The Erotic Silence of the American Wife [NOOK Book]

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Overview

Told in women’s own words, this revolutionary book broke the silence surrounding women and adultery
Dalma Heyn knows that wives have affairs—and why. She’s spoken with hundreds of women who, desperate to break free of their quest to be the stereotypical “perfect wife,” have reluctantly looked outside their marriages to find the pleasure and connection that eluded them. Her extensive first-person interviews and compelling case stories present a nuanced view of women’s sexuality and marriage. Heyn contextualizes these stories with a critique of the cultural expectations placed on women by literature, experts, the institution of marriage, and ...

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Overview

Told in women’s own words, this revolutionary book broke the silence surrounding women and adultery
Dalma Heyn knows that wives have affairs—and why. She’s spoken with hundreds of women who, desperate to break free of their quest to be the stereotypical “perfect wife,” have reluctantly looked outside their marriages to find the pleasure and connection that eluded them. Her extensive first-person interviews and compelling case stories present a nuanced view of women’s sexuality and marriage. Heyn contextualizes these stories with a critique of the cultural expectations placed on women by literature, experts, the institution of marriage, and themselves. Shocking and revelatory, The Erotic Silence of the American Wife is a groundbreaking book as vital to understanding marriage—and its unspoken effects on women’s and men’s relationships—as it was when it was first published. This ebook features an introduction by Dalma Heyn and an illustrated biography including rare photos from the author’s personal collection.

This riveting book shatters the silence about married women and adultery today and challenges every myth about women's sexuality. Based on hundreds of intimate, in-depth interviews with married women who have had affairs, this insightful book may startle you, shock you, profoundly unsettle you, or even, perhaps, inspire you.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
Women having, or about to embark on, an extramarital affair will find emotional support in Heyn's nonjudgmental profiles of adulterous wives. From her own informal survey, she concludes that affairs may improve some marriages, particularly those in which women aspire to the idealized role of the ``perfect wife.'' Sex columnist for Mademoiselle, Heyn uses interviews and case histories to glowingly portray wives who, in their secret romances, feel powerful, equal, reintegrated with their sexual selves. She wrestles with the question of whether a wife should tell her husband about an affair and analyzes the varied effects of adultery on marriage. This formulaic book is buttressed by literary examples ranging from Flaubert to Erica Jong, and by frequent summaries of other studies of marriage and adultery. First serial to McCall's, Elle and Mademoiselle; Literary Guild featured alternate; author tour. (June)
Library Journal
This book is about women in adulterous relationships. Using data from first - person interviews, Heyn explodes the usual myths about why women have extramarital affairs. Within a society that believes women have affairs only if they are bad women, or if their husbands ``deserve'' it, etc., and that adulterous wives feel overwhelmingly guilty as a result, Heyn uncovers a different tale. Women who expected themselves to be monogamous and committed to being perfect wives found themselves, for varying reasons, in extra-marital relationships that brought them much pleasure; a renewed sense of sexuality, vitality, and autonomy; and very little guilt. Readers, especially women, will find the book interesting and thought-provoking.-- Bonnie Hoffman, Stony Brook, N.Y.

Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781453211595
  • Publisher: Open Road Publishing
  • Publication date: 2/8/2011
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 320
  • Sales rank: 250,265
  • File size: 1 MB
  • Items ship to U.S, APO/FPO and U.S. Protectorate addresses.

Meet the Author

Dalma Heyn, who earned her master’s degree in social work at New York University, has been writing about love, marriage and relationships for twenty-five years. She is the bestselling author of The Erotic Silence of the American Wife, Marriage Shock, and Drama Kings, as well as the host of the regionally broadcast television program The Love Goddess Show. She is the former editor in chief of Health magazine, executive editor of McCall’s, and columnist for Mademoiselle and New Woman. She has appeared as a social commentator and guest author on Oprah, Good Morning America, Today, and The View, among others.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 31, 2012

    Better than I could have expected...

    When I read this book many years ago - something about it struck a cord. I'm not married or never have been, but it thought it had something profound to say. I could not put the book down. Heyn had compiled stories of women and gave them their sexual voice.
    Every time it I cleaned and threw things away in my apt. this book would stay on the shelf or get moved around. I just couldn't part with it.

    The stories are daring and brave. I don't condone affairs but i understand them. And i thought these women were forthright and honest. Able to express what had been buried for so long. I was open enough to listen to them tell their stories, their joys and their torment and in that i felt deeply moved..

    I just don't think women should feel the need to be silent about their sexuality or feel selfish about expressing it. I commend Heyn for compiling these and believing it was worth enough for others to read.

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