The Fussy Baby Book: Parenting Your High-Need Child From Birth to Age Five

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Does your baby fuss, cry, and want to be held all the time? Do you have an older child who's stubborn, opinionated, demanding - a real handful? Take heart. America's favorite childcare experts - the authors of The Baby Book and The Discipline Bookhave written a book just for you. In Parenting the Fussy Baby and High-Need Child, William and Martha Sears acknowledge the difficulties you face but show you how responsive parenting can turn these challenges into advantages for both you and your child. They demonstrate...
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Overview

Does your baby fuss, cry, and want to be held all the time? Do you have an older child who's stubborn, opinionated, demanding - a real handful? Take heart. America's favorite childcare experts - the authors of The Baby Book and The Discipline Bookhave written a book just for you. In Parenting the Fussy Baby and High-Need Child, William and Martha Sears acknowledge the difficulties you face but show you how responsive parenting can turn these challenges into advantages for both you and your child. They demonstrate that despite tough beginnings, these children develop wonderful sensitivity, confidence, trust, and other desirable qualities. In fact, the Searses prove that difficult children can provide the most rewarding parenting experiences of all.

"...explains how infections and food sensitivities can trigger infant fussiness and offers effective ways to cope with high-need personality traits in infants and older children."

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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
"High-need" babies crave touch and motion, can't self-soothe, have difficulty sleeping, nurse often and well into their toddler years and are intense, draining and demanding, say pediatrician Sears and his RN wife, parents of eight children and authors of The Birth Book and 12 other parenting titles. Informed by their experience with a high-need daughter and by observations of patients, the Searses outline how to handle such fussy babies, rehashing their theory of "attachment parenting"carrying the baby in a sling, nursing on demand, sharing the family bed and responding rather than letting the baby "cry it out," etc. Parents are encouraged to focus on the positive: a high-need baby, the authors say, "cries impressively" and "values being with you"; he or she isn't a "difficult sleeper" or "clingy." Desperate parents will be grateful for the many tips and the mommy-burnout survival list. But veteran moms and pops may have trouble swallowing some suggestions (bounce gently on a trampoline with baby). Readers may also yearn for substantiation of claims that fussers grow up to be confident, expressive, responsible teens and adults. Still, the authors' warm-fuzzy "You're okay, baby's okay" outlook may be just the right medicine for many anxious parents of demanding children. (Sept.)
Library Journal
William and Martha Sears, a pediatrician and a nurse, respectively, have written this book to provide guidance and support for parents of children who have high needs for comfort, feeding, and the like from birth. The authors cite both their own family experience and the stories of their patients and others. The guidance they provide flies in the face of parenting advice of the last several decades, but the positive results of high-touch, intensive, attachment parentinga concept the authors first introduced in Baby Book (LJ 2/1/93)are evident. This well-organized book will most likely appeal to educated baby-boomer, baby-buster parents. Recommended for consumer health collections.Mary J. Jarvis, Methodist Hosp. Medical Lib., Lubbock, Tex.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780316779166
  • Publisher: Little, Brown and Company
  • Publication date: 9/1/1996
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 256
  • Sales rank: 229,935
  • Product dimensions: 7.50 (w) x 9.25 (h) x 0.75 (d)

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments
A Word from Dr. Bill and Martha
Ch. 1 Hayden - Our High-Need Child 3
Ch. 2 Profile of a High-Need Baby 14
Ch. 3 Your Baby's Cry - What It Means, How to Listen 31
Ch. 4 Creative Ways to Soothe a Fussy Baby 49
Ch. 5 Feelings Shared by Parents of High-Need Children 71
Ch. 6 Seventeen Survival Tips for Parents of High-Need Children 86
Ch. 7 Mother Burnout 103
Ch. 8 Helping the High-Need Child Go to Sleep and Stay Asleep 114
Ch. 9 Feeding High-Need Children 131
Ch. 10 Hidden Causes of Fussiness in Infants 141
Ch. 11 The High-Need Thrill Ride 153
Ch. 12 Disciplining the High-Need Child 168
Ch. 13 How to Talk to and Listen to the High-Need Child 188
Ch. 14 The Payoff - for Children and for Parents 198
Ch. 15 Survivor's Stories 207
Index 233
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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 3, 2003

    If you are a parent you need this book!

    This book came to me in a time of much need. My husband and I have three children and the third one is very high need. From birth to 9 months the baby couldn't be put down, needed to nurse all the time- would not sleep through the night. I have read this book and been using the techniques and ideas and my burnout is less and the baby has slept 5-6 hour stretches through the night!!! AMAZING BOOK!!!! GOTTA HAVE!!!! This book is now the #1 baby shower gift I will give to every parent.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 22, 2000

    Every baby is high needs!

    Every baby needs to be parented in a high touch, high respect manner. This book is incredible to those whose family and friends are in disagreement to their 'Attachment Parenting' lifestyle. If only everyone would parent this way there might not be guns in schools and children crying out for attention.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 5, 2013

    This book helped me tremendously; "attachment parenting&quo

    This book helped me tremendously; "attachment parenting" just feels right, and in the case of a high-need baby, is the easiest way to go! (If there is such a thing as an easy way to go.) Dr. Sears gave me permission to listen to my intuition and respond to my baby freely.

    This book (and other books by the Sears') has been criticized for advocating attachment parenting as an "unrealistic", "anxiety-provoking", and "narrow-minded" parenting style. You know, I don't think that's what it is at all! Instead, the message I got was more along these lines: You've gotta be sane, or your kid's going to mirror back your frustration, which will make you more upset, and so on and so forth. Now, once you're sane and your needs are met, give as much of yourself to your child as you can! Be there for her. Advice repeated in this book several times: "If you resent it, CHANGE it." If you resent holding your baby all day, every day, you can figure out a better way for your family. As the Sears explain, if doing something makes you resent your baby, it is NOT going to help you bond; in fact, it will be a detriment to bonding as the baby will pick up on it.

    So I do what I can for my baby, and when I don't have any more to give, that's okay! This has made me a more relaxed parent. I am now able to see my daughter in a positive light!

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  • Posted April 11, 2012

    This book is a lifesaver!

    I wish I had found this book sooner! My newborn was crying constantly unless he was being held or breastfed. Everyone around us kept saying we were going to spoil him, and we were frustrated beyond belief. Then I found this book and my entire outlook changed. As I was reading I couldn't believe how perfectly my baby fit the profile of a high-needs baby. Reading about these babies and their unique needs helped me to understand why my baby behaves the way he does. There's nothing wrong with him and I'm not spoiling him. He has specific needs and I am addressing those needs in a nurturing manner. If your baby is fussy, demanding, challenging, and you don't know what to do or where to turn, I highly recommend this book.

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