The Forever Marriage

The Forever Marriage

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by Ann Bauer

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"Phenomenal" (Garrison Keillor) storyteller Ann Bauer brings to life the tale of one faithless widow. Carmen wishes Jobe, the husband she never loved, dead —only to fall in love with him after he is gone.
As she helps her three children grieve, she discovers, after a tryst with her most recent lover, that her own life may be in danger. Heremotions reeling,


"Phenomenal" (Garrison Keillor) storyteller Ann Bauer brings to life the tale of one faithless widow. Carmen wishes Jobe, the husband she never loved, dead —only to fall in love with him after he is gone.
As she helps her three children grieve, she discovers, after a tryst with her most recent lover, that her own life may be in danger. Heremotions reeling, Carmen reflects on the fateful days of her youth that made her the person she has become: privileged suburban wife, unfaithful widow, mother of a child with Down syndrome, fierce friend. The Forever Marriage is at its heart a mystery, and the mystery is what, exactly, the nature of Carmen and Jobe's marriage might have been. Page-turning and irreverent, The Forever Marriage is a compelling examination of a relationship and of a woman facing up to her imperfect past. It meritscomparison to the best work of Anne Tyler, Elizabeth Berg, and Alice Sebold.

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Publishers Weekly
With quiet power, Bauer explores the isolation, betrayal, duty, and, finally, compassion that constitute an unhappy marriage. When Carmen Garrett’s husband, Jobe, dies, she finally feels the reprieve she’s spent her 21-year marriage waiting for. She and Jobe had been profoundly ill-suited: Jobe, a solemn and awkward math prodigy, had been intimidated by the potency of Carmen’s desires, while Carmen had been bound to Jobe by gratitude and obligation rather than love. Carmen—an unfaithful wife and the loving but resentful mother of three children—is an unlikely sympathetic figure, yet she is unsparingly, at times laceratingly, candid about her own shortcomings, and is disoriented by the loss she feels for a man she has spent her adult life wishing away. Only weeks after Jobe dies of lymphoma, Carmen is diagnosed with breast cancer, accepting the turn of events with the grim equanimity of a convict submitting to a death sentence. With lovely prose and fine pacing, Bauer (A Wild Ride Up the Cupboards) offers a sensitive portrait of a flawed woman coming to terms with a lifetime of regrets. Agent: Esmond Harmsworth, the Zachary Shuster Harmsworth Agency. (June)
The Washington Post
A triumph of good writing.
Entertainment Weekly
Bauer expertly maps the ferocity and anguish of a parent's love . . . Exceptional storytelling.
Written in a contemporary style that evokes the work of Anne Tyler, this is not only a well-nuanced story of youthful mistakes and adult consequences but also an unflinching look at one woman's fight against breast cancer.
St. Paul Pioneer Press
Summarizing the plot of this richly layered and nuanced story could leave an impression that it's grim. It isn't. The novel is infused with a sense of grace and redemption for characters Bauer makes us care about.
Minneapolis Star Tribune
Compelling . . . Bauer and The Forever Marriage poignantly and powerfully illustrate the great and often tragic ironies of life . . . a perfect read.
More Magazine
Funny, surprising and gratifyingly honest, this novel poses unsparing questions about love and betrayal and the reasons we make the choices we do.
While in many ways a quiet story with a subtle arc, it is also an emotionally powerful page-turner—memorable and exquisitely written.
Library Journal
Many times Carmen Garrett almost left her husband, Jobe, a brilliant but rather passive professor of higher mathematics. An extremely sensual person, she married him knowing they had little sexual chemistry. Not long after their honeymoon, she became pregnant and gave birth to a Down syndrome child, Luca. Two more children follow, and Carmen struggles with the sense that she's living a "false happy life." When Jobe dies of cancer after 21 years of marriage, Carmen thinks she will finally feel free. But widowhood and single parenthood are more complicated than she'd expected. In many ways, Carmen misses Jobe. When her lover, reference librarian Danny, finds a lump in Carmen's breast, her own battle with cancer begins. A subplot involving Jobe's lifelong quest to solve a mathematical theorem adds variety to this highly emotional novel. VERDICT Bauer (A Wild Ride Up the Cupboards) deftly draws all the characters. Love or hate Carmen, readers won't soon forget the hot-blooded woman, and fans of Elizabeth Berg will want to meet her.—Keddy Ann Outlaw, formerly with Harris Cty. P.L., Houston, TX
Kirkus Reviews
Bauer's second novel (A Wild Ride Up the Cupboards, 2005) offers an introspective study of a woman as she embarks on a journey of self-discovery. Narcissistic Carmen Garrett is newly widowed. Married to her brilliant husband, Jobe, for more than 20 years, she has been waiting for him to die so that she can begin to live her life. She and Jobe meet when he is a graduate student in England, where she travels after the death of her mother. After returning to the United States, he invites Carmen to visit his family in Baltimore, and Carmen remains there as a guest of the Garretts, who also pay for her last year of college when she can't do so. Upon graduation--Jobe with his doctorate and Carmen with her bachelor's degree--the two marry. Although Carmen never loves the socially and physically awkward mathematician, their marriage produces three children. At the time of Jobe's death from leukemia, Luca, their Down Syndrome son, is 20 years old; highly intelligent Siena is 17 years old; and young Michael is 12. Carmen wants to help her children cope with the loss of their father, but she is relieved that she no longer has to live with the subterfuge of their marriage. She's not only wealthy from Jobe's life insurance, but she is free to continue her affair with Danny. But the diagnosis of her own life-threatening illness causes Carmen to closely examine the choices and the emotions that have shaped her marriage and her life. As she faces her own mortality, she must also face her past. At times dispassionate and self-absorbed and at other times emotional and selfless, Carmen follows a path of self-discovery that is often painful, poignant and undeniably real. Bauer crafts an insightful story that is uncomfortable and bleak, but well-written. It's a journey well worth taking.

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The Overlook Press
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6.20(w) x 9.10(h) x 1.20(d)
Age Range:
18 Years

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Meet the Author

Ann Bauer is author of two novels, The Forever Marriage and A Wild Ride up the Cupboards, and co-author of the culinary memoir, Damn Good Food. Her essays have appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Elle, Redbook, and The Sun. From 2006 to 2010, she was a regular contributor to Salon. She splits her time between Minneapolis and Boston.

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The Forever Marriage 4.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 5 reviews.
BornWicked More than 1 year ago
A long wait since her first book, A Wild Ride up the Cupboards, but worth absolutely every moment I have waited. A can't put down book and my pick of the year.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
The main character in this book is so unlikeable I couldn't even read half this book. She has several affairs while she is married to a man that she never really loved. She continues an affair while he is dying of cancer. After he dies she is diagnosed with cancer. The reader suffers through her condition and practically in the same sentence she sexually describes another trist she has with her lover. Gross! This book plays out more like a crappy soap opera than as described as a forever marriage. Her parenting skills lack as well. Boring horrible book.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Really enjoyed this and did not see the twist coming so quickly to the self absorbed main character. Hope to see more from this author.
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