The Boy He Left Behind: A Man's Search For His Lost Father

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Search-Cover"I was four years old when my father came back to kidnap me," begins this gripping memoir about Matousek's search for James Matousek, the drifter father he never knew. Described by the New York Times as " part reminiscence, part detective story, part spiritual musing," this memoir is more than the story of one man's search for his father; it is also a look at the meaning of life and how fathers contribute to that meaning.

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Search-Cover"I was four years old when my father came back to kidnap me," begins this gripping memoir about Matousek's search for James Matousek, the drifter father he never knew. Described by the New York Times as " part reminiscence, part detective story, part spiritual musing," this memoir is more than the story of one man's search for his father; it is also a look at the meaning of life and how fathers contribute to that meaning.

Growing up in a family of troubled women (Matousek's sister committed suicide when the author was 29), he describes the turmoil of growing up "fatherless in America" - an experience shared by millions of children in what sociologists have called the Age of the Absent Father - and the difficult, ultimately successful, struggle to figure out what being a man really means in an age of shifting definitions, evolving sexuality, and "breaking out the man box" of stereotyping and patriarchy. With the tension of a mystery story, the climax occurs when Matousek meets a man he believes to be his father. But is he? And does Matousek, who has reconciled with his mother as she lay dying, really care? These are just two questions leading to this memoir's surprising conclusion.

Praise for The Boy He Left Behind

"Mark Matousek's memoir The Boy He Left Behind begins with the gripping sentence, 'I was four years old when my father came back to kidnap.' Part reminiscence, part detective story, part spiritual musing, the book is more than the story of one man's search for his father, it is also a look at the meaning of life and how fathers contribute to that meaning."
-The New York Times Book Review

"This thoughtful and lovingly rendered portrait of an American childhood is a refreshing addition to the genre. Matousek not only tells his own story but brilliantly evokes the troubled lives of his mother and sisters with humor, honesty, and above all, compassion."
-Kathleen Norris, author of The Cloister Walk and Amazing Grace

"A riveting story in the hands of a master storyteller. Mark Matousek has written a family memoir that is tight and revealing. This is one fine book."
-James McBride, author of The Color of Water

"[A] searing memoir....The writing is exhilarating...deeply soulful, compassionate, and self-scrutinizing. It is an explosive memoir filled with prose that sings, one that provokes readers to question where we come from and what our places are in this world. Matousek...writes from the heart. Read this book"
-Los Angeles Magazine

"Matousek's account of his search for the father he hadn't seen since he was four [is] sharp and funny, thanks to the punchy dialogue and dead-on character sketches."
-Elle

"Interweaving the frustrating suspenseful search for his long-lost father with unsparing recollections of a fatherless boyhood and his confrontation with a life-threatening disease, Mark Matousek expertly guides you through the particulars of his life into a harrowing meditation on the difficulties of becoming a man in a country without fathers. The Boy He Left Behind is beautifully crafted, artful and inspiring. It merits a place alongside the late Paul Monette's masterwork, Becoming a Man; Half a Life Story. Like Monette, Matousek's triumph is twofold - In the book he has written, and in the man he has become. Matousek's probing memoir of lost childhood and found history celebrates the power of manhood."
-The Utne Reader

"Mark Matousek has produced [a] riveting account of his search-at age 38, with the help of a private detective-for the father who abandoned him at age four. A searing meditation on the psychic harm suffered by men and women without fathers, this wise odyssey wrestles with questions of life and death and the search for the meaning of one's existence."
-Publishers Weekly (starred review)

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781492745631
  • Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform
  • Publication date: 6/1/2008
  • Pages: 274
  • Sales rank: 741,402
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 0.58 (d)

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  • Posted December 9, 2008

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    Excellent autobiography

    In Los Angeles, four-year old Mark Matousek fights to leave with his father James, but his sisters and his mother refuse to allow him to go. His mother Ida informs James that she will see him in jail. Over the next two decades, Ida, a transplanted Brooklyn Jew raises her three daughters and son in abject poverty. Along the way the oldest sibling commits suicide and the other two females go in and out of bad relationships. <P>Though suffering and unsuccessfully running from his own demons, Mark never looks back on that incident until he sits with his pal Joe in a Manhattan restaurant thirty-two years later. Joe challenges Mark to search for his father. For no obvious reason, Mark feels it is time and turns to private investigator Mac Sullivan to find the man who left the boy behind when Kennedy was president. <P>THE BOY HE LEFT BEHIND: A MAN¿S SEARCH FOR HIS FATHER is a modern day autobiographical (and somewhat biographical) Odyssey, with the quest being a lost father. Though Mark Matousek never completes his physical search, some closure occurs for him at the deathbed of his mother. The very talented Mr. Matousek (see SEX DEATH ENLIGHTENMENT) provides an inspiring, absorbing, and perceptive story that provides his audience with much insight into a one parent family. Mr. Matousek cleverly uses jocularity to offset the melancholy and maudlin moods that begin to overwhelm the audience. This book is a must reading for those who enjoy a true life dysfunctional relationship story centering on a fatherless family from an author who knows how to entertainingly and educationally spill his guts. <P>Harriet Klausner

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