The Cult of Perfection: Making Peace with Your Inner Overachiever

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Twenty-four hours are simply not enough for all you do in a day. Your calendar is booked solid for the next six months. You set a higher standard for yourself than for everyone else, and you are never fully satisfied with your ...

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Overview

One in six women is an overachiever, constantly striving to get more done and do everything better and faster, while looking fabulous at all times—so if you are looking around the room at your five closest friends thinking they’re all slackers, it’s you!

Twenty-four hours are simply not enough for all you do in a day. Your calendar is booked solid for the next six months. You set a higher standard for yourself than for everyone else, and you are never fully satisfied with your life, because you can see how much more you can achieve. You are an overacheiver, and that can be a good thing.

The Cult of Perfection offers practical advice on how to monitor and ease your stress, prioritize your time, build lasting self-esteem, and always feel in control. The goal: To be at peace with your inner overachiever. Psychology and relationship expert (and self-professed overachiever) Cooper Lawrence reveals the positive aspects of an overachieving lifestyle, and how to make it work for you so that you don’t lose touch with family and friends . . . and your own sanity.
This book explores how personality, upbringing, and life events lead to overachieving, and how this drive has an impact on your home and family life, friendships, health, state of mind—and even your future.

Full of candid personal stories from fellow overachievers, The Cult of Perfection confirms that you are not alone in your quest for the best. Informative quizzes, tips, and “to do” lists all provide empowering tools for effectively managing your busy lifestyle.

So set aside some time in your schedule, step off the treadmill, and learn how to delegate, balance your needs, set priorities—and discover that you’re so much more than your achievements.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781599211794
  • Publisher: skirt!
  • Publication date: 1/1/2008
  • Edition description: First
  • Pages: 256
  • Product dimensions: 6.10 (w) x 9.10 (h) x 1.10 (d)

Meet the Author

COOPER LAWRENCE is an expert on celebrity culture and fame. With an M.A. in developmental psychology, years of research, and a doctorate near completion she is the fame expert on the new VH1 'Celebreality' TV show Confessions of a Teen Idol slated for 2009.  Cooper hosts the nationally syndicated talk radio show, The Cooper Lawrence Show from Dial Global Cooper is a favorite guest of CNN Headline News's Showbiz Tonight, Fox News Channel, and The Tyra Banks Show as well as other shows including, The Today Show, The Early Show, CNN, The O'Reilly Factor, Your World with Neil Cavuto, Hannity & Colmes, Fox & Friends, The Insider, and on E! Entertainment Television. She has been featured in print for the New York Post, New York Daily News, Chicago Tribune, IN STYLE, SELF, Parenting, Cosmopolitan, Family Circle, OK! Magazine, US Weekly, Life & Style, Star Magazine, In Touch Weekly, The Huffington Post and CosmoGIRL!

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One of the challenges of being an overachiever and trying to maintain healthy friendships is that we judge ourselves at an impossibly high level, and we tend to judge our friends at that same level. If they don’t measure up, we are disappointed; we expected more from them. If you’re driven to perfect your life, that’s cool, but just be aware that it may be driving your friends bananas. Perhaps they’re so easygoing they don’t mind that you have expectations even St Frances Xavier Cabrini would fail to live up to. But that doesn’t quell your anxiety – in fact, it makes you wonder if it’s time for new friends who aren’t so laid-back. It’s not, because this is your issue, and it’s time you asked yourself whether anybody can live up to your expectations. You need to step back and judge clearly whether your friends have truly failed you or, like the rest of us, are simply flawed human beings (albeit ones who would give you the last piece of chocolate cake regardless of how PMS they are feeling that day).

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Table of Contents


Introduction     1
What Is an Overachiever?
Defining "Overachiever"     9
How Does Overachieving Affect Your Life?
The Effect on Your Home and Family Life     33
The Effect on Your Friendships     55
The Effect on Your Health     73
The Effect on Your State of Mind     95
The Effect on Your Future     115
What Made You an Overachiever?
The Role of Personality     135
The Role of Upbringing     151
The Influence of Self-Esteem     175
Life Events as Triggers for Overachieving     199
Overachieving Out of Necessity     223
Conclusion     243
Acknowledgments     246
About the Author     247
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One in six women is an overachiever, constantly striving to get more done and do everything better and faster, while looking fabulous at all times—so if you are looking around the room at your five closest friends thinking they’re all slackers, it’s you!

Twenty-four hours are simply not enough for all you do in a day. Your calendar is booked solid for the next six months. You set a higher standard for yourself than for everyone else, and you are never fully satisfied with your life, because you can see how much more you can achieve. You are an overacheiver, and that can be a
good thing.

The Cult of Perfection offers practical advice on how to monitor and ease your stress, prioritize your time, build lasting self-esteem, and always feel in control. The goal: To be at peace with your inner overachiever. Psychology and relationship expert (and self-professed overachiever) Cooper Lawrence reveals the positive aspects of an overachieving lifestyle, and how to make it work for you so that you don’t lose touch with family and friends . . . and your own sanity.
This book explores how personality, upbringing, and life events lead to overachieving, and how this drive has an impact on your home and family life, friendships, health, state of mind—and even your future.

Full of candid personal stories from fellow overachievers, The Cult of Perfection confirms that you are not alone in your quest for the best. Informative quizzes, tips, and “to do” lists all provide empowering tools for effectively managing your busy lifestyle.

So set aside some time in your schedule, step off the treadmill, and learn how todelegate, balance your needs, set priorities—and discover that you’re so much more than your achievements.
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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 27, 2008

    Horrid

    I can't believe this book was made. What a waste of tree life. We lost out on oxygen due to this monstrosity. I don't know where this woman gets off telling women to sleep with everyone they see. This 'women' needs to get her head examined and she needs to keep her certain ways to herself.

    9 out of 11 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 19, 2008

    Much better stuff out there

    I purchased this title as a gift for my mother, as she is a successful driven business woman who would be able to glean any useful information from almost any publish work. After she completed it, she told me that this book unfortunately falls into the small group of works categorized as 'completely useless'. Not only are the theories and suggestions completely unresearched and unsupported, she uses her on-air personality as a means to make her statements credible. There are many books available on the subject that are far superior, I see no reason to waste the money to purchase or time to read this one.

    8 out of 10 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 26, 2008

    Garbage

    This book is a pointless read and filled with old, rehashed ideas. Cooper Lawrence offers no new insight to the deeper problems that cause someone to need to be an over achiever. There are many other books out there that were written by actual practicing psychologists and which are respected by the psychological community at large. I seriously recommend Codependent No More by Melody Beattie for anyone that stuggles with this. Also, going to an actual licensed psychologist may be the answer. Please don't contribute to the rash of pop psychology that promises quick fixes and delivers little or no results.

    8 out of 10 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 2, 2010

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    Please don't buy this book!

    This book is a pointless read and deserves to be burned. This so called "psychologist" is not more so one than you or me. (she is a fraudulent pop psychologist who attempts to appeal to readers with quick fixes and just plain dumb ideas. Don't be fooled!

    7 out of 7 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 31, 2009

    Lawrence Cooper

    The clear ignorance of Lawrence is fully acknowledged when she enters a debate on national television with no prior knowledge or substantial research of the subject she is debating. Would you read a book written by someone with such low credibility?

    7 out of 7 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted August 9, 2010

    Useless tripe

    This book gave me hope, if something this bad can be published then I might have a lucrative career as an author.
    This waste of paper offends me, it isn't just the pseudo psychology but the fact this idiot is been put forward as a role model.
    Disgusting.
    If you think this is empowering then you need to get yourself checked, preferably by a REAL psychologist.

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted October 20, 2009

    Cult of Perfection more like Cult of Fake Science

    This self help book is the worst kind of popular tripe that I have ever read. It's written in a language "anybody can understand" i.e. the lowest common denominator. Page after page is written by someone with a garden variety degree in psychology and it shows. Grammatical errors abound everywhere. I cannot recommend this book to anybody until the author rewrites major portions throughout. "The Cult of Perfection" reads more like "The Cult of Fake Science." No substance, sloppy organization, and barely coherent. Grade F.

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 13, 2012

    OUCH dont read this it is a waste of time. I heard from FOX this

    OUCH dont read this it is a waste of time. I heard from FOX this book was good but holy cow were they wrong

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted March 12, 2012

    This book is actually nothing more than pornography in disuguise

    This book is actually nothing more than pornography in disuguise. Be warned, keep children away! This book contains extreme objectionable, sexual content including graphic descriptions and even depictions of sexual activity in a way that is very demeaning to women. I haven't actually read the book, but some random stranger told me it was basically like pornography and warned me of the MASS EFFECT it could have if children (or even you) were to ever have the misfortune of reading it so it MUST be true. Frankly, I could get more fun drilling my eyeballs out than I could from reading your dirty, sexually-explicit, mysoginistic waste of tree life that you pass off as a book.

    Filth!

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted March 7, 2012

    My personal opinion of this book is that it would be awful but I

    My personal opinion of this book is that it would be awful but I haven't read it.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 7, 2008

    A Lot of women make sense to me now

    After years of dating overachieving women this book has allowed me to come to grips with why I have and what was so alluring about this type of woman. Not just a chick-lit book

    2 out of 10 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted March 19, 2012

    1.5 stars? Unacceptable!

    This review is a tribute to ME3.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 11, 2013

    After taking the book from a friend of mine, I started to read t

    After taking the book from a friend of mine, I started to read this and I may say it's really really bad! Reasons: Old cliches and  rehashed ideas!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 6, 2012

    Literally the worst book i have ever read. this book shocked me

    Literally the worst book i have ever read. this book shocked me so badly it had a mass effect on me. Sexist drivel the author should be ashamed

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