The Book of No: 250 Way to Say It--And Mean It--And Stop People-Pleasing Forever

The Book of No: 250 Way to Say It--And Mean It--And Stop People-Pleasing Forever

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by Susan Newman
     
 

Overscheduled? Overworked? Overburdened?

Get the "No-How" you need to take back your life

Refusing someone is rarely easy and is often downright uncomfortable. But constantly giving in creates anxiety, anger, added stress, regret, and feelings of powerlessness.

Bestselling author Dr. Susan Newman helps you break your debilitating "yes" habit with her simple

Overview

Overscheduled? Overworked? Overburdened?

Get the "No-How" you need to take back your life

Refusing someone is rarely easy and is often downright uncomfortable. But constantly giving in creates anxiety, anger, added stress, regret, and feelings of powerlessness.

Bestselling author Dr. Susan Newman helps you break your debilitating "yes" habit with her simple techniques, scenarios, and insights. Tackling family, friends, coworkers, and even pushy salespeople, The Book of No helps you

  • Recognize when someone is manipulating you into saying "yes"
  • Avoid being socially overcommitted, and put an end to feelings of resentment, anger, and guilt
  • Get more enjoyment out of the time you make for friends and family
  • Establish boundaries and be more focused and effective at work

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
Do you feel guilty when your child demands that you launder his soccer uniform immediately? Does an out-of-town friend suddenly want you to clear your calendar for an unexpected visit? In this handy manual, social psychologist Newman (Parenting an Only Child) writes with humor but a no-nonsense tone, offering 250 short, dramatic scenes that demonstrate workable techniques for helping you just say no. Newman contends that for many people, saying yes to whatever is asked of them is an unhealthy pattern driven by a need for approval, love or admiration, rather than a desire to help. To those who make a habit of accommodating others against their better judgment, the author suggests making a weekly list of yeses, noting if your time is well managed, learning to prioritize and set limits and giving up the need to be in control. Newman outlines familiar examples of demands made by friends, family and co-workers, and even forceful strangers such as telemarketers (just refuse and hang up). Although Newman doesn't write specifically for women, most of her illustrations present wives, mothers and workers as typical of today's overwhelmed yes women. Agent, Carol Mann. (Jan.) Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780071460781
Publisher:
McGraw-Hill Professional Publishing
Publication date:
11/11/2005
Pages:
224
Product dimensions:
5.40(w) x 8.20(h) x 0.54(d)

Meet the Author

Susan Newman, Ph.D., a social psychologist, is the author of thirteen relationship and parenting books, including Parenting an Only Child, Little Things Long Remembered, and Nobody's Baby Now. Visit Dr. Newman's website at www.thebookofno.com.

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The Book of No: 250 Way to Say It--And Mean It--And Stop People-Pleasing Forever 4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 4 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is terrific, I know many people that need to read the 'Book of NO'! Dr. Newman's book has helped me learn to set healthy boundries with family, friends and employers with out feeling guilty. I've been a people pleaser all my life, so thanks to this book I can say NO gracefully and with confidence.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Lets all be liberal slackers and raise bad kids..this book is it the pits. Dont waste your time.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book gives us, the readers, TOOLS to take control of our lives and to start saying NO when we are being taken advantage of, manipulated or just plain find ourselves overextended in today's hectic lifestyle. This book makes the reader aware of how often we say YES when we should say NO...and then end up resenting the very people who we were trying to help. The book includes insightful guilt-free ways of dealing with friends, family and employers/supervisors who abuse a worker's drive for high performance. This book is for everyone who cares about making other people happy. If you are so evolved that you don't need to learn how to stand up for yourself and let your feelings be known in an appropriate manner, then you know someone who could use this very valuable and instructive read! Buy this book- for yourself or as a gift!
Guest More than 1 year ago
Dr. Newman's book is terrific! Boy oh boy, do I ever wish I'd read it before I got snagged into doing a job that I never wanted to do. I was a wuss to have been so coerced. And now I feel 'taken' and irked. Had I read THE BOOK OF NO a week ago, I would have known how to avoid such a situation. Henceforth, I shall be stronger. This is a book for all those who say 'yes' too easily.