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Marjorie Hansen Shaevitz, executive coach, lecturer, and therapist who has won national awards for her work in women's health, has the success some people only dream of: a prosperous professional life; a long, happy marriage; two Stanford-educated children; and a best-selling book, The Superwoman Syndrome, which coined a term for a generation of women. Despite all of her accomplishments, however, she struggled with the issue of confidence. After conducting extensive research, she found that she was far from ...
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Overview

Marjorie Hansen Shaevitz, executive coach, lecturer, and therapist who has won national awards for her work in women's health, has the success some people only dream of: a prosperous professional life; a long, happy marriage; two Stanford-educated children; and a best-selling book, The Superwoman Syndrome, which coined a term for a generation of women. Despite all of her accomplishments, however, she struggled with the issue of confidence. After conducting extensive research, she found that she was far from alone: Many women are in the paradox of enjoying success in their business and personal lives while not having much confidence in themselves.         

Throughout her professional career, Shaevitz has helped scores of women find the power within themselves to unshackle, rescue, or recover their self- confidence. Using a series of seven steps, complete with techniques and questions, Shaevitz presents an accessible and proven program that helps women regain their confidence.         The Confident Woman focuses on the issues that women face in growing up as a girl and living as a woman in this society, offering the reader a more comprehensive approach to "filling the void within herself." The advice and information in this book are not limited to one age or stage of a woman's life: It is written for women of all ages, ending with an epilogue for mothers who want practical tips for raising confident daughters. Written in clear, concise prose and filled with anecdotes and humor, The Confident Woman focuses on what women say they want: practical advice that they can usenow.
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Shaevitz, the author of The Superwoman Syndrome, returns now with a seven-step program to help women boost their self-esteem. The book's four sections provide numerous exercises to help readers focus their energies on improving both their professional and their personal lives. Although well intended, these exercises seem burdensome. One wonders whether readers will even try to complete all the exercises presented throughout the book, especially since they seem to be designed to make readers feel as if they are in group therapy (without the benefit of personal contact with other people). Still, the practical advice offered does make it worth a look; recommended for public libraries.--Sheila Devaney, Univ. of Georgia Lib., Athens Copyright 1999 Cahners Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780609603529
  • Publisher: Crown Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 12/28/1999
  • Edition description: 1 ED
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 368
  • Product dimensions: 6.39 (w) x 9.51 (h) x 1.17 (d)

Meet the Author

Marjorie Hansen Shaevitz holds a master's degree from Stanford University, is an executive coach, and is a practicing psychotherapist. She is the Chair of the National Advisory Panel for Stanford?s Institute for Research on Women and Gender. She lives in La Jolla, California.
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Introduction

WHO AM I TO BE TELLING YOU WHAT TO DO?


A book is, after all, nothing more than a personal letter to the world... at least to those who want to read it.                
-- Anonymous


I can't remember when I didn't want to write this book. After a lifetime of experiencing little confidence, two separate, but related incidents led me to stop thinking about it and sit down to prepare, and eventually write The Confident Woman.

The first incident took place when a colleague of mine, Dr. Kim Yeager, chief of the California Office of Women's Health, asked me to give a presentation for an upcoming National Roundtable on Women's Health. The other presenters were going to be people who were considered "the experts" in their respective fields, so my immediate response was to tell her that I was sure that there were many others much better qualified than I to do such a presentation. Frankly, that was the truth. Nevertheless, Kim left the invitation open.

That evening I flew up to the San Francisco Bay Area to see my kids perform in a Stanford University improv program. Before the show, I went out to dinner with another colleague, Dr. Iris Litt, Director of Adolescent Medicine at the Stanford University School of Medicine. As we were sipping a glass of wine at a local cafÈ, I mentioned to Iris that a National Roundtable on Women's Health was going to be held in California and that she might want to get in touch with Kim Yeager about doing a piece on adolescent girls. Just as an idle aside, I mentioned that Kim had asked me to give thetalk on women's mental health and then casually told her of my response.

What ensued was life-changing for me. Iris, who in spite of her remarkable accomplishments, is a very soft-spoken woman, took my hand in hers, looked me straight in the eye, and in an uncharacteristically, strong voice said: "Marjorie, don't you dare not accept this invitation! Don't you know that when asked to give presentations, even the most highly educated, most qualified women--both Ph.D.'s and M.D.'s--continually take themselves out of the arena. Predictably, they say no to invitations because they don't think they know enough, are good enough, are experienced enough, are prepared enough to speak on a subject. Even when they are experts in their fields, many women don't seem to have the confidence to do the job."

"On the other hand," she went on, "when most male Ph.D.'s or M.D.'s are asked to present, they say yes readily, whether or not they know anything about the subject!1 Hey, my friend, you've been offered a wonderful opportunity! You've got to do it. What do you have to lose?"

I was stunned. Iris' words both challenged me and gave me courage to do something that I would not otherwise have done. (Now that's a good friend!). So in spite of not having the extraordinary academic credentials of my fellow roundtable presenters, I decided to participate. With the help of a colleague, I spent six months relentlessly tracking down the research on women's mental health. Eventually we managed to put together a respectable presentation. At least it was effective enough to have the sponsoring organization ask us to give it again on two other occasions. I will never forget that experience because it forced me to succeed at something about which I had little confidence.

The second incident took place just after I gave the roundtable talk. One day a colleague of mine called to ask me to lecture on The Superwoman Syndrome to women faculty members at a major medical school. My non-confident side whispered, "Who, me? What could I possibly offer these brilliant women?" Then I thought back to the previous incident and Iris's encouragement. I realized that my colleague was asking me to speak on a topic about which I knew quite a lot. (After all, I was the author of the one and only book on the subject.) In spite of my initial trepidation, I said yes to her invitation.

Once again I relied on my trusty work orientation and decided that to feel comfortable talking before this high-powered group, I needed to know more about them and what their respective "Superwoman" issues were. As I agreed to do the talk, I also made arrangements to conduct interviews with about a dozen of the future audience members, all M.D.'s and/or Ph.D.'s. As I interviewed these extraordinary women, I was astounded at how many of them seemed to lack self-confidence. They said things like (and these are their EXACT words):

I keep thinking, I hope I'm good enough.

I just don't feel up to a lot of things...teaching, my research, being a good mother, keeping the household going.

I know I need to take better care of myself...I just can't...I'm worn to a frazzle; freaked out with too much to do and yet guilty and miserable when I try to take some time for me. I'm desperate for even a little bit of time alone.

I'm insecure, damn insecure, but pleazzzzzzze don't breathe a word of this to anyone.


I couldn't believe my ears! Here were some of the most accomplished women in the United States, women who enjoyed all the accoutrements of success--degrees, decrees, prestigious careers, expensive homes, children in the best schools, new Volvos in their parking spaces--yet, so many of them appeared to be lacking in confidence. And they were the cream of the crop...the top of the heap...the academic dream team!

So many questions popped into my head: If these uncommonly successful academics and physicians don't have confidence, who does? Does any woman? Do people fake confidence? (Hadn't I done that myself?) If there are women of real confidence, who are they and how did they get it? Why do others not have it? Is one born with it? What can a person do to develop it? It's not as if you can traipse down to your local grocery store, open up a mail-order catalogue, or even go onto the Internet to buy some (If it were only so easy!) I also thought about young girls and what we--as mothers, grandmothers, aunts, friends, teachers, mentors--can do to insure that they grow up having true confidence.

Right then and there I decided that I had to write this book.
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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 15, 2000

    A Great Guide to Taking Back Control of Your Life!

    As a women¿s health care professional, I think The Confident Woman will be a boon to all women ¿ especially those of us who consider ourselves highly competent, and caring. Marjorie Hansen-Shaevitz shows us how, in our desire to be good employees or professionals, good mothers, helpful to teachers and coaches, and good wives, we too often say ¿yes¿, in spite of our already feeling overburdened. We have lost control of our lives. Being a confident woman means choosing what we want to do, and don¿t want to do ¿ and taking back control of how we spend our time. My husband has particularly enjoyed watching my transformation, as I became a woman who said yes when she meant it, and became a more poised and loving wife. There¿s one place where I disagree with Hansen-Shaevitz. She expresses the opinion that a mother¿s becoming a confident woman will make her a good role model for her daughter. As the mother of three young sons, I feel that being a confident woman has made me a better role model in terms of showing them the kind of person they will want for a wife. The book contributes to raising daughters and sons alike. Eve-Ellen Barnett, RN, MS Medical-Legal Consultant, Former Assistant Professor of Nursing, University of Rhode Island, and Northeastern University

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 11, 2000

    WHAT A BOOK!

    I just finished reading The Confident Woman and I already want to go back and reread my favorite underlined parts. The 'Be Good to Yourself Breaks' at the end of each chapter are fantastic. After reading it, I felt more uplifted, more resolved and definitely more confident! I've ordered copies for my female collegues and my two daughters-in-law. I'm even considering a corporate seminar for women based on the themes of the book. No matter where you fall on the confidence pendulum, this book is for you! Thanks Marjorie. This one will be on my bedside table for a long time.

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