The Complexity of Connection: Writings from the Stone Center's Jean Baker Miller Training Institute / Edition 1

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In this important third volume from the Stone Center at Wellesley College, founding scholars and new voices expand and deepen the Center's widely embraced psychological theory of connection as the core of human growth and development. Demonstrating the increasing sophistication of relational-cultural theory, the volume presents an absorbing and practical examination of connection and disconnection at both individual and societal levels. Chapters explore how experiences of race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, class, and gender influence relationships, and how people can connect across difference and disagreement. Also discussed are practical implications of the theory for psychotherapy, for the raising of sons, and for workplace and organizational issues.
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"In a culture toxic with aggression, competition, and 'power over' images, this book seeks to heal. Whether discussing race; isolation and loneliness; or raising caring, empathic sons, the authors write with authority and heart about important and deeply relevant issues. I cannot think of a book we need more in our sad, hard times."—Mary Pipher, PhD, author of Reviving Ophelia and Letters to a Young Therapist

"To encounter the transformative vision of the Stone Center in a single volume is always a special pleasure. The theoretical and clinical wisdom in this book is stunning in its power to change the reader in some fundamental way, and to move the field of psychotherapy toward a more accurate, compassionate, and multilayered understanding of what hurts and heals in human relationships."—Harriet Lerner, PhD, author of The Dance of Anger

"This is the book where the Stone Center theorists ask: 'What purpose and whose interests do psychological theories serve?' Refusing complicity with a culture of domination, they explore the complexity of human connection—its cultural contexts and therapeutic challenges. Readers will find an invitation to think about complicity and competition, especially among women, and also a guide to envisioning how connection can follow disconnection in families and at work as well as in therapy."—Carol Gilligan, PhD, author of The Birth of Pleasure

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781593850258
  • Publisher: Guilford Publications, Inc.
  • Publication date: 4/21/2004
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 308
  • Product dimensions: 5.94 (w) x 9.14 (h) x 0.88 (d)

Meet the Author

Judith V. Jordan, PhD, is the codirector and a founding scholar of the Jean Baker Miller Training Institute (JBMTI) of the Stone Center at Wellesley College. Coauthor of Women's Growth in Connection and editor of Women's Growth in Diversity, she is an assistant professor at Harvard Medical School and works as a therapist, supervisor, and consultant.

Maureen Walker, PhD, is a licensed psychologist with an independent practice in psychotherapy and multicultural consultation in Cambridge, Massachusetts. A faculty member and the director of program development at the JBMTI, she is the coeditor of How Connections Heal. She is also the associate director of MBA Support Services at Harvard Business School.

Linda M. Hartling, PhD, is the associate director of the JBMTI. She is also a member of an international team establishing the first Center for Human Dignity and Humiliation Studies.

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Part I. Deepening Our Understanding of Relationship
1. Toward Connection and Competence
Judith V. Jordan
2. Relational Resilience
Judith V. Jordan
3. Relational Awareness: Transforming Disconnection
Judith V. Jordan
4. Therapists' Authenticity
Jean Baker Miller, Judy V. Jordan, Irene P. Stiver, Maureen Walker, Janet Surrey, and Natalie S. Eldridge
5. Race, Self, and Society: Relational Challenges in a Culture of Disconnection
Maureen Walker
6. Shame and Humiliation: From Isolation to Relational Transformation
Linda M. Hartling, Wendy Rosen, Maureen Walker, and Judith V. Jordan
7. Racial Images and and Relational Possibilities
Maureen Walker and Jean Baker Miller
8. Women, Race, and Religion: A Dialogue of Black and White
Andrea Ayvazian and Beverly Daniel Tatum

Part II. Applying the Power of Connection
9. Couple Therapy: A Relational Approach
Stephen J. Bergman and Janet L. Surrey
10. Relationships in Groups: Connection, Resonance, and Paradox
Nikki Fedele
11. Mothers and Sons: Raising Relational Boys
Cate Dooley and Nikki Fedele
12. Applications of the Relational Model to Time-Limited Therapy
Judith V. Jordan, Maryellen Handel, Margarita Alvarez, and Robin Cook-Nobles
13. Relational Theory in the Workplace
Joyce K. Fletcher
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Table of Contents

Introduction 1
Pt. I Deepening our understanding of relationship
1 Toward competence and connection 11
2 Relational resilience 28
3 Relational awareness : transforming disconnection 47
4 Therapists' authenticity 64
5 Race, self, and society : relational challenges in a culture of disconnection 90
6 Shame and humiliation : from isolation to relational transformation 103
7 Racial images and relational possibilities 129
8 Women, race, and racism : a dialogue in black and white 147
Pt. II Applying the power of connection
9 Couple therapy : a relational approach 167
10 Relationships in groups : connection, resonance, and paradox 194
11 Mothers and sons : raising relational boys 220
12 Applications of the relational model to time-limited therapy 250
13 Relational theory in the workplace 270
Index 299
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