"The National Institute of Health reports that 15% of students in the US miss school every day because they're afraid of being intimidated or even attacked by other students. Clearly, something is very wrong with a culture that creates such stressful, dangerous conditions for kids and teens. But what is it about our culture that has given rise to such pervasive bullying?
"Hart and Caven's comprehensive book acknowledges societal pressures, but suggests that our culture's child-raising practices too often lay the foundations of bullying. Certainly, they point out, kids who are abused at home are at risk of becoming bullies. But even children who are raised 'in good homes' can feel bullied when parents shame them, call them names, spank them, or don't protect them from sibling violence. Kids who feel bullied at home are primed to become victims with their peers, or to become bullies themselves.
"Luckily, most of The Bullying Antidote focuses on solutions. Parents will find pointers to help kids who are being bullied, as well as to help kids who witness bullying, and even to intervene to help their child who is acting like a bully. The last half of the book is essentially a primer on positive parenting, designed to help parents evolve their child-raising to give their child the self-regard and social skills that are so essential to navigate a complex social world without bullying or being bullied."
--Dr. Laura Markham, author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
"This very important book tackles the bullying problem head on. It discusses the enormous changes in society--general permissiveness, for example, and the technology tsunami--that have brought about huge challenges. It equips kids with a 'superpower' based on respectful relationships, self-regulation, and responsibility. Mean behavior is not accepted, so youngsters are removed from the knee-jerk bullying dynamic. Children can flourish!"
--Cliff Crain, Marriage and Family Therapist and Director of the Center for Creative Living, Danville, CA
"The Bullying Antidote provides parents with the knowledge and skills necessary to raise strong, resilient, assertive and emotionally healthy kids."
--Rick Hanson, author of New York Times bestselling books Buddha's Brain and Hardwiring Happiness
"This well-written, understandable, and comprehensive book will give readers the information, insight, and specific tools they need to begin creating a better environment for all our children. Customers will be relieved to find it on your shelves."
--Anna Jedrziewski, Retailing Insight Trade Magazine
"The Bullying Antidote exposes the often unspoken truth: Bullies aren't born bullies; their behavior has a valid cause that can be prevented and reversed. Hart and Caven give clear insight into ways to prevent what leads to bullying as well as how to respond in ways that heal and connect."
--Naomi Aldort, author of Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves
"We will never be able to make bullying go away entirely, but we can equip our kids with a 'superpower' that enables them to restore their 'health, happiness, and balance' in the face of bullying. The authors present both an 'outside-in' approach, whereby the adults in kids' lives are 'enforcing rules and laws, and holding kids accountable in order to change behavior,' as well as an 'inside-out' approach, whereby adults help 'children develop attitudes, values, and skills that empower them to have respectful relationships based on rights and responsibility.' This is a comprehensive parenting strategy to help parents raise children who can resist bullying, as well as prevent them from becoming bullies themselves."
--Susan Heim, parenting author and editor of Chicken Soup for the Soul
"The Bullying Antidote is a wise and very caring book. There is so much here for parents and guardians to learn about and consider. This book is about much more than bullying. It underscores that there is nothing more important than raising and teaching children to grow up in healthy, caring and responsible ways."
--Jonathan Cohen, PhD, President, National School Climate Center: Educating Minds and Hearts Because the Three Rs are Not Enough; Adjunct Professor in Psychology and Education, Teachers College, Columbia University
"The Bullying Antidote covers everything that has been important in child development discoveries in the last ten years. Hart and Caven have done a thorough synthesis of the current research on how to raise healthy children in today's world, including information on brain science, emotional intelligence, relationships and communication skills. I highly recommend The Bullying Antidote for parents, grandparents, educators, school board members and policy makers--everyone who is invested in putting a stop to the bullying epidemic. This comprehensive, well-written, and vitally important book has my 100 percent endorsement."
--Nevin Valentine, MA, Certified Relationship Coach-Child Development Specialist; creator and coordinator of the Napa Valley College Parent Education Program
"If you are looking for the definitive book on bullying, you have found it. In fact, this book is so comprehensive, it covers societal factors, parenting styles, childhood development, self-esteem, emotional intelligence, brain science, best practices in schools, communication, and family dynamics--and all of the ways these factors contribute to the cause--and then the solution--to bullying. Pick up this book and then back away slowly from the entire self-help aisle. It is all here. This book made me want to be a better parent. And I don't even have kids."
--Kristin L. Roush, PhD, Life Coach, Psychology Professor, Central New Mexico Community College