The Dating Manifesto: A Drama-Free Plan for Pursuing Marriage with Purpose

by Lisa Anderson

Overview

Your attitudes about marriage and the path to marriage are wrong. Some you’ve inherited, some you’ve simply bought—hook, line, and sinker—and some you’ve made up yourself. They have translated into bad action (or no action) in dating and relationships. But it’s not too late; you can break the cycle of dating dysfunction and learn to honor marriage, marry well, and live intentionally while you wait. Lisa Anderson proves it’s possible.

The Dating Manifesto is neither a cheesy formula for finding a spouse nor a feel-good book about how the person for you is “out there” if you only “believe.”Instead, it’s a challenge to wise up, own your junk, and chart a bold new course for your relationship future.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781434709356
Publisher:	David C Cook
Publication date:	08/01/2015
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	240
File size:	3 MB

About the Author

Lisa Anderson is director of young adults for Focus on the Family and host of the popular weekly radio program and podcast The Boundless Show. Her writing is featured in newspapers, magazines, and at Boundless.org. Lisa is a frequent guest on radio and TV programs, and she speaks around the world about relationships, faith, and the many challenges facing today’s young adults. She lives in Colorado Springs, Colorado.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 13

Prologue: No Single Riders 17

Chapter 1 Where Did I Go Wrong? 27

Chapter 2 What's the Big Deal about Marriage? 39

Chapter 3 Ditch the Hollywood Script 53

Chapter 4 Five Reasons Your Love Life Is a Disaster (or Doesn't Exist) 67

Chapter 5 Are You Marriageable? 89

Chapter 6 Prevent Dating Death 103

Chapter 7 "Soooo, How Do I Actually Start Dating?" 115

Chapter 8 Get Your Numbers Up 137

Chapter 9 It's Okay to Grieve 163

Chapter 10 Live a Little (Okay, Live a Lot) 177

Chapter 11 "God Is Sovereign … So, Whatever" 191

Afterword: A Note to the Church, Parents, Oldsters, and Married Peeps in General 201

Notes 223

Group Discussion Questions 229

What People are Saying About This

Brant Hansen

“Lisa Anderson is one of those delightfully blunt people who makes you laugh and think. She’s funny and smart. But better than that: She has wisdom to offer. And—especially when it comes to relationship issues—that’s in short supply. It’s worth buying this book for chapter 11 alone. People need to hear this.”
Brant Hansen, radio host, author of Unoffendable, and storyteller for CURE International

Gary Thomas

“A wise book from a woman who understands the pressures of Christian dating and singleness as well as anyone in the world. Lisa’s fun personality, concern for others, depth of thought, and no-nonsense approach to life and love are on full display. I loved The Dating Manifesto and am giving a copy to both my daughters.”
Gary Thomas, author of Sacred Marriage and The Sacred Search

Jim Daly

“Lisa is saying what few others—married or single—in the church are willing to say. I appreciate the wit, wisdom, and candor that she brings to Focus on the Family’s Boundless ministry on a daily basis. The Dating Manifesto is essential reading for single men and women, as well as for anyone who cares about them.”
Jim Daly, president of Focus on the Family

Debra Fileta

“Reading The Dating Manifesto is like sitting down for a cup of coffee with an older, wiser, funnier friend! Lisa challenges singles to stop making excuses and start taking responsibility for their lives and relationships. If you’re single, this is a book that will both challenge you and encourage you.”
Debra Fileta, MA, LPC, author of True Love Dates, TrueLoveDates.com

Editorial Reviews

“Lisa is saying what few others—married or single—in the church are willing to say. I appreciate the wit, wisdom, and candor that she brings to Focus on the Family’s Boundless ministry on a daily basis. The Dating Manifesto is essential reading for single men and women, as well as for anyone who cares about them.”
Jim Daly, president of Focus on the Family

Jim Daly

“Reading The Dating Manifesto is like sitting down for a cup of coffee with an older, wiser, funnier friend! Lisa challenges singles to stop making excuses and start taking responsibility for their lives and relationships. If you’re single, this is a book that will both challenge you and encourage you.”
Debra Fileta, MA, LPC, author of True Love Dates, TrueLoveDates.com

Debra Fileta

“A wise book from a woman who understands the pressures of Christian dating and singleness as well as anyone in the world. Lisa’s fun personality, concern for others, depth of thought, and no-nonsense approach to life and love are on full display. I loved The Dating Manifesto and am giving a copy to both my daughters.”
Gary Thomas, author of Sacred Marriage and The Sacred Search

Gary Thomas

“Lisa Anderson is one of those delightfully blunt people who makes you laugh and think. She’s funny and smart. But better than that: She has wisdom to offer. And—especially when it comes to relationship issues—that’s in short supply. It’s worth buying this book for chapter 11 alone. People need to hear this.”
Brant Hansen, radio host, author of Unoffendable, and storyteller for CURE International

Brant Hansen