product dimensions: 5.96 (w) x 8.91 (h) x 0.60 (d)

Table of Contents

Introduction: Why Break the Rules? vii
Some Rules are Made to be Broken vii
"Hooray, I'm a Grandparent!" (So What Does That Mean?) xiv
Getting Started xv
Twelve Traditional Grandparent Rules xvii
Rule 1 Grandparents Should be Cheerful 1
Except When 1
When Difficulties Arise 7
Saying "No!" to Stress 8
A Grandparent's Decision-Making Rights 9
A Positive Grandparent Attitude 11
Rule 2 Grandchildren Should Listen to Their Grandparents 16
Tuning in to the Same Channel 16
Finding Ways to Say it Better 19
Teaching Without Preaching 23
Rule 3 Grandparents Should Love to Baby-Sit 32
Expressions of Love 32
Reading Between the Lines 35
Child Safety Checklist 40
Baby-Sitting Safety Kit 41
Sample Medical Release Form 41
Negotiating Your "Contract" 42
When You'd Rather Say "No, Thank You!" 48
Rule 4 Grandparents Should Know About Life 54
Hazy (And Selective) Memories 54
Recalling Ages and Stages 56
Rule 5 Grandparents Should Love to Spoil 65
Sense and Sensibility 65
Parent Reactions 65
Sugar and Spice 68
"No Fail" Toy Selections 70
Setting Up a Play Environment 71
The Playful Grandparent 72
The Playful Child 75
Giving Money to Grandchildren 81
When All is Said and Done 82
Rule 6 Grandparents Should be Full of Fun Ideas 86
So, Why Don't I Remember Them? 86
Making Your Home a Fun Place to be 87
Chores for Grandchildren 88
Day Visits 89
Day Visit Plan 91
Planning for a Longer Stay 92
Sample Weekly Visit Plan 95
Annual Get-Togethers 96
Activities to Get you Started 97
Sample Lunch Plan 98
Snacks 100
Breakfast Ideas 101
Main Dish Ideas 102
Places to go 123
Rule 7 Grandparents Should Love all of Their Grandchildren the Same 132
Secrets of the Heart 132
How Equal does Equal Need to be? 134
Siblings 135
Step- and Adopted Grandchildren 135
A Grandchild with a Disability 138
Sharing with the "Other" Grandparents 140
Rule 8 Grandparents Should Love to Help out 143
Lifestyle Differences 143
Designing a Life of Your Own 145
Slipping and Sliding 146
Rule 9 Grandparents Should Hate to Discipline 150
The Dirty "D" Word 150
Getting the Results that You Want 151
Rule 10 Grandparents Should Know How to Care for Sick Kids 160
Calls for Help 160
Shaping Healthy Attitudes 161
When Baby Comes Early 162
The Long and Short of it 164
Talking Dilemmas 165
Serious Illness 166
Rule 11 Bragging Should be Done in Moderation 170
Hitting High Notes 170
Creative Ways to Brag 171
Rule 12 Being a Grandparent is Always Fun 176
But Just in Case it isn't 176
The Devastation of Divorce 179
Legal Rights and Visitation 183
Grandparent Custody 184
Grandchildren Who Get into Trouble 185
Final Thoughts 189
Giving and Getting the Best 189
Appendix 191
Grandparent Resources 191
What Grandparents Love and Fear 194
What Teenagers Remember About Their Grandparents 196
Congressional "Year of the Grandparent" Proclamation 197
Index 199
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